- The number one biggest power move you can make
is to actually walk away.
When you walk away, you signify and signal value out
and that is extremely attractive to other people.
And in this video, I'm gonna show you exactly
why walking away is the biggest power move you can make.
I'm gonna show you what not to do
and why the opposite of that ends up pushing them away.
And also, I'm gonna show you
the mistakes to avoid when doing this.
Because when done correctly,
not only will you feel safe within yourself,
you feel like you don't need anyone else to come around
and you'll maintain your power,
and that changes everything as a reflection.
Now, this reminds me of a experience in my own life
where I used to do the opposite of this.
What I would do is,
I would be in a relationship with somebody,
and especially, I remember this
in the first relationship I was ever in,
where I would choose someone sometimes,
that also wasn't entirely choosing me.
And what I would then do is if they would pull back at all
I would then think there was something wrong with me.
And I would try to change that
and I would try to control the situation.
And by being overly like alert to what they wanted,
to what they needed, by reaching out to them,
it would then actually push them away
and have the opposite effect.
But in the first relationship I ever had,
I learned the power of walking away
and it had the opposite effect of what I actually thought.
So what happened was,
this was one of my first relationships.
From seven to 15, I had like no freedom at all,
wasn't allowed to date,
wasn't allowed to go to school dances or anything like that,
had a controlling ex-stepmom in my life,
my dad divorced her when I was 15 years old.
All of a sudden, I have all this freedom.
At about 17, that was when I had my first girlfriend.
And it was a relationship
where it was like I wasn't fully being chosen
and I was okay with that.
I was like staying in the relationship.
I remember at one point there was this school dance
and instead of us going to the school dance together,
she went with an ex-boyfriend
and a lot of her friends
and other people were like, "That's so messed up."
I didn't even think it was that.
I was just like, "Oh, well that's just I'm not worthy,"
or something like that.
And it was a dynamic where I felt like
once again, there's something wrong with me.
And what ended up happening through this,
is it was mainly because at that time,
from seven to 15, I wasn't allowed to have friends.
I didn't have as much social emotional maturity
and I didn't have many friends at the time.
That was one of the reasons, I think,
that relationship was so meaningful
is 'cause I literally had no other friends
or no other friend group for the most part.
What ended up happening is
as her and I weren't really working out
and we were like not together anymore,
after a period of time, I started making new friends.
I started to expand my social circle.
Then what happened is,
there was another girl that I was interested in
that actually liked me.
What ended up happening, ironically enough,
is as I was moving into that,
as I completely let go and I walked away from the situation
because I started to understand
my own sense of self-worth, and also at the time,
I then would hear from other girls in high school and stuff
that they were attracted to my brother and I,
because we were actually then allowed
to actually have our own look.
We grew out our hair.
We were able to dress the way that we wanted
because from seven to 15, it was very strict.
We had to shave our head.
It was like military almost.
I started to realize, "Oh, I'm actually worthy,"
or not only am I worthy just 'cause of the external stuff
but I started to feel more worthy within myself.
I remember that as I started to come to this conclusion,
this awareness, I completely cut ties and let that go.
As I walked away from that, as I let that go,
I remember at one point I got a call
and this person was really desiring to get back together,
they really cared about me,
It all of a sudden, brought all of this dynamic
to where then they started to understand
and become aware of my own sense of value.
And I'll never forget that,
because it was when I completely let go
and I started to choose myself,
and then I started to recognize
my own sense of worth within myself,
and I started to expand my social group
and I stopped putting all the attention on that,
that's when the energy completely reverted
and then all of a sudden that attraction was there again.
Even in a different way,
at other times, even more recently,
like the last five or six years,
where I was in a relationship,
where as soon as I took the attention
off of the other person and put it on myself,
the attraction quatripled.
It was like the polarity came back.
Everything shifted when I started to put the energy
back on myself and I stopped almost having
like a project that I had to fix.
And that, of course, implies that someone is broken.
But one of the main messages from this video
that I want to share with you
is that when you bring the energy back to yourself,
when you put the energy back in your own body,
that is very attractive.
And also, that signals to the other person,
your own sense of value.
That signals to the other person that you value you.
And that is what is extremely magnetic
and extremely attractive.
Another thing that it allows this other person to do,
is when you bring your energy back to yourself,
and you're focused on yourself
and your own sense of self worth,
it then allows them to sit with their own energy
without you projecting energy onto them
and it allows them to actually have the space
to come to their own conclusions.
Because sometimes, when you're trying to control
a relationship dynamic
and you're projecting energy at them, they feel that.
And also, it's suffocating.
It literally suffocates them to where they feel,
"I can't just be me."
And what ends up happening,
is then they just want to push away.
So it has the opposite effect
where what most people do is they lean in.
They want the other person to come around,
they're trying to fix it,
when it's not something to be fixed.
The best thing you can do is to walk away
and give them space.
