Matt: Excuse me. Hey, real quick...
Matt: Starting a conversation with a beautiful woman can
be very frustrating and even terrifying for a lot of guys. But it's actually a
whole lot easier than you think if you keep the following three things in mind.
And all the opening lines that I'm about to give you have all been 100% tested to
be tried and true in giving you the best reactions from women. I'm Matt Artisan from
The Attractive Man and I'm going to show you how to start a conversation with a beautiful woman.
When you start applying the
following three techniques to all of your interactions with women, I guarantee
your results will skyrocket. No. 1 Approach within three seconds
When you see a woman that you want to talk to, make sure to start approaching her
within three seconds. From the time that you take that first step, no more than
three seconds should go by. Do this no matter what because it short circuits
your brain's ability to come up with excuses and which, you know, a lot of
excuses can come up. I'm sure you know that I know that, they come up from me
too. And, it also just conditions you to take action. It's like you see beautiful
woman and within three seconds, you take that step towards her. Instead of doing
what most guys do, see beautiful woman and think about it, analyze it and
eventually, tuck themself out of it. It also conveys confidence. When you walk up
to her right away, which is a really important attraction trigger for women,
I'm sure you know that. So, next time you see a beautiful woman that you want to
approach, count to three and when you get to the number three, start walking
towards her. Okay, take a step and then taking another step, even if you bail
before you get to her 'cause maybe her boyfriend shows up or she jumps onto a
bus or maybe you just chickened out. Okay, that's still a success because you're
training your mind and your body to take action. You're conditioning yourself to,
every time you see a beautiful woman, that you just go. If you do that fifty or
a hundred times, eventually, that's going to be a habit. You're gonna see
beautiful women and just be compelled to walk towards them and that's a pretty good habit to have.
No. 2 Open strong. Coming in with a good opening line can
start the interaction off on the right foot. So, it's really important.
Now, for fun, flirty opening lines that get her laughing are great. However,
there's no problem with just keeping it simple, especially if you don't know what
to say or you're feeling a little bit tongue-tied. Here are some examples of
some great opening lines. I really like banter openers because there are fun,
flirty way to start an interaction going, especially in the nighttime environment
like a bar lounge or club or part or maybe even a concert.
"Hey, have you noticed that you and I are like the hottest people in this entire place?
It's true, so I figured we have to at least meet"
"Hey, are you shy or something? Because I've been here for like 25 minutes and
you haven't come and said hi to me yet or buy me a drink or anything. So you must be shy.
Because people are there to have a good time, so if you can get the
girls bantering back and forth and laughing and being playful, then of
course, it's really good. Now, my favorite way to start a conversation, especially
during the daytime, is to use a direct opener because people are busy, so using
something indirect, beating around the bush; a) it doesn't show any attractive
qualities and b) it wastes a lot of time. So, I like to just show my intent and my
interest right away because that shows confidence, it shows that I must believe
that this girl is also attracted to me. And it can create, as long as you do it
the right way, it can create sexual tension. So, for example, I might say something like:
Another favorite of mine is the intro opener, which is where you just introduce yourself. It works really well
at nighttime, at bars, parties and meetup groups or you know any type of social
gathering, really, where you just introduce yourself and that shows a lot
of confidence. It shows that you don't need a reason or an excuse to go talk to somebody.
Matt: "Hi, I don't believe we've met yet. I'm Matt." Woman: "Hi, I'm Dianna."
Make sure to say that confidently with strong eye contact and a warm smile.
Now, feel free to modify these openers based on the situation or the, you know,
the type of girls you're approaching or your individual mood or your own vibe,
whatever. What's most important is, to keep in mind that ninety-three percent
of communication is nonverbal. Therefore, your body language and how you actually
deliver your opening statement, is gonna matter a lot more than the
actual words you say. This is exactly what I mean by that and to learn how to
spark sexual tension immediately, which is, extremely powerful. Then, make sure to
watch my YouTube video on "how to spark sexual tension immediately" and there's a
link to it down in the description. No.3 Don't get caught up on the opener.
Remember, like I said, the actual words that you say when you first
approached her really aren't all that important compared to the overall vibe
that you're giving off. Later on when you're a little bit more advanced, it's
nice to come back and kind of practice some of these different types of openers
but in the beginning, when you're first starting off,
keep it simple, man. It's totally fine to just say whatever is on your mind
because that will get you in the habit of going for it, instead of always
second-guessing yourself. And developing that habit will get you more women than
any pickup line ever could. Now, of course there's other ways to start
conversations with women as well. Such as being indirect or using an observation.
Something you see about her or a situation something in the environment.
The problem with those is it's harder to keep the conversation going because she
doesn't know the real reason that you're talking to her which is probably because
you're attracted to her. So, use the examples that I gave you in this video
or something similar. Especially during the daytime, be direct. Don't be afraid to
show your interest right away. And of course, like I said,
it all depends on how you do it. There's a needy, supplicating way to do it. That's
gonna repel women and then there's a really badass, more attractive way to do
it. That's gonna build sexual tension right away.
And of course, it's gonna work much better. What's key is that, after you show
interest in her, you slightly take it away by challenging her. If you show too
much interest too soon, it seems needy and it pushes her away. You have to also
be a challenge. So, to show you how to be more of a challenge and get women to
actually start chasing you, I created a video called how to get women to chase
you. And there's a link down in the description and also on the right side
of the screen. So go ahead and click that right now, and watch that video. Make sure
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