You go out to a place that there are 50 people they don't hold your hand they don't kiss you something is
happening right something weird like there is a beach there like come on you need to like show
that this is yours and then you know you need to touch it and kiss it like yeah normally [Music]
Hi my name is Carla I'm from Venezuela hi my name is Marcella and I'm from Mexico hey I'm Gabriela
and I'm from Chi hello my name is Bell I am from Brazil hi I'm Claudia and I'm from Peru [Music]
but rolling eyes though I'm just gonna start because you know I'm Venezuelan
and the stereotypes of Venezuela is like we are Miss Universe and we always need to be beautiful
even if you're going grocery shopping so it is a stereotype that I don't agree with but yes when
you go on a date you are like full Glam On like you literally can spend a lot of money going to
the salon for a guy that you don't even know like that's the truth in my family even like
my aunts and my mom are like you need to dress up like you don't even know like when you're gonna
find the love of your life and like they don't let you go like even to the grocery store or
something like without like looking nice and it's like like pretty you know which I think
that's part of the reason why we're always late I think and if I can add something about Venezuela
actually obviously because of the political situation like a lot of Venezuelans went to
Peru and honestly it changed things in my opinion for a lot of good things because Venezuelan girls
they look so good every single day that made us feel, Peruvians, like oh no like they're gonna
take our men you know we had to step our game 100 to start looking like good with the nails
like a lot of salons doing eyebrows before it was not that common so we were all like doing
their hours and stuff not only for women but for men as well like men started like doing
their lines here and getting haircuts and doing eyebrows because they are they were so machistas
before that they were not like going to a barber to do something to their face it was not a thing
You're welcome!
I'm from Rio so I'm from a hot City it's just the worst you need to look tan all the time and you
look attracted over time a lot of makeup it happens when you were little so it's in your
subconscious like what you said my grandma said to me the same I put a lipstick before
you go out you can find the love of your life oh you will never find a man if you dress like
this and then just it goes down to you when you go to high school every girl is doing makeup
in the class it's just it's so much effort to that that if you don't please a man in
the universe like if you're not pretty enough they will judge you in that like oh yeah if
you're smart like the girls they would call Smart they are not the pretty ones I don't
know if the rest of the countries in Latin America are the same but men in the streets
will like tell you a lot of compliments or whistle to you all the time like you
know you're going through a you know a group of men and they're gonna tell you something
and it starts back when you are very young like 12. started listening to them so it is things
like in the back of your head you're like okay I'm pretty you don't want like to get dressed or wear
makeup to receive those compliments but in the back of your head you are doing it too and when
you go around a group of men and they don't say anything to you you're like I'm not pretty enough
so there's a whole stories to end back here buckle up uh the thing is is that because Chilean men are
actually very shy and um it doesn't really work that women constantly walk down the streets with
too much on them like all the men that came up to me in Chile was when I was working at a
restaurant like sweaty and dirty when I was at the gym when I was just jogging that's where I
would be approached because the truth is women from day to day in Chile they tend to actually
go for a more natural look because it doesn't scare the men off now that being said I would
have stepped forward because after the fact when you do have your man it is all about the upkeep
you know because when you go on your dates oh you're going to look nice if you're invited
to the wedding you better look better than the bride like I mean and you better be all on and
yeah everything they said salon and hair and rip it all off and put it all on and make for sure
but that's after so when the question was like do you have to be expected to look like that all the
time it's like no because then you're going to scare the men away in my country in the resume
you need to put a picture and if you have like any tattoos you still want to go into details
but if they don't feel like your looks are part of their branch they are not gonna hire you for sure
in my country the woman should stand back and wait for the man to make the first move three two one
I don't agree but I don't agree the imagination of we need to wait until the guy come and if he's a
just a little sorry for the language you feel a little bit of [ __ ] he will never move exactly
yeah actually we agree and we like it that way and we want it to stay that way I mean the thing
is with Chilean dating is that a guy usually never asks unless there's a lot of flirtation first off
so we kind of already know but we really do like the man kind of making the first move and he will
you know oh why don't we finally go out on a date or do something like we live for that and I know
because I could talk to all my Chilean girls all the time that's not something that's going
to change and that's not something we actually want to change we like it that way Venezuela
it is uh very much even so it is like the male needs to do the first move but I feel like it it
shouldn't be like that like if you like somebody hi my name is Carla I like you you want to go out
