- Hello Underachievers!
Hello!
I'm here with Corry today.
Say hi, Corry. - Hi, Corry.
- And just before we get into the video,
what should they do?
Should they listen to a particular song?
- Oh, they should stream "LALALA",
but also they should check out Noah Finnce Patreon,
at Noah Finnce's Patreon.
- And also the music video, correct?
- And also the music video and Sci Guys.
- Very good!
Today we are going to be taking love language tests!
Now, Corry, what is a love language?
You did a Sci Guys-- - French.
French is the language of love.
That'll land for people that are smart.
- Explain!
- Love languages were created by...
I've got the book!
- You could have just Googled it.
So?
- This is a book by Gary Chapman, called "The Five Love Languages".
He's a christian guy,
the love languages are ways that you experience love or give love.
Did you really just get the book to say that?
Right!
Okay, so, there are lots of different ways people accept and show love.
- Bingo.
- And today we're gonna find out how we do that.
- Let's do it!
- Let's do it. - On camera.
- Before we get into the test, you may be very confused:
What are the five love languages?
- Quality time. - One.
- Gifts. - Two.
- Touch. - Three.
- Doing tasks.
- Acts of service.
You're very good.
- Words of affirmation!
- Five love languages.
What do you think mine is?
- Yours is a touch.
A touch. - A touch.
- It's mostly touch. - Really?
- Yeah, you love that. - Okay.
- And you like little gifts also.
You like giving little gifts.
- I like giving gifts, that's true.
Is this about how I receive love or how I give love?
- It's about both, because the way that you give love
is often the way that you would like to receive love.
- No. - You do like little gifts.
- So, love language quiz, let's go!
Number one, how do you describe yourself?
- I'm an adult. - I'm an adult!
Number two, I'm in a relation-- - Single, relationship.
- "It's more meaningful to me when I receive a loving note/text/email
for no special reason from my loved one",
or "my partner and I hug".
- "My partner and I hug",
because whenever I get a "nice message for no reason",
it's always because you want me to give you attention.
- No!
No, it's not!
- I would say at least 60% to 80% of the time.
- A lot of the time it's because I've just taken in my Ritalin
and when I'm just taking my Ritalin,
I'm like, "I love everyone".
So if you get any messages around 11 AM--
- You were ill yesterday evening
and I got messages from you like, three or four times saying "I love you",
when really what you wanted was for me to talk to you.
- I did want attention that time.
That's just that one!
[ Corry Laughs ]
Depends what the hug is.
It's an actual hug? - You like an actual hug.
- Hug.
"It's more meaningful to me when I can spend a lot of time with my partner,
"just the two of us".
- We do that too much.
- Or, "my partner does something practical to help me out".
- Practical to help me out. - Definitely.
"It's more meaningful to me when my partner gives me a little gift
"as a token of our love for each other",
or "I get to spend uninterrupted leisure time with my partner".
- Again, we spend all of our time together.
I like when you get me a little gift.
- I'm good at giving little gifts!
- You get a little gifts and it's like, "oh, it's a fun surprise, what's this?"
- I don't really care about receiving little gifts.
I'm just gonna put the leisure one.
I want to say now that people think that the gifts one is very materialistic,
but the gifts don't need to cost anything.
You could find a cool rock and give it to your partner.
And that's giving a little gift.
- I do like the rocks.
- Yeah, you do like little gifts! - My mum gives me rocks all the time.
- We have a wealth of rocks in this house from your mom.
- I have a-- - It's not a bad thing.
- "It's more meaningful to me
"when my partner unexpectedly does something for me,
"like filling my car or doing the laundry",
or "my partner and I touch".
- I like the acts of service one.
I like it, when I'm like, "oh, God, this thing I've got to do",
and then it's done, that's really nice.
- I would still say touch.
I kind of feel guilty when you do things for me.
- You do feel guilty when I do--
- So, it is touch.
- You don't let me do things for you.
- Yes, because I feel guilty!
And then I have to return the favor.
"It's more meaningful to me when my partner
"puts that arm around me when we're in public".
No. "My partner surprises me with a gift".
- I like being surprised.
I like being surprised with a little--
It's like, "oh, that's fun, it's excitement!"
- I actually get stressed every time you touch me in public.
- Yeah, you don't like being touched in public.
- Try and touch my hand and be like, "bro, what are you doing?"
- Are you trying to-- - "Bro!"
Well, I'm just gonna say gift.
"It's more meaningful to me when I'm around my partner,
"even if we're not really doing anything".
"I hold hands with my partner".
- Nah, around, not doing anything.
Like, just chilling out.
Last night was great!
We did not do something together at all,
but we were in the same room for the entire night.
- That's true.
"It is more meaningful for me when my partner--"
Can you read these out as well?
- "It is more meaningful to me when my partner gives me a gift",
or "I hear 'I love you' from my partner".
