hi guys and happy 2019 it's been a while
I really miss whenever I can't post and
so this is just like a reunion for me
and it really means so much for whenever
you guys watch my videos and just the
friendships that I made out of this have
been so amazing and I love you guys so
with that said I hope that your 2019 is
off to a really good start mine pan him
with a fresh chopped I just cut my hair
when I was on vacation in Nashville and
Zack is fresh with a cold so I wanted to
tape something before I get it to I'm
doing everything I can to like disinfect
everything get good rest get both me and
him like lots of vitamins so we're
fighting through this but I still love
my hair is definitely different and I'm
just you know trying to figure out
different ways that I'm trying to style
it now I think I need to buy a flat iron
at this point but yeah I am really happy
with it
the girl who cut it is Mary Ellen Skye
who you guys might know from Instagram
she's just somebody that I've followed
for years and it just so happens that
she cuts hair so I went to her because
she's amazing yeah so definitely check
out her Instagram I'll leave a link down
in the description below other than that
there hasn't been too much new with me I
wanted to do a little video about how to
make 20 19 year year so these are eight
more or less things that I think that
would really help to kickstart anybody's
year and things that I want to be
mindful of I just read a few self-help
books too so I got so this advice from
those and you guys can follow me on
Goodreads where I just talked through
the different books that I've read did
not hit my goal for the books to read in
2018 I was going to read 12 and I got to
9 and a half so oh well wha-wha I'm
lowering my expectations Bashir I have a
list of them there on my phone so the
first one I wanted to say is to forgive
yourself
and to forgive other people so that's
two very different things but they're
one in the same in the fact that when I
feel like I'm not forgiving myself I
usually have like pings of guilt or like
hang-ups of why I didn't do things just
right it sucks even more when it's about
person like if I have a hang-up with
another person I want to move past that
and I want to forgive I want to let go
of things and not everything is
reconcilable but whenever I can I want
to reach out and make things better
which is not ever comfortable for me to
do but I just want 20-19 to be fresh and
new and to just let go of things that I
don't need to carry around with me you
know next is to set a health goal it
doesn't have to be anything too extreme
but it is really important to make your
goals measurable so what I'm planning to
do in 2019 and you guys can do this with
me if you'd like I'm gonna work out
every day for 20 minutes and by workout
it might even be just something very
gentle like a yoga session which not all
yoga sessions are gentle but something
that might not be high-intensity
workouts but just hitting that 20 minute
goal every day of being mindful of
working out or just doing something if
it's drinking enough water might be a
good goal for you that might just need
to be like an actual ounce measurement
of something that you can hit every day
but if you want to do the workout thing
with me then you definitely can I'm
doing it for 365 days so whenever you're
watching this it would just be 365 days
from whenever you want to start that
would help me so much to stick to it is
to just have somebody along the ride
with me because otherwise I just want to
you know make sure that I'm gonna do
that and not let it go but again that's
like a minimum of 20 minutes a day
that's something I know I can hit every
day it might be more than that if I'm
feeling extra spunky but that's what I
really want to do is a minimum of 20
minutes a day until December 31st will
be my last day and then I'll probably
keep going because it's a routine at
that point which brings me to my next
point which is routine so 2019 if you
actually make routines something that
you're intentionally doing then you're
gonna get so much further along on any
sort of goal that you want to set for
yourself you know having that rhythm
I've heard really helps with things that
you might be struggling with like
depression a lot of times routine can
really help just have that stability in
your day
I know that that would help me so much
to just have stability and probably more
energy to to just wake up at the same
time every day even on weekends and just
go to bed set a really mindful and you
know time to go to bed and wake up
refreshed that brings me to a book that
I just read which is not gonna get the
title right but it's something to do
with waking up at 5:00 a.m. and how that
can really help to get up and get going
and to knock some things off of your
checklist that you really want to do
every day and not miss out on that quiet
time in the morning so I'll link you
guys down in the description to that
book that I read because yeah I just
can't remember the title but I think
that that would be so helpful to have
routine and in that book he also says to
set a routine for days that are not
typical so maybe on a weekend a Saturday
doesn't have the same routine as a
Monday and so just making a list of
things to do on that day is really good
also I totally got my numbers wrong so
there are seven not eight next is to
make time for people who are uplifting
in your life like actually seek them out
and be friends with them and that will
actually make less time for people who
maybe aren't so helpful in your life or
maybe on the more toxic side there's
going to be people in your life no
matter what and it's important to be
able to like endure with other people
but it's so much better if you just
carve out time for someone who can
actually uplift you and one way that I
