So that they gain control over you.
I'm going to tell you all about that in this video,
so that you can spot them and
shut them down before they happen.
Hey there, I'm Rebecca Zung.
I'm a lawyer, I'm also a narcissist negotiation expert;
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So, in this video, I'm going to be giving you 12 gaslighting phrases.
I'm also going to be sharing with you what the tactics are.
The reason why narcissists use gaslighting is
because it is a way to weaken you,
it is a way to de-stabilize you, to confuse you,
make you actually question your own mind,
question your own sanity and
that's a way to get control over you and
especially when you're going to communicate with them,
deal with them, try to manage them and
be in a relationship with them,
whether it's a business relationship,
a personal relationship, family relationship, whatever it is,
it's a way to actually gain control over you and
by the way, they didn't choose you because you had so little value,
they chose you because you had so much value,
they love you because you had so much value,
even though they try to make it seem like you have so little value.
They love gaining control over somebody who has a lot of value,
it makes them feel even more powerful,
Think about it.
All right, so we're going to go through 12.
They're going to just flat out deny they even said something,
even though you know that they did and
again, it's a way to like,
“Wait a minute, what did they just say?”
And you're like, “No, I know you said that”,
they'll just flat-out say “I never said that”.
Something like that.
They’ll make you question your own feelings.
Again, it's questioning how you feel.
And again, I'm gonna just say to you,
you know what you need, you know what you feel,
you know what you heard,
so each time you hear something like this,
I want you to stop and think about it,
because what they're doing is trying to condition you and
I want you to stop the conditioning,
I want you to stop and know what you know,
know what you heard, know what you feel and
understand that all of those things that you're feeling
are totally valid, totally credible.
Even when they are confronted with proof that they made the statement,
that's like the whole crazy thing and
I’ve seen actual lawyers do this in court by the way,
even when they've been confronted with transcripts that they've said it,
they still deny that they've said it.
Crazy? Yes. But they've said that.
So they will deny that they've said something even if they've said it.
So, if they've been confronted with,
maybe something that they might have said
that seems like they may be cheating,
or something around that they've been flirtatious,
or something like that,
that is something that they will make,
again, making you feel like you should be questioning
how you feel or what you're seeing.
So, that's number five.
By the way, another video you may want to check out,
that's kind of similar that I did,
is called “Narcissists’ favorite words” and
you can definitely check that out as well.
You know you do.
So, I want you to write that in the comments below right now.
Something like, “Why don't you just sleep on it?”
or “Think about it for a few days?”
Or “Let's talk about it when you have a clear head”,
something like that,
“You're just imagining things”.
Or they add “Ha” to the end of a sentence,
they'll say something really painful and
they'll add “Ha” to the end of the sentence or they'll say,
“Oh, it was just a joke” or “Can't you take a joke?”,
something like that.
If you have a problem,
“Sorry you have a problem, but I don't have a problem”.
“It's not me”.
So in other words, you don't get to talk about,
whatever it was that you had an issue with,
“I don't like when you I brought that up”,
“I don't like how you brought that up”,
they'll just start gaslighting you about that,
“I don't like your tone”, that sort of thing.
Now, it's kind of acknowledging something maybe did happen,
“Let's just forget about it, let's just move on”,
“Let’s just sweep it all under the rug”,
“Let's just move on, why you want to dwell on the past?”,
“Let's just move on”,
“Let's just forget about all of this, clean slate,
Let's just start over”.
When you say “You have anger management issues”
or “Why are you so upset?” Or something like that.
Then, all of a sudden, they'll just be like,
“I'm not angry”,
after they've just had like a whole meltdown.
Because you're trying to bring something up about them and
now they turn it around on you,
“This is why no one likes you” and
again, it's just to manipulate you,
it's to try to mess with your head,
it's to destabilise you, to weaken you, to control you,
so that you aren't feeling good about yourself and
no wonder they're called energy vampires.
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I've helped millions of people through this channel and
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let me tell you something,
I'm going to give you a not-so-secret secret,
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It's true. Absolutely true.
I'm Rebecca Zung.
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Remember today's a great day to start negotiating your best life.