alright guys so a few videos ago I got a comments and somebody mentioned about
how they are 30 years old and they're still a virgin not only that
but they live at home with their parents and with all of these happening in their
life they kind of feel like it's hard to meet women and not only that but it's
almost difficult because living at home with their parents and just their point
of views their words maybe I was negative or not but they are affected by
their parents thoughts and views and to be honest I forgot what the whole
comment said but I want this video to kind of relate to anyone in this type of
boats or in this type of situation so I'm gonna theoretically paint a picture
for you guys a 30 year old virgin and again this is not my story this is not
about me but I'm sure that a lot of guys could relate to this type of situation
okay so the fact that you're a 30 the fact that you are 25 and up honestly
it's almost like those years of your life is when you start really kind of
like a midlife crisis I think they only call it a quarterlife crisis it's not
midlife yet I think midlife is like 40 or 50 I'm not
too sure regardless that is the age where you kind of look at everyone else
around you all your high school friends all your are your college friends even
and you just look at their life and you're like what the fuck they're
already married please shit they're it'd have two kids
like what the fuck they're there they're not even though they're living in New
York in a nice-ass apartment if you know what I'm saying it's like everyone seems
like they have it all figured out everyone seems like they are living the
best life they could there's something that you got to be aware of is that
everyone who posts on Instagram everyone who posts in their stories in facebook a
lot of times they're just posting the great moments all right and not only
that but they take pictures and videos that magnifies the reality of their life
okay so we just we just look at it as a misconception we're looking at it from
the outside we don't know the full story of what that person's life is like how
happy of their life are they actually living but regardless when you are at
this age and you see everyone else living their life we automatically are
gonna compare ourselves and again my friend who commented he's a virgin at 30
years old and also he lives with his parents and it's and it's understandable
why you can feel like you're behind or almost like a failure but it's where the
truth is no one ever fails at life if you think about it you're living your
life the only time anyone else is actually a failure
the only time someone is actually a failure is when they truly give up okay
when they've truly give up into what they are becoming when they say that
that's it I reached my my plateau on Who I am as a person when I reached my
physical capabilities I reached my financial capabilities I reached my
social capabilities that's it I'm never gonna grow any
stronger physically I'm never gonna get a better paying job or or income through
my own means you don't mean or you feel like you're never gonna meet you friends
or meet a girl that is the defeated attitude when you live in absolutes and
I want to say that is Abeyta mindsets so if you are in this type of situation
where you feel like you're behind in your life you are behind in who you are
and that it is the end for you you cannot grow any more then you need to be
aware that that is beta thinking that is beta mindset and it is not instagrams
fault it is not Facebook's fault it is not the fault of your parents it is the
fault of your thinking and the only way to remedy this or combat this type of
thinking is awareness I feel like I'm a broken record with and say this that
that self-awareness is a very important thing and it is so now that you are
aware that that type of thinking is beta that type of thinking is defeat you need
to pick on the role of low power I need to take on the role of calm alpha
masculinity a friend who commented said that it is hard to meet women the fact
that you are living at home with parents that is a lame-ass excuse my
friend alright and I'm gonna be honest man I live at home with my parents I'm
30-something now again I live with my parents my choice I have a great
relationship with them and also not only that but to me so I haven't be able to
save a lot of money and I'm putting this into my own business you know what I
mean I I choose not to I choose not to label myself a failure based on what I
think is acceptable by society and what is acceptable by society is keeping up
with the kardashians or keeping up with the Joneses as a man we think that
success is having lots of sex dating all the hottest women or dating lots of
women or being married or having a girlfriend you know or having your own
place having a nice car being well-known having the reputation that you're the
man that you're the cool guy and again why does that make us happy why do we
strive for that why do we want that and it is all under the realm of our ego we
just want to be validated by others and that is just misguided thinking that
is misguided vision of what you think is gonna make you happy
what is really needed man what is really neat is that you need to just accept
where you are in life right now okay I think that's the first step to improving
your life if you are in this situation is just accept it accept that you are
who you are that you look like you look okay and that you are at home with your
parents and that you are at this age too and not only that but now that you are
accepting of it now you can build from it's okay the longer that you start
blaming the longer that you start regretting it is literally breaking your
soul you are putting yourself lower into the capabilities of becoming more so I
think the fuel I think the fuel for change is gratitude
I think the fuel for change is is self-love and gratitude of where you are
and what you can become so yeah if you're
our third year old virgin embrace it embrace the fact that you're a 3000
version if you think that that is the problem and that is a drawback to you
talking to girls honestly the next time you're talking to
a girl tell her hey you know I'm a third year old virgin see their reaction that
could be almost like an ice breaker if you think that she's someone that you
were attracted to you possibly want to date I would I would still tell her you
know and me but don't tell her like I'm a third year old virgin
no Manik be be be own it all that shit but not in a sad way like an happy way I
would probably say guess what I'm actually a 30-hour version isn't that
freaking crazy like I wouldn't make it a bad thing
