Heya playa, let me set the scene for you.
There's a girl you like and you want to kiss her but you don't know how to go about doing
it.
Is this the right time?
What if she rejects you?
You're not really sure how to handle it.
Don't worry, in this video I got you covered and I brought along a friend to help me out.
Hi guys, it's Coco and welcome back to Josh's channel actually, so like I said I'm Coco.
I make advice videos for guys on what to do from a girls perspective on a wide variety
of topics all about dating, love and relationships so everything you've ever wondered about when
it comes to girls is on my channel.
For those of you that are new here, my name is Josh and every single Monday through Friday
I make videos sharing tips, ideas and stories teaching you how to be your best self.
Now one question that might pop into your mind is how long into dating each other should
you wait to kiss?
Should you do it after a day?
A week?
A month?From my personal experience and this could be different for everyone, I've not
found it very bothersome to kiss on the first date.
I think that's totally fine if you've have a really good date and a really good connection.
But you should really be weary of the signs of someone else.
You have to look at this person and kind of think about how comfortable would they be
if I would kiss them on the first date?
If it's someone you can tell is very self-conscious and insecure, a bit shy then that might not
be a good idea to do such a thing on the first date because they may not know what to do
with that and they might feel uncomfortable about that.
But if you're sitting across from someone who's very bubbly, out there talking, very
open and extraverted then that person might be very comfortable kissing on the first date.
I totally agree, I think what's most important here is to totally build a close bond with
that person.
And that can take as long as it needs to take.
What really matters is that the two of you are comfortable around each other to the point
where you feel like you're ready to be physically affectionate.
So yea in most occasions, you don't really have to wait for that long to kiss someone,
a first date can be perfectly fine.
But that can really depend on the person you're with so try to read signs and also it also
depends on what do you want, do you feel comfortable kissing on the first date?
Do you like that person enough because you don't have to feel pressured.
I feel a lot of us feel pressured that we have to kiss on the first date but you really
honestly don't have to.
And if the two of you are already close, what signs should you be looking for that show
that they are ready in that moment to kiss you?
First of all you need to look at their body language.
Are they sitting with their body turned to you?
Are they actually looking at you?
Are they feeling with their hair?
Or you know, things like that.
Are they showing interest in you?
Are they showing that they're attracted to you?
If they're looking away and not looking you in the eye, I think that's very important
when someone's not looking you in the eye, if they're not asking you a lot of questions,
if they don't really seem that interested then those are bad signs.
And it's true, girls have their own way of communicating that they're ready to kiss you
in that moment.
The problem is that a lot of people spend time in their own heads just overthinking
things waiting for the perfect opportunity but you have to create the opportunity, there's
no perfect one you're waiting for.
So you should really look for that kind of like spark of interest that someone's really
into you or if they're not that much.
And as you work towards creating that opportunity, you might be wondering what is the best setup
for a kiss?
Should we be sitting down?
Should the lights be off?
Should we be alone?
How do I land that first kiss?
When do you kiss someone?
Oh my god, when is the right moment?
Well and there is such a thing as the right moment because there are some awkward moments
where you shouldn't do it because you should never do it when someone's not expecting it.
I think that's an important point.
You want someone to know that they're gonna kiss you so that they're not like oh my god
suddenly you've been kissed (I just threw something but) suddenly you've been kissed
and you don't know how to react.
Or and it shouldn't be in a situation where someone doesn't want to be kissed so I think
for a first date or any date basically, a good point would be at the end when you're
saying goodbye.
And you should look at whether if you are saying goodbye to them, are they facing you?
If they're facing away and keeping a distance then they're probably, that means that they
don't want to be kissed but if they're like looking at you and they're like, are they
gonna kiss me then that's probably a good sign that they do want to be kissed.
And that's exactly what it comes down to, you guys heard it from a girl herself.
Listen to what she said, really think about that and then act on it.
Don't just sit there and kind of absorb the information, the time to act is now.
If you want to kiss the girl that you like, you need to kind of put those steps into play.
I know you have what it takes so go out and do it.
But that's a moment where someone expects to be kissed.
So, and not inside of a restaurant or something that's just like a weird place so, also look
for a place that's a little bit secluded where someone feels comfortable because a lot of
us do not like PDA, I think that's the right word for it.
Look for a place that's kind of secluded where no one's watching you and nightime on the
streets that can be fine sometimes because it's dark and no one can really see you.
Maybe when you're giving, like, letting someone into a cab or something like that, those are
good setups, what you can also do is take someone somewhere that's a little bit more
private like sit on a bench on the street or at the water or something like that, take
her to a little bit quieter place, make sure that the other person feels comfortable with
that they they feel comfortable going to a quiet place with you because you don't want
to make them feel like you're kidnapping them if you don't know them that well but I think
that that is the best way to set up for a kiss.
Just let the conversation flow naturally, don't start talking really fast and stuff,
actually if a silence falls, that's the right time to do it.
That's the right time because then you're not talking about someone or because then
you're not talking about something and you don't want to be like in the middle of a conversation
and be like, blah, kiss, kiss in the middle of it.
So now that you know the setup for how to kiss a girl.
What do we do in that exact moment where our lips touch?
What's that experience gonna be like?
Well, that's a video that we covered over on Coco's channel so go check it out.
There's going to be a video over on my channel where Josh is going to explain how to kiss,
like the technique about it.
What to do if someone turns away from a kiss and is there such a thing as too much kissing
and how much kissing is too much.
Thank you so much Coco for sharing your thoughts and experiences, I hope it really helps you
guys out and I want to know so leave a comment down below if you feel prepared now to kiss
your crush.
So that was my advice for you guys today, I hope that it was helpful, don't forget to
check out my channel for Josh's take on the other three topics that I just mentioned,
the link to that is down below.
I love you guys so much, and maybe I'll see you later, bye!
On that note guys, I'll catch you tomorrow.
As always, love and peace.
Where you're in public and someone, yea, PDA.
Public...
I, I don't even know what that stands for actually.
I'm not English, my first language is Dutch but anyway, whatever.