Because when you give them space,
they then can come to their own conclusions,
they can then come to their own realizations.
That also gives them an opportunity,
if you guys are meant to be together,
for them to miss you.
How can they miss you
when you're constantly projecting energy at them?
How can they miss you
when even though you're not physically there,
you are energetically and mentally sending them energy?
They can't miss you.
The only way they can miss you
is if you truly give them space.
And the way you give them space is by realizing
that the energy you're projecting at them to fix them,
is because you're trying to get your own needs met.
You're trying to get them to come around
so that you can increase your sense of validation,
your sense of approval.
The answer is to stop abandoning yourself
to make others happy.
Realize that what the fear is, is the fear is,
"Oh, if they leave me, then they abandon me,
then that means I'm not good enough."
But in fact, you've already abandoned yourself.
Anytime you try to fix someone, you're abandoning yourself.
Anytime you try to get somebody else to come around,
to understand your sense of self-worth
and to validate you, you abandon yourself.
Anytime you choose somebody else
that's not choosing you, you abandon yourself.
So the answer to this, stop doing that.
Why are you doing that?
Stop it.
Just stop abandoning yourself for others
and realize the more you choose you
and the more you walk away from something,
somebody that's not choosing you,
or the more that you walk away in general,
and you are then in your own energy,
that then also signifies to the other person
that if they do desire to be in a relationship with you,
they will follow you.
We're all playing certain energy dynamics
here in relationship.
Now, I know people aren't dogs, but think about it.
You got a dog and what do you do?
You chase the dog.
The dog's like, my friend just posted a video
of her boyfriend chasing the dog around the yard.
Little dog's name's Jonah.
It's like chasing Jonah, chasing Jonah.
And chasing Jonah, the dog just runs.
It's playing, it's having so much fun.
But guess what happens when you walk away?
The dog chases you.
Why is that?
Because people respond
to the energy dynamic you're putting out.
And the idea, the flawed premise is that
if I walk away, they're gonna leave and walk away, too.
When in fact, when you walk away,
you signify your own sense of value,
you're in your own energy field.
And that dynamic signals a sense of self-respect.
That is attractive.
It's not guaranteed that if you walk away,
by the way, that they're going to chase you.
But it is guaranteed that if you walk away
and you're doing it from a place of your own power,
your own sense of self-worth,
there is a guarantee that if that person
wasn't meant to be in your life
and they don't come around,
then that's what it's meant to be.
They weren't, in a way, the person for you.
You're saving yourself time.
It's a win-win-win all the way around.
It's funny because the belief is,
if I walk away, I'll never have the love again.
Now, realize this,
there are billions of people on the planet.
If you walk away
and they don't chase after you like a little puppy dog,
it's okay.
You're signaling your sense of self-worth
and then you're allowing space
to also bring something else new into your life.
You can't bring something new into your life
when you're constantly worrying
and projecting somebody else energy
and wondering if they're gonna come around.
The only way you bring something new in your life,
is when you start choosing yourself.
Choose yourself.
Choose you.
You're awesome, you're amazing.
You just have to choose yourself.
And sometimes choosing yourself
means saying "No" and not entertaining an energy dynamic
that is not a representation of your self-respect,
of your self worthiness.
And the key is bringing the energy back to you.
So, to recap some of the most powerful concepts
from this talk that have changed my life
that I think can impact you in a powerful way,
is when you give someone else space,
you allow them to come to their own conclusions.
You allow them to, in a way, miss you.
And then also, you're not sending them energy
so that they can actually come to their own conclusions.
So you're giving them the space,
but you're not sending them energy
that repels them away.
And when you bring the energy back to yourself
and you start choosing you and you walk away,
it also is a sign of self-respect.
It's a sign of self value.
It is extraordinarily attractive
and it also is a sign of self-trust
and confidence within yourself.
Because then you're signaling to the universe
that there might be something better out there for you.
You're telling the universe,
if you can walk away from this,
then it's gonna open up something else in your life.
There's gonna be a new level
of something else that could get brought in.
You attract in your life a reflection
of the energy work you have done.
And if you're attracting someone that's superficial,
if you're attracting somebody
that doesn't really choose you,
then what you can do, is walking away is a symbol,
it is a way for you to start choosing yourself.
And it is a symbol to the universe
that says, "I don't choose this anymore."
When you say "No" to this,
you'll say "Yes" to something else.
So the key to understand this whole entire process is that
that is what allows them to actually come back.
Now, if you want to learn step-by-step,
exactly what to do energetically
to bring everything back inside of your own frame,
inside of your own body,
so that if they're meant to come back, they will,
this video right here is the next most powerful video
to watch that will change your life.
In this video, I'm gonna show you why they would come back.
And I'm gonna show you energetically
how to unleash non-attached magnetic energy
so that you completely transform the energy dynamic
that is currently going on.
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