actually follow it to the letter, when you're done,
if you're having a perception of loss of money, you won't feel that way.
So here's how we do it. We first write down what specifically,
get out a piece of paper, write down,
what specifically do you feel you just lost?
And quantify it. If it is $10,000,
$50,000, a hundred thousand dollars, a million dollars, $10 million.
I had the opportunity to work with a gentleman that lost $158 million
recently. So it doesn't matter how much,
it just matters of first quantifying it,
because each of us have different feelings of grief or loss over different
amounts of money. So I want you to imagine whatever that is and quantify it.
So you know exactly what you lost. And don't exaggerate it. Don't minimize it.
And get real. Once you identified that right next to it,
you're going to do something really amazing, you're going to write down,
the moment you perceived you lost it, where
did you gain something in your life? And you're going to think, 'Well,
I didn't gain any money.' Where did you gain something?
Let me give you an example,
let's say that you've lost a hundred thousand dollars in either stock market,
real estate market, or maybe in a business opportunity or client or something.
And you're really feeling a loss of this. You immediately ask,
what did you gain the moment you found that out? And you're blank.
You're probably going to be blank. And you think, 'Well,
I didn't gain anything.' Look carefully. There's never a loss, without a gain.
The master lives in a world of transformation,
never the illusions of gain and loss. So they immediately ask,
if I think there's a loss, what exactly is the gain?
So look for what the gain is. And here's some samples of what the gains may be.
You may have gotten closer to your girlfriend or spouse or boyfriend or husband.
You may have got closer to your family.
You may have soul searched and looked at what you really had is important in
your life. And you start looking, you may have gotten closer to your family,
your family of origin. You may have made a decision,
I'm not gonna let this thing called finance, stop me anymore.
I'm going to make more determination.
I'm going to start building my wealth and start reading and studying and
learning about it. You may have all of a sudden said,
I'm not doing this job and going to a different career.
I don't know what that is.
But in every case I've worked with and that means hundreds of cases,
there's always that something you gained.
You want to write down whatever you gained,
and then you want to put a dollar value next to it, what it is worth to you.
So if you got close to your family and you're spending more time with your kids,
what's that worth? And you think, well, it's priceless. No, it's specifically,
what's it worth? You have to put a dollar value on it.
And you start stacking up all the things you gained,
the moment you found out you so called, lost this money.
And look what you gained.
And you keep going and you keep listing everything you gained and put a dollar,
quantitative dollar value on that in your life until they balance.
And to your surprise, if you keep doing that and don't stop until they balance,
you will all of a sudden realize, wow, I really didn't lose anything.
I changed something. It changed my life. And there was a transformation there.
Now you have to really dig. You got to get creative and look for it.
And you got to really put the dollar value on it. For instance,
this one gentleman that lost $158 million, when I asked him,
what did you gain at that moment? He went blank at first. And he said, 'Nothing.
It's been hell ever since then.' I said, 'No. I asked what did you gain?
Don't focus on the problem. Focus on the solution here.
What did you gain?' And he says, 'Well,
I did get closer to my wife without a doubt.
Cause I found that she loved me without all the money.
And I wasn't sure if she was just wanting me for the wealth and it was all my
own illusion, but I realized she really loved me.' I said,
'How much is that worth?' And he said,
'I don't know how to put a dollar on it.' I said, 'Put a dollar value,
put a minimum dollar on it.' He says,
'That's worth to me,' because this man had some wealth,
worth at least 10 of $20 million to him. And I said,
'So if I could give you $20 million right now,
would you be willing to go back to the way your relationship was prior?'
He said, 'no.' He says it'd be worth more than that.
And when I got there and quantified it like that,
he started really realizing Alfred Marshall in his book,
'Principles of Economics' said that there is no human motive towards something
or away from something that can't be measured economically.
That means if you don't like smoking cigarettes, you can't stand cigarettes,
if I asked you if I gave you $10,000 to smoke a cigarette,
you'd all of a sudden go, 'My God,
I would smoke a cigarette for $10,000.' Or if you swore you would never want to
smoke a cigarette, there's no way you would ever smoke a cigarette,
or let's say you're addicted to a cigarette and I gave you $10,000 not to smoke
a cigarette for the day.
Either way I could identify exactly what the value of that cigarette is,
so if you have a motive for it, we can measure the quantitative value of it.
So once you quantify everything that you gained and don't stop until they're
balanced, you'll find that quantitatively, they do balance and to your surprise,
it's there. Now what you do is you go back and ask the question.
If all of a sudden I had that a hundred thousand dollars,
what would be the drawback if it was the way it was originally.
And at first you're infatuated with the thing and you can't think of,
there's no drawbacks, but you got to go there and find them.
Once you stack up the drawbacks and crack the addiction and fantasy and dopamine
fix that you have on that and calm down that addiction,
you might say at high you got,
you'll find that some of that feeling of loss is already going.
And then you come up with the benefits of the new form,
all the new things that you just gained.
She stack up the benefits of the gain of the new form and the drawbacks of the
old form until you're flatlined.
And so that means that you're just don't feel any loss.
There's no grief over it. There's no feeling of loss. It'll blow your mind.
If you do that exercise on every component of the dollars and find out what
would be the drawback of the original form,
what would be the benefit of the new form and keep doing that.
This process could take as much as 30 minutes. It could take up to two hours,
but I can guarantee you if you follow it to the letter,
all the way to completion, your perception of loss is gone.
Your energy levels will be back up. Your feelings of depression will go.
Your creativity will come back.
And just like the gentleman that had $158 million that he thought he lost,
he came up with an absolute, amazing new company, new creative ideas,
new solutions, new opportunities.
His mind immediately becomes electrified with new solutions to grow his
business. So go find out what the gains are. The transformations.
Go find out the drawbacks of the old form, the benefits of the new form.
And I guarantee, you'll say, thank you if you follow it to the letter. Now,
if you have any challenges with that and you're having some snags with it,
my advice is contact the Demartini Institute directly or come directly to the
Breakthrough Experience.
Cause I show people how to do exactly that in the program I do called the
Breakthrough Experience, my signature program.
And I literally take people from the audience who've had losses and show them
how to dissolve it in minutes. It rarely takes more than an hour,
but I'm telling you that the freedom that you have from that,
the liberty that you have from that,
will give you creative ideas on how to transform your financial future.
And also not let you get baggage to the past and victims of your history.
I'll show you how to be a master of your destiny.
So come to the Breakthrough Experience, follow this process,
you'll see the results or come to Breakthrough Experience,
let me show you how to make sure you master it.