- Probably the love you one.
- It is more meaningful, isn't it? - Yeah.
- I guess, yes, hearing it is more meaningful.
It usually doesn't mean that you want my attention,
because we're together and you've already got it.
- "It's more meaningful to me when
"I get the chance to just hang out with my partner",
or "I unexpectedly get small gifts from my partner".
- This is really difficult,
because we live together and we don't have jobs.
All we do is hang out.
And sometimes I get you nice little snacks that you didn't ask for.
- That's true, then small gifts.
"It's more meaningful to me when I get to things with my partner",
or "I hear supportive words for my partner".
"I hear supportive words". - I think "I hear supportive words".
Yeah, because all we do is do things...
- That's true-- - It's meaningless.
- Too much stuff.
- "It's more meaningful to me when my partner does things for me
"instead of just talking about doing nice things".
That's really passive aggressive!
Or, "I feel connected to my partner through a hug".
"Does things for me,
"instead of just talking about doing nice things".
- I...
Well, you don't usually just talk about doing nice things,
you just do them. - Yeah, so the hug.
Yeah, the trick is to not say you're gonna do the nice thing.
- Ah, but you feel so good when you're doing it.
"It's more meaningful to me when I hear praise from my partner",
or "my partner gives me something that shows
"they're really thinking about me".
The second one.
I don't like praise, I really don't enjoy it.
- Good, but I have to give it to you sometimes or you'll get sad.
- No, I don't need praise,
I need you to tell me that I'm silly when I think I'm bad.
Praise, to me, is like, "good job!"
The second one!
- "It's more meaningful to me when I'm able to just be around my partner",
or "when I get a back rub or massage from my partner".
"Back rub or massage", because you--
You never do that!
It's always like-- - You can ask!
- Yeah, I can ask and you'll be like...
- There's no fun! - "I don't wanna".
I'll give you a lovely back massage and you'll be like--
- When was the last time you gave me a back massage?
- Last time you asked for one. - That's true.
When was the last time you asked for one?
It seems we're both have fault.
Anyway!
- "It's more meaningful to me when my partner and I kissed frequently",
or "when I sense my partner is showing interest in the things I care about".
Showing interesting things I care about.
- Yeah. - That's so cool.
Do you know when you're like,
you're telling someone something and they're listening...?
And engaging?
- Tell me more about them, Pokémon.
- Oh, yeah! Yeah, no.
I will talk about Pokémon for hours on them.
- "It's more meaningful to me when my partner works on special projects with me
"that I have to complete",
or "my partner gives me an exciting gift".
- Works on special projects, yeah, absolutely.
Well, I say "special projects", I mean--
- Work. - I get that is all of our work.
It's just special projects.
But yeah, I really appreciate it.
"It's more meaningful to me when
"I'm complimented by my partner on my appearance",
or "when my partner takes the time to listen to me
"and really understand my feelings".
- The second one. - Number two, right?
- Right? - What can I help--?
[...]
Can you have a healthy--
- "Hey, tell me about how you feel".
- Can you have a healthy relationship when you value one over two?
"Oh, my partner never listens to my feelings,
"or understands how I feel,
"and they like, you know, they just don't get me".
- "But he said I got a good ass".
- "But they do think I'm hot".
Like, they said my [ ] are bangers!
- "It's more meaningful to me when my partners does a bit more
"than their normal share the responsibilities we share,
"around the house, work related".
Or, "I get a gift that I know my partner put thought into choosing".
The first one.
- You always put thought into choosing gifts.
I don't think there's ever been a gift-giving situation
where I have been disappointed.
- Oh, good.
- That stresses me out. Every year, I'm like, "oh, God".
- "I like it when my partner does a bit more
"than their normal share of the responsibilities we share,
"around the house, work related, etc".
- You like that. - I like that.
- I also like that. - I am picking that.
"It is more meaningful to me when
"my partner doesn't check their phone while we're talking".
I'm clicking that and I'm not even reading the second one.
I'm not reading-- - I, I, I...
- I know that I like that,
because you cannot have a conversation without checking your phone.
- I have ADHD...
I just need something to do with my hands.
- So, how long it took for me to train Noah
into not having a phone on him whilst we watch a film?
Like, every single film you would watch, you would be--
He'd be on his phone.
And I think it's when we sat down to watch "La La Land",
and he picked up his phone, and I was like, I paused it.
I was like, "no, we're watching this with our eyes for the entire time".
- It's just not enough!
The movies are slow, there's like, breaks and conversation--
It's just sometimes, there's just shot--
"Oh, look at that pretty mountain!"
I don't care!
"My partner goes out of their ways to do something
"that relieves pressure on me":
I prefer that.
- It's because I don't check my phone whilst we're talking.
"It's more meaningful to me when
"my partner brings me a little gift after they've been traveling without me".
You've never traveled without me.
