Heya playa, have you ever wondered what the odds are of you finding someone to date is?
Should you be looking online?
Should you be trying to meet someone at school?
What are the chances of you actually finding someone?
Well, let's look at the research and data to get a better perspective
of what it's like for single people out there and what you need to know.
I recently came across a Pew research study from
2019 which dives deep into dating and relationships and it covered everything.
How people are getting together, what racial groups are struggling the most,
and the pressures people are facing when it comes to modern dating.
Now you might be thinking it's pretty obvious most people meet online,
dating apps are the way to go but the truth of the matter is that 31 percent of people
met their significant other and started relationships through family and friends.
It was someone in common that they knew while only 21 percent of people met someone online.
Now that seems to hold true for people who have been in relationships for three years or longer.
For people who have been in relationships that are a lot shorter than that, online dating actually
stacks up pretty high against meeting someone else in person.
We're talking 28 percent to 27 percent here.
So while many people might write off online dating people such as myself, I say it all the time.
Focus on meeting people in person, online dating is starting to become more of the norm which
presents a whole load of other problems but it's something to pay attention to.
And that's pretty much for straight people, those that were lesbian gay, or bi actually
saw much higher numbers when it came to starting a relationship with someone through online dating.
When we talk about relationships though what are we really driving at?
Are people looking for serious ones or more casual ones?
What the research actually shows is that people are pretty much 50-50 split.
They're willing to go for either a serious relationship or a casual one.
When we split that between men and women though we start to see a gradual shift,
for example, 36 percent of women would prefer a serious relationship
and you're probably thinking well most guys want a casual relationship right
actually no 22 percent of men chose serious relationship as their preferred
option and 22 percent of men chose casual relationship as their preferred option.
So while the bulk of people are pretty much open to either,
men are pretty evenly split in what they actually want
destigmatizing this idea that men are players and all they want is casual hookups.
Who is struggling the most though based on the research?
Well, when we dive into by racial groups we can see that 47 percent of black adults are
much more likely to be single compared to 28 percent of white and 27 percent of Hispanics.
This number is a bit jarring though when we break
it down between men and women between the ages of 18 and 29
we can see that 51 percent of men are single whereas only 32 percent of women are single.
Now that's a huge statistic, more than half of men 18 to 29 are single which is insane.
No wonder so many men are looking for dating advice online and stumbling into
red pill communities or spiraling down into black pill communities.
There are so many men that need help in this area of their life and they're looking for answers.
Another interesting stat that overlaps with
that one is how hard it is to find someone that you can connect with.
For 56 percent of women, they felt that they couldn't find a man that
met their expectations whereas for men it was only 35 percent.
That means more than half of the women out there have a bar set where most guys will never meet.
Their expectations are at a level that most guys are falling short.
Now there are a lot of potential reasons as to why that is,
I don't want to say it's this or this specifically.
There's a lot that factors into it but it's something to take into account.
Something that's also interesting is that 65 percent of women are
struggling to find a partner that wants the same type of relationship as them
so if they're looking for something serious they're only meeting casual guys,
if they want casual maybe they're only meeting guys who want to settle down.
Especially in our modern dating age of today, there are way more options than ever before if
you're looking for something serious or casual or maybe you want a polyamorous relationship.
Those are all potential things you can do but there is one thing that most people struggle
with when it comes to relationships and that is the societal pressure to be in one.
And I sort of get it, people feel like you're in this age 18-29 where you should be looking
for a partner, you should be trying to settle down, you should be trying to find the one,
but all this ultimately ends up doing is putting a lot of pressure on people who are struggling
with dating, people who don't have those social skills or just don't really feel like they have
an opportunity to date someone or just have way more struggles or things on their mind
or pressures on their plate or responsibilities that just don't make it an easy option for them.
Dating is tough for everyone but I guess even if you're single the silver lining
is that you could still find happiness in spending time hanging out with your
friends and pursuing your hobbies and your interests and putting yourself out there.
Or just not worrying or stressing about dating, being single and being happy, just doing you.
Something that's important to recognize when we look at research like this
is that it doesn't dictate your fate, it simply informs us of the
current state of things based on the people that they interviewed.
So if you watched this video and feel like you're totally hopeless,
like the odds are just stacked against you, check out the video over there on the side.
I'm gonna give you a little bit more information on how you can turn your dating life around.
Thank you guys so much for watching, excuse the sweaty shirt.
I'm sitting in a very very hot room right now.
I'll catch you next time though.
As always, love and peace.