- If your friends threw you a birthday party
and there was a whole bunch of people there,
and there's all this attention that's coming at you,
are you able to receive that love and attention,
or do you kind of push it away?
This is something I realized in my own shadow recently,
where it's being afraid to shine or being afraid
to have the attention on you.
And you might look at me and you're like, well,
you make YouTube videos, you're in social media
and you have all this stuff going on,
so you're always putting yourself out there.
But I think it's like within a certain context,
like within the context of me making content
and adding value, it's very easy for me to do that,
but I've never really been the kind of person
that like wants the attention on me when it's like
a get together or even like a birthday party.
I've never really been a huge fan of like throwing
some crazy party for myself.
And recently I read a book that's called the Upper Limit.
It's not called the upper limit, what's it called?
It's called the Big Leap. (laughs)
It's called the Big Leap, by Gay Hendricks.
And in that book, it talks about something
called the upper limit problem.
And we all have an upper limit problem
that is keeping us from really making the big leap
into the next phase of our life,
into a new way that we can be.
And what I've recognized for myself is on one hand,
I'm moving into doing live events.
I'm moving into this new phase where there will be
more attention on me, but in a way, kind of pushing it away
or afraid of it.
And one of the reasons being is because it could be
a part of my own shadow.
Because one of the things that's it talks about in this book
is that many of us have these subconscious things
that hold us from stepping into our true power,
and one of them is this belief or this fear that if I jump
into this power, into this new version of myself,
then I'm going to outshine other people.
And I can dial this all the way back to my childhood
because I was the only child until I was
about three years old when my brother was born,
and the attention shifted from being on me to my brother,
and then from that point going forward,
I remember feeling unworthy, there a level where I felt like
I didn't want to outshine my brother, I remember that too.
So I would always put the attention off of me
and onto him.
And it was an interesting thing because I can see how
in my life I'm afraid of shining too bright because
it might either trigger other people or make other people
feel significant.
I think a lot of empaths have this ability to,
because empathic people can feel other people's energy,
and they want everyone else to be good.
And me being a one of four kids, my parents were divorced,
so I have a lot of brothers and sisters.
I was, I'm the oldest.
So I think that I was always trying to mitigate
and trying to balance out the family in a way,
becoming like a fixer.
But I can see how me not wanting to shine has caused me
to also have a block around me stepping into
this new phase of my life, like this new empowered
state of being.
So my question to you is, do you have
an upper limit problem?
Is there some level of identity, like a lot of times
with more abundance even, we're afraid that if we become
abundant, that we're going to leave our friends behind,
we're going to leave our family behind,
or we're somehow like stepping outside of what we should
be doing, because of our parents had to suffer,
then we also had to suffer.
You see, these are part of that upper limit problem
that it talks about in the book, but not wanting to shine
because you might make other people feel insignificant
is something that you can become aware of
and you can realize that the attention coming onto you,
it's their problem, that's their stuff, not yours,
if they get triggered by it, and you don't have
to try to mitigate how they feel.
But understand this as well, you can also reframe this.
I'm reframing this as what if I step into my mission,
my purpose, my passion by doing live events
and stuff like that.
And I'm this most empowered version of myself.
And what if that is able to empower other people
to then step into their power?
You see what the difference is there?
So it's like your energy is going to be contagious
no matter what, and if you're mitigating and trying
to play to someone else's frame, then that's also
like surrendering to someone else's energy,
but it's not authentic.
What's authentic is for you to be the bright person
you came here to be, to really shine your light.
And when you start shining your light,
what you'll find is that it does trigger other people.
But it will polarize people in a way to where
you attract the people or people that like you
or people that really like the real you,
and you repel away the people that wouldn't
really like you anyways.
When I started making videos on YouTube,
that was one thing I noticed is, it's a polarizing thing,
but I had some friends that thought it was weird,
I had some friends that maybe didn't vibe with it.
That's okay, this is the real me.
And I had some friends that it drew them
and even attracted new people into my life.
And funny enough now, now that a lot of people
are going through a spiritual awakening,
I have people reaching out to me that maybe at one point
thought it was weird, but now they're inspired and open
to it and excited because they're going through the process
of spiritual awakening or whatever they're going through.
But that can only happen when you're really shining
your light.
So my message for you today is to shine your light,
and to know that if you are afraid to shine it,
is that coming from some childhood experience
where you were afraid of out shining someone else?
You were afraid that if you put the attention on you,
that something bad may happen?
Some of us grew up and if we had attention, it was bad.
If we had attention, I meant we were in trouble.
But realize you're not in trouble for your attention now.
Realize that you came here to be bold.
You came here to express the real you.
And as you begin to embody that real you,
you will inspire other people as well.
I wouldn't be where I'm at today if I didn't take
and have the courage to step into a more empowered version
of me, where I'm making videos, I'm adding value.
But now I can see that I'm kind of in this comfort zone,
but the key now is for me to step into this new
empowered version of myself, doing live events,
and being in this space of realizing
where did the blocks come from?
90% of all transformation is awareness,
become aware of the childhood trauma or the childhood blocks
and realize that you can give yourself the emotion
that you crave, or the attention even that you crave,
you can give that to yourself, your own frame.
And when you're feeling safe in your own frame,
guess what?
Other people are magnetized to that,
but you're also feeling safe.
And when you're feeling that way, your energy is contagious
and you're also more clear and everything in your life
tends to change.
So that's my question to you.
Do you find that you have trouble absorbing
or having the attention put on you?
Do you find that you shine the light away from yourself?
And what are you going to do to really wire in
this new empowered version of you of shining your light?
Comment below, let me know.
Also, if you didn't know, there's a meditation
for raising your dominant vibration permanently,
it's one of the most powerful meditations on my channel.
If you listen for 21 days, I believe it
can completely transform your life.
I'm going to go ahead and link it below for you
and let that raise your vibration.
Other than that, like this video if you like
these shorter videos, let me know what you think,
I'll do more like this.
And as always peace, much love, namaste.