Actually, you have, you went to Edinburgh.
You didn't brought me back anything.
Or "when my partner takes care of something I'm responsible to do
"but I feel too stressed to do at the time".
- That one! - That one, obviously.
- Why would I prefer to have like a little gift than for you to alleviate stress?
- Yeah!
Don't get me wrong, I love little gifts because like,
I like the surprise of like, "oh, yeah", it's fun
It's like short-term serotonin.
Whenever you see it, you're like, "oh!"
But then also, if I'm stressed and you do something for me,
that has just made my life easier.
- Yeah, and the gifts are not gonna fix problems.
It's like, from your baseline level here,
currently you are stressed, would you rather received a gift...
- And just pop back up and go back down...
Or less stress.
- "It's more meaningful to me when
"my partner doesn't interrupt me while I'm talking",
or "gift--" - What are you saying?
- "Gift giving is--"
The first one. - I hate when people--
Oh, my God!
Oh, my God, I was in an [...] the other day,
talking to a manager, and he kept on cutting me off.
- This is pasta pet peeve.
- I hate it. - It's way more than a pet--
- Like, I swear to God, if people--
And I will interrupt people because I'm broken, but...
I just I cannot take it when someone's really cutting me off--
- Really? Thats sucks--
- On purpose, constantly, I'm like, "shut up".
- You're speaking.
- You're not very good at this.
- "It's more meaningful to me when
"my partner helps me out when they know I'm already tired",
or "I get to go somewhere while spending time with my partner".
- "Helps me out when they know I'm already tired".
- We'd go everywhere!
- "It's more meaningful to me when my partner and I are physically intimate",
or "when my partner gives me a little gift
"that they picked up in the course of their normal day".
First one, do you really value little treats over sex?
I don't think you do.
I could have sex with anyone,
only you could get me a little treat over the course of your day.
- He clicked the sex one!
And I knew you were gonna do that!
- Not sex, it's physical intimacy.
This is physical intimacy.
- Yeah, I much prefer this.
- Oh, you are ill.
- That was my lip wet. - Oh, okay.
- Not my nose wet. - Okay, good to know which wet.
"It's more meaningful to me when
"my partner says something encouraging to me".
You go, girl.
- Or "I get to spend time in a shared activity or hobby with my partner".
- What hobbies do we share? - Climbing.
And we do enjoy watching shows... - That's not really a hobby, that's just--
- It's a hobby. - Okay, I guess.
- Watching films...? What else? We do have hobbies.
Listening to music? - Yeah, I like--
I like sharing spend time on hobbies together.
- Yeah, I don't need encouragement.
- "It's more meaningful to me--" - "To me!"
- Or not to me...
- I am your mother!
- [Both] I AM YOUR MOTHER!
- "More meaningful to me
"when my partner surprises me with a small token of their appreciation",
or "my partner and I touch a lot during the normal course of the day".
- We've already established that we don't appreciate each other,
so the second one.
- What? Oh, no, it's token of appreciation because we touch just all the time.
- No, we don't, not all the time.
You're upstairs, how am I supposed to touch you then?
- You still manage sometimes.
[ Laughs ]
"It's more meaningful to me when my partner helps me out,
"especially if I know they're already busy",
or "I hear my partner specifically tell me--"
"Your primary love language is...
"Acts of service".
Same, and then "quality time" and then "receiving gifts".
- Mine is acts of service, 33%, physical touch, 23%,
quality time, receiving gifts and words of affirmation.
- That makes total sense.
So, I'm 33% acts of service,
20% quality time,
20% receiving gifts,
13% words of affirmation and 13% physical touch.
- I can't believe words of affirmation is below receiving gifts,
because I feel like you need words of affirmation.
- I appreciate when nice things are said to me,
but I love a little gift!
Because you could say anything, right?
But like, if you're going through your course of your day
and then you see a thing, you're like, "oh, he would like that",
and then you get it and you bring it to me,
that shows it without words, right?
Actions speak so much louder than words.
- So I could really hurt your feelings and then give you a few gifts,
and you'd be like, "oh".
That's what the gifts are. - Yeah, sure.
You could be mean to me if you want.
Let's say you give me a gift of like, I don't know, a new iPhone.
I'd be like, "okay, sure".
Call me a [ ].
No, a new phone, that's second hand.
You don't have a new iPhone in this room.
You want to end your video?
- Yes, thank you for watching.
- No.
- We found out we both have acts of service as our top love language.
- Summarize something they just saw it, like, less than a minute ago.
- That's the end of the video!
Hope you enjoyed it, have a good day or don't.
See you late losers!
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You get lots of cool stuff. - Yeah!
- You still do that? - Yeah, I do, Jesus.
I haven't filmed in ages!
I am so small, I cannot reach the record.
Acts of service.
Acts of-- Acts of service!
Fine.
I actually can't reach it.