with me and I feel like it's normal have you ever done that no but I will, I will - in the future [Laughter]
yeah Mexico a lot of like women like they are still expecting the same as in Chile
like they're like no the guys who actually asked me out and like even if like they don't ask you
to be their girlfriend it's like oh like we're nothing they need to wait until that guy asks
for like the girl to be boyfriend and girlfriend otherwise like they're nothing but I still is
I still think it's half better than all the Canadians that they just don't move at all oh
yes oh yes let's not go there please the man is expected to pay throughout dating three two one
laughs I'm going to speak about Venezuela at least we expect at least the first date you need to pay
that's not discussable like if you ask me to pay half of it I will do it but you will never see
my face ever again like not a text reply nothing like you need to pay the first one that's it like
no like there is no agreement there then in the second and third and you know later on it can be
you know agreeable essentially in a culture at least with all the guys I've dated and even with
the guys I did here because I changed them to my culture they pay for all the dates but there's a
reason behind that because I know that when I get invested in a relationship I'm going to be
inviting them for dinners I'm going to be making Foods I'm going to be baking treats I'm going to
be looking for little gifts I'm going to give them back rubs I'm going to plan dates I'm going to be
giving so much of myself which is time effort and money in the rest of the relationship that
it's just understanding that the men are going to pay for the nights out or the days out because
trust me there's a lot more work involved with day-to-day upkeep of the relationship then maybe
date night once or twice a week I think that's a very nice way to say it Brazil they've kind of
doing lit up the same the girls but it goes a bit different Brazil is a very toxic country I think so
girls that you need to look pretty all the time they need to have this high standards and I think
Brazilian girls it's just like okay you wanted me to be high very high maintenance of myself
and that cost my money so if we go out that you're gonna expose myself to your friends and everything
you pay for it because you don't know how hard it is to keep all of that because in the first moment
that I'm not interested in you anymore you're gonna look for down the next beautiful girl I
think that's the thing if you become honest about too many people like oh but they expect something
like everybody exactly I'm expecting something from the man when he takes me out I'm expecting
him to pay for the meal and it open doors for me it's going to be fair he's going to expect
me to be you know flirtatious or assuming we have chemistry and if we do listen I'm going to want
to reciprocate anyway everybody wants something people just need to accept that yeah we're allowed
to get some yeah no that's true I agree I guess for example in my country like it has not been
that long since women started working therefore it is like I don't know like my generation or my
mom's generation for example like we like to feel empowered that we have our own money and then we
work for it so every time for example I go on a date although obviously I wish the guy will pay
an entire bill I always say like hey they like to be when I like are you gonna take care of like I
just make that conversation I bring it up to say like you want to pay go half half you know like whatever
obviously expecting for him to pay most most of the time it happens and if I pay like I don't
get upset I'm actually feel like I got it but it gets me very upset when I go to restaurants
in Peru when they ring the bill they just give it to the guy and I'm like what you know like I
can figure too like if I would want to I would pay it you know but it I think it's just very
um sensitive improved for women because of the machista I like to do like if a guy pays a dinner
I would say okay can I I pay your ice cream then like yeah if a man comes on the first date and
he splits the bill what is the feeling that you get about the states like they are not putting
the effort it could be a twenty dollars bill it doesn't need to be 500 you know but if you are
not willing to pay 20 or whatever it is to see me again in a second date it's not worth it like
as she said like I've done my hair my makeup my nails high heels I probably shave my whole body
and you did absolutely nothing like you literally take a shower and put the other out put the water
on and go out and you cannot pay for me then you are not worth it you guys come back and buy this
is to be a guy who's like okay so you want to pay half I'm like oh so there's no chemistry you're
not interested you don't want to see me again I personally okay fine like 20 bucks to waste
my time but yeah that means okay this didn't work yeah I guess it's more like a friendship situation
like you're just going out and hanging out with a friend definitely like just like friend zone
from the first date if you pay half of it gender roles are still highly prevalent in my country
yes if you're in Brazil and you're a man you're allowed to date how many women's you want if I do
that I am a slut but bro you can go and climb all the fans and chase the new food why can I
not do the same I've never heard a man taking something in the bedroom we always need to do
it no like I'm all about like listen you are you know you are not doing it right you don't
know what you're doing and this is bad bad sex you need to like get out of my house that never
happens it's always with the women that's not in the first place in the second place if you
