- [Narrator] Hey, Psych2goers.
Welcome back to another video.
Have you ever wondered
if you are surrounded by the right people?
Perhaps there are people in your inner circle of friends
who are only around when they need something.
Maybe you find that they always seem to agree
with everything you say and do,
or maybe they always like the same thing as you.
It's difficult to know whether someone
is a truly nice person or not,
especially if they always disguise themselves
as such around you.
Because of their seemingly nice behavior,
a lot of fake people get away with being labeled as good,
despite their toxic habits.
So to help you figure out whether the people
in your life are really good for you,
here are six common traits of fake, nice people.
Number one, the only respect people with power.
Have you ever noticed someone acting extra nice
when meeting people with a relatively high social status?
It's normal to behave differently
when interacting with people of a higher status,
for example, you wouldn't treat the Queen of England
the same way as you treat your friends.
However, if you notice that change
in behavior is too drastic,
chances are that person is a fake nice person.
As a general rule, you should always judge a person
by how they treat their subordinates, not their seniors.
By applying this general rule
you may just be able to determine
whether someone is a truly nice person
or just someone who is interested
in other people's power and status.
Number two, they pretend to try to please everyone.
Do you know someone who puts an incredible amount
of effort into pleasing everyone?
Because they want everyone to like them.
They can't stand the idea of being rejected.
This need to please everyone will make them say yes
to anything and everything that is asked of them
which often leads to them being label as nice and friendly.
But oftentimes you'll find
that they can't actually come through with their promises
whether it's because they've made too many promises
to too many people, or because they don't feel motivated
to fulfill what they had said.
People like this tend to disappoint in the end.
Number three, they desperately seek attention.
Are you friends with someone who always needs attention
before doing something nice?
Fake nice people are always desperate for attention.
So, they'll tend to do things to receive praise.
In contrast, genuinely nice people
aren't motivated by external factors
such as other people's approval or attention.
Instead, they're motivated by internal values.
So they'll do good things and help others
because they want to.
If you notice that your friends stop doing nice things
when you don't praise them for it
then it might be a sign that their behavior is not genuine.
Number four, they gossip and talk behind your back.
Do you have a friend who's always gossiping
and talking behind people's backs?
While everyone has the right
to express their opinions and say what they think,
gossiping and talking about someone behind their back
is a harmful way of attacking and damaging
someone's reputation and character.
Instead, people who are genuine
tend to express their emotions openly
and are willing to talk through their disagreement
with the person they're opposed to.
Number five, they disappear when you need them the most.
Can you think of a friend who is never around
when you need them the most?
This is a very common trait among people who are fake.
They tend to be there for you
only when they need something from you,
but never the other way around.
Whether it's asking you for a favor
or wanting to take part in your success,
fake nice people will only treat you well
when it's convenient and beneficial for them.
So you might want to avoid people like this
if you don't wanna end up in a one-sided relationship
where you are constantly taken for granted.
And number six, they avoid questions about themselves.
Have you ever talked to someone who constantly
avoided answering questions about themselves?
Fake people tend to put an extraordinary amount
of effort into avoiding any type of personal questions.
The reason for this has to do with their general goal
of wanting to be liked by everyone around them.
By not answering any personal questions
they effectively avoid the risk
of giving you the wrong impression or opinion of them.
So instead, they may try to redirect the question
towards you and then agree with whatever you say.
Do any of these traits describe someone you know?
Let us know in the comments below.
Ultimately it's always important to go with your gut.
All the points we've mentioned gives you a general idea
of what fake nice people might do in different situations,
but in the end, it all depends on how you feel about them.
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