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isn't it time that you take your life back?
So, what happens when you stop playing their mind games?
Well, I've seen it firsthand,
because I help people negotiate with narcissists and
I've helped people take their power back,
stop feeling afraid.
Isn't that what you want? Yeah.
Well, so in order to get there,
you gotta stop playing their mind games.
So, when you stop playing their mind games,
they're not happy about it,
because remember how the whole thing got started.
They're like looking to you to get that narcissistic supply, right?
That's why they attach themselves to you to begin with,
they’re like leeches.
They attach themselves to you, to suck that supply out of you.
I mean, literally, it's like they attached and
they came along to love-bomb you and
they start conditioning you,
it's so kind of predictable and sick in a certain way and
whether it's a busines relationship, or a personal relationship,
it really doesn't matter,
because I personally was in a business relationship with a narcissist and
they all start the same way,
in what they call love-bombing stage.
It could be called idealization, love-bomb, doesn't matter.
But basically, it starts off in this where they are super charming,
they're very good at reading people,
they know how to be absolutely amazing.
I mean, they know how to be so crazy wonderful and
I'm actually seeing people say,
why can't they just stay in the love-bombing stage?
Well, because they don't want to be in the love-bomb stage,
That's not where their sweet spot is.
I mean, they want to be in the take stage,
not in the give stage.
The love-bomb stage is just to start grooming you basically,
so they can get to the take stage as fast as possible.
I mean, that's kind of where it is, right?
I mean, they want to get to the spot
where they can get to you as fast as possible.
So, basically, they need that supply, that narcissistic supply,
which is anything that feeds their ego,
anything that feeds their need for adulation,
or money, or that need to control you.
It's their food, it's their oxygen, it's their lifeblood,
it's anything that feeds their need
to make them feel better in some way
because they have no sense of inner value.
So, how can they feel some sense of value?
That's basically it and
so, they condition you from the beginning.
What does that mean?
Well, how much can they get away with from the beginning?
When they've been love bombing you for a while and
they come on super strong, super strong,
“We need to move in together right away”,
“We need to be business partners right away”,
“I can get you anything you want”,
“I am taking you to Fiji for the weekend”
“I will send you fifteen thousand roses”,
or '“We need to be business partners right away” and
“I can find you all the best clients” or whatever it is.
I mean, it's going to be like, it'll swirl in your head and
be unbelievable, and your head will be spinning,
it'll be so fast and
then all the sudden here they are and
you're like, “Wow, where is this person been all my life” and
then all of a sudden, once you're in it and you're like,
“Okay, yeah, let's do it, all right” and
then all of a sudden, you're sending them texts and
then, where are they? Gone.
Then, why are you so needy?
It'll be like that for a while.
So then, when you decide, you know what?
I'm not playing your little game anymore,
I'm done with you, I'm not playing your games,
I'm out of this relationship now. Done.
Now, what's going to happen is,
you are going to trigger something within them and
that narcissistic rage may come flying out,
or something's going to happen within;
because they've got this narcissistic injury
that could potentially get triggered and
so, it's not going to be good.
So, what's going to happen is,
they're allowed to treat you however they want,
but you're not allowed to do it back to them.
Okay? So, now it's going to be either,
they're going to flood your text messages, like crazy,
show up at your house or office,
go crazy on you,
or they're going to try to make you feel guilty as hell,
“All I've done for you”, “After all blablabla…”
make you feel guilty.
“I can't believe you're leaving the family”,
or “I can't believe you're leaving me like this,.
“I can't believe you're leaving me an alert”,
to make you feel guilty for what you're doing to them,
or they're going to make something your fault.
“You did this”,
or they're going to get very angry, very hostile,
you're going to start to see whoever this person was,
they tried to pretend,
especially if it's a covert narcissist and
they tried to pretend they were so lovely, or so nice,
or so this, or that,
you're going to start to see how rude and horrible they can actually be,
they're going to start to do awful things.
Maybe they'll try to shame you, or really put you down and
say things, like awful things to you,
like, “Nobody else would have stayed with with you”,
or “No one else will love you”,
or “No one else likes you anyway”,
or awful things to you, they might do that.
They might try to bad mouth you to everybody else.
Line-up flying monkeys and tell people lies about you,
they might do that.
I mean really no bar is too low sometimes,
cut you off from things,
if it's of divorce, depending on how bad their scruples are,
they could use the court system as their sword,
file on us unnecessary motions, harassing pleadings,
refuse to give up discovery, ignore court orders,
use the children as pawns, all those sorts of things as well.
Run up the attorney's fees, certainly seen all of that,
react with anger, rage, violence sometimes.
This is why I developed the S.L.A.Y program by the way,
because you need to have strategy,
you need to have leverage,
you need to be able to shut them down.
You need to have strategy,
you need to have leverage and
if you want to learn how to more
about how to shut down their smear campaign,
you can definitely check out my video on that topic as well.
But, this is what happens when you stop playing their mind games.
They go a little bit nuts sometimes, but you can shut them down.
You absolutely can,
because they're actually more afraid of you than you are of them.
They absolutely are.
And when they realize,
they're not going to get supply out of you anymore and
they realize how you can expose them and all of that,
they will ease on down the road,
just got to figure out how to do it and
I do know how to do it.
So, if you want to get started,
just go ahead and grab my free “Crush my negotiation” prep worksheet
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You don't do this alone because,
narcissists want you to be alone,
they want you to be isolated.
You definitely don't want to allow yourself to do that,
because they are the worst right before they're ready to give up.
But you can get them to give up.
So, remember today's a great day to start negotiating your best life.
Grass is definitely greener on the other side.
So, that's what I'm here for and
I'm here to help you all the way to the day that you slay.
I'm here to help you.
So, I will see you in the next video.