go out with a guy and you like the guy and you wanna [ __ ] him then go [ __ ] him in the first
day but what happened though if you do that you are you know a bad woman or whatever but that's
why like you have a body I have the same body and I feel the same way you feel so why is for
men good to have sex in the first day and not for women 100 I'm sorry sorry not only like about sex
but like for example food or cook you know like once you like I don't know like you do a good
recipe they're like oh you're ready to get married I'm like excuse me you know but like if guys can
I cannot cook they don't say anything but like we're expected at least in Peru like we need
to know how to cook how to treat our men like give them the food and I'm like I mean I want
my guy to do something as well you know if you can cook better because I don't
but you know what I do it for survival purposes I feel like in Mexico because it is also like a
very religious country for example women can cannot or should not get married
um without being virgin and like but the guys should like before like have sex or you know
like it's fine for women it's like oh no you need to be virgin until you get married and what if I
get married and like and it's bad and it's bad like I know women like old women I mean in their
40s 50 that got married that way that like they never had an orgasm in their lives until they got
divorced so in Chile it's there is an expectation and we're kind of okay with that but women that
are also kind of trying to find a balance by again not desiring so much more the kind of I
can do what you can do it's not about that it's more like just make me feel safe and respect me
more than anything so that's the thing even if you find women who are like oh we're fighting for
women because my friends always send me all these Chilean women power and all that but then as soon
as they meet a guy they're like and then again I baked him brownies and I took them to his house
I mean we have this we have those two sides drama jealousy in bursts of affection are a huge part of
a relationship in my country three two one can we move it forward jealousy drama passion uh physical
always touching holding hands I mean it's just so many different ways you can show love why wouldn't
you want to like use every single one of them yeah I've been in Venezuela is the same there is a lot
of love bombs that happen since the beginning of the relationship you can expect that I love
you at the second date or third day like that easy but then at the same time the fights and
the drama is gonna come big too so big fights big drama big jealousy and then you know big make out
and again like the huge roses and the huge like leave for you and then I'm gonna do it again I
love you forever whatever and then two days later you're fighting again and it's just a very toxic
I'm not gonna say all of them but I feel like we are very toxic in relationships sometimes and
when you see a marriage that is a you know those Gringos in the movies that are like
oh they've been married for like 30 years and they don't fight that's boring yeah you know
I have a theory though I mean I'm just trying to think of it but we are both like Latin America
South America we're so passionate about football not soccer food like the real one but I think like
you can see men like screaming out loud because of of the games and I do too like I love football
a lot so we're so passionate in everything that we do like we everything is Big that's true like
we love deep we love a lot we got jealous a lot like you know like the fights are a lot
in part like when you do makeup and you're you know like you fix things are also like good I
think we just bring everything to the extreme and that's something that here for example like other
like gringos don't understand that they always tell me like you feel a lot like I've never met
somebody that has so many feelings or that you express it so much and I'm like Latina you know
I just not only perform Peru I think it's mostly Latinos yeah I think it's the liners too yeah like
love is a Latino language like the words just like love and Latina like all our languages is
so many ways to describe love and then and other every other culture is so restrict yeah that I think
that's why we are like so like a hundred the way that everyone gives us too much love growing up
that's like where we see and then I agree I like a little bit fight like yeah yeah let's suppose you
you go out with your Latino boyfriend and you go to out to a place that there are 50 people
they don't hold your hand they don't kiss you something is happening right something weird
like there is a bitch there that is like come on something you need to like show that this
is yours and then you know you need to touch it and kiss it like yeah normally yeah as long as
you don't do a Chileans do which is they'll go to a park and pick a spot and just kind of like
do this and roll to one end and roll to the other and just do that back and forth for hours and you
know stuff might happen now that's too much for me or that's what we call what the fligos
do you know like low class people will roll around in the grass that's not for me but
definitely yeah if I've had dates here in Canada where if we're walking down the street and the
guy isn't like hold on pulling his arm around me like you know this is mine just like you don't
know anymore there's no point in us being together there's your little drama there's like you know
because as a woman as a Latin woman I'm gonna want my arms all over you that's just how it is
in telenovelas so like that's it it is there I wanted like 10 minutes of staring into my eyes look at me
touch me oh yeah like talk to me dirty and I'm like okay yes I'm probably gonna be mad at him
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