do that and it's a very small like
achievable thing to do is to text one
person that you know and love every
single week
so it doesn't have to be the same person
but just scroll through your list of
contacts in your phone pick one out of a
hat and just text them and say something
really small just one sentence so that
one sentence will actually turn into
probably more of a conversation in the
amount of times that I've done this with
other people it just kind of strengthens
those bonds that I typically just let
fall through the cracks and before I
know it I won't have talked to someone
for years and years and it's just like
how in the world does that happen so
that's one thing that I'm trying to do
that I think would be so good if you
want to actually connect with uplifting
people in your life somebody that means
a lot to you and actually I put that
right in my calendar so every Monday I
have it as an event that I need to do on
my to-do list and I keep all my to-do
list things in my calendar by the way so
every single time it reminds me with an
alert hey you text somebody and so then
that just makes me have long-lasting
friendships and makes me really put in
the time to do that
that one little sentence might actually
turn into you know going out to see that
person over coffee or anything one two
three four five the fifth one is to only
compare yourself to yourself and what I
mean by that is it's so easy to compare
yourself to other people but why I like
to do yearly challenges for myself
whether it's with personal style or
fitness or whatever it is is because I
probably because of my only child roots
I love to set goals and you know make
them even better this year and so what I
try to do is always tell all of my goals
for the year and I will actually
categorize them and make them into
things that I think I can achieve and so
by the end of the year
I've got like paragraphs of things that
I've achieved this year that were better
than last year and I can read back on
the paragraphs I've written for the past
like three years and think wow like I'm
so happy that I said goals for myself
and I achieved it and I feel like I'm
better off in 2019 than I was in those
past years so the goal there is to just
compare yourself to yourself don't worry
about what anyone else is doing I think
that I stopped being jealous of other
people when I realized that one person
that I actually was jealous of went
through something so incredibly hard and
just absolutely terrible and so what
that ended up meaning for me is if I'm
going to actually be jealous of someone
else I have to be jealous of everything
in their life and nobody has it as good
as someone else
my opinion I feel like if I'm going to
be someone else I have to kind of take
on all that that means every single
challenge that that means has that
person so that just kind of freed me up
from ever feeling jealous of anyone else
and I don't I honestly just don't
compare myself to anyone else anymore
and that has allowed me to just kind of
race against myself and that's my
suggestion is to just not compare
yourself to other people next is to make
a list of five things that matter most
in your life and to focus on them
throughout the entire year so that would
mean that I'm actually going to write
down five things that matter to me and
then I'm going to carve out time in my
day every day that makes that actually
something that is a priority in my life
so that just allows those things to
float to the top and then everything
else just kind of falls into place
you know if family's really important to
you as a great example because if that
is true then you're going to actually
spend time like quality time every day
with family or you know maybe family
isn't close by maybe that's something
that you would do with FaceTime or just
trying to get together more often or you
know maybe that means that in your
budget you might have to make some
adjustments but that's just one example
of what might be on your list of what is
most important to you and your day and
then you're gonna look back by the end
of the year and realize that the putting
like the top five things that mattered
most to you you can look back and see
how much time and you know effort that
you've invested into those things and
how much has like flourished from that
so that's what I would definitely
suggest for just trying to make this
year so much better for you
and finally my suggestion for how to
make 2019 your year is to find joy like
actually seek out the things that bring
you happiness and spend time in those so
it kind of goes along with the last one
where you're picking out things that
matter most to your life and then
investing in them and hopefully those
things bring you joy but finding joy is
something that I think is a choice it's
different than finding happiness
happiness and joy aren't necessarily the
same
thing joy is something more that you
have to invest in and choose to actually
lean into and be is joyful and that's
just one thing that I would recommend is
trying to make priorities in your life
and also just trying to actually spend
time on maybe you need some quiet time
in the morning or whatever it is that
really brings you joy and fulfillment I
would say to lean in on those things and
just conquer your day with trying to
seek out joy and choosing joy and then
if you find joy then the other six or so
however many items were in this list
will actually be easier for you to
actually achieve and that is my advice
for 2019 I hope it wasn't too mushy or
anything but I really had fun to talk
with you today to get back in this
rhythm of posting again I'm really
looking forward to some things there on
my schedule coming up in 2019 so don't
forget to subscribe if you haven't
already and I'll see you guys next time
bye