people read your energy if you say a compliment or say something about
yourself with a negative energy they're gonna fucking feel sorry for you they're
gonna feel bad for you okay and again guys like I'm 30-something and I'll even
call my parents when I tell people that I live at home with my parents they
don't look down on me or I don't care if they even do if they did autonomy is
cool because their their opinion doesn't really matter to me all right
but I tell it in a way because it's my choice I chose to live with my parents
and all in all a lot of guys I'd tell this to they tell me that I'm smart for
doing so and they almost envy me the fact that I have a good relationship
with my parents and that I am able to do a soul and I'm not just trying to milk
off my parents I am being very strategic financially in what I'm doing and
honestly my long-term goal is to take care of them in the long run so again
the fact that you're thirty year old and a virgin is that you need to own this
all right own it but not but not look at this fact as a disadvantage in your life
or don't look at this fact as a burden to who you are alright and and don't
feel like you have a pressure to have sex because the truth is that sex should
be sacred and the people who are having multiple sexes with multiple people just
for fun just so they could have another notch on their belt are usually just
empty fools I'll be honest think man I think that's pretty shallow thing to say
but it is definite it is definitely harder for the
it is definitely harder for them to show a woman his genuinity when he truly
cares about her see if she was to look at his track record you know what I'm
saying oh but that's another video for another time I'm not saying that if you
had multiple sex partners that you're a soulless Pig no I don't think so but I
am saying that if you do find a woman that truly practices purity that it
would be definitely harder for her to understand if you truly love her that's
another story for another day once again I also want to address the fact that the
guy who commented he mentioned about just how it's hard to bring women over
yeah I understand it's hard to bring women over if you didn't with your
parents you don't want him to hear the shit that's going on in your room with
this lady friend of yours I get it but the same time hey man you know probably
she has her own place probably have a car you know I'm saying it doesn't
always have to lead to sex in your room let's just say that and also regardless
if you really like this girl and you want to possibly lose your virginity to
her be sure you want it to be with just some girl who's turned off by the fact
of who you truly are you know I'm saying like gonna lose your virginity or if
that is sacred to you then what you want to lose it with somebody that accepts
the fact that hey you're at home with your parents you know what I mean it
honestly sex with a person that accepts you for who you are and you don't have
to feel ashamed of who you are that kind of sex is real all right that's the most
I don't want to say that's the most authentic sex but that's the most pure
purus enjoyment of what sex can be in my opinion and another thing is that if
you're in this life situation that you are in you should never bring your
parents I understand that our parents play a tremendous role in the shaping of
who we are what we believe is capable of ourselves and I think it's
understandable but never blame your parents for who you are now and where
you are right now it is our choice to be who we are it is
our choice to live the life that we're living wherever we are in life right now
literally is based on the choices that we made so again my friend who is
30-something virgin living at home his parents and it's hard meeting women all
in all this video is telling you to just own it man
Owen where you are in life on who you are okay and never look at it as a
downfall but definitely look at it as your story of how you're gonna be better
today wherever you are in life right now is just look at it like this is my
before story you gotta see myself a year later that's
what you should be thinking think about the growth of who you're gonna become a
year from the hole and you know I've never shed on your parents never hate on
them never blame them because they gave you life okay
and whether you're living at home rent-free or whatever like be grateful
for them you know what I'm saying it's like even though they possibly say
stupid shit to you if it's negative or disappointing or or honestly defeating
but tune it out they're probably just saying shit because they're worried and
they don't know how to express love in the correct manner you know I'm saying
or maybe they are assholes energist saying shit that is mean then if that's
the case ignore oh ignore them and raise money at work so you could afford your
own place okay but the main thing is if you are not
taking the action steps towards changing your life now then you're living in a
loop of well defeat okay so I hope this video is helpful wait what I really am
saying this is brick Big Brother talking right now get off your ass and do
something about it okay get off your ass and if you hate your job suck it up
raise the money so that you are able to have that security of having money just
in case an emergency happens okay whether that emergency is I got a
ixnay on my parents is house name and get my own apartment save money for a
few months worth of living without living at home okay and if you hate your
job again save up that money and and while you're saving look for a new job
that you wouldn't hate and then get hired another job
you know I'm saying if you hate your job quit your job before doing so always
plan it out right plan it out and make sure that you have a job to fall on or
make sure that you have expenses or money to expand yourself for the next
few weeks months while you're jobless the main thing is don't bitch and
complain and never take steps to better yourself
alright that is that is the gist of what this video is saying never live in a
defeated mindset that is beta and then again you gotta you gotta embrace the
Alpha in you and I feel like this whole time you've just been asleep in the beta
and and again it all starts with now it all starts with how you are looking at
yourself and your life right now anyways guys I hope this video was helpful I
hope it was I hope it made sense even I know that when I tend to talk about my
stories or talk about this episode videos I just go here and there here and
there but all in off your to watch the whole video I think that it could
definitely resonate with you anyways guys again I just wanna thank you so
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