Hi, I'm Nicholeen Peck and I teach parenting and family communication as well as how to
strengthen relationships all over the world through the lens of self-government and in
this video I'm going to be talking about how to find your life's purpose and to live it.
In this video, I'm going to be talking about my own personal story to purpose and some of the key
missions that I found out that you might want to know so that you can live your life purpose better.
Also, we're going to be talking about things that you can focus on as you are trying to
have a more meaningful purposeful life. For years now as I've been teaching around the world and
writing books and articles, people come to me and they say Nicholeen, I want to do what you do or
I want to have a mission like your mission. I want purpose in my life. I feel like I'm supposed to
do something but I don't know what it is. Can you help me? And so then I will say yeah. I can help
you and it might be easier than you think. And so then they're intrigued. What do you mean? I'll say
well let's start with the self-evident things about you. Okay who are you? You're a woman so
what does it mean to be a good woman? What else do you have going in your life? Are you married?
Well then what does it mean to be a good wife and then I say do you have children because usually
that's why they're at one of my trainings and I say then what does it mean to be a good parent?
Those are the things that are going to be the most important to you and they say yeah, yeah
but Nicholeen, I want to do something else besides that. I feel like there's something I'm meant to do.
Sometimes they even use the phrase something I feel called to do as if there's some higher power
that has a plan for them. They are right. There is a higher power that has a plan for our lives
and I think many of us feel, that that there's something we were meant to do to leave the
world a better place and that thing we often call missions, sometimes we call it ministry, we
know it's our purpose in life. So, Buddha said the purpose in life is to find your purpose in life
and then do it. I think that's pretty sage advice. In fact he really keyed into something, that's what
everyone's looking for their purpose in life and if they don't find it, they feel like their
life is kind of hollow or meaningless and we don't want lives that feel like that. So, what can we do
to find purpose in life, they want to know. So I'm going to share with you some of the advice that I
give to these people who come to me and hopefully this will bring your pursuit for purpose into a
clearer view. So, I talk to them about missions and how there are multiple missions that we have. I
have read many books now, I focus a lot on classics and history and as I've gone through these books, I
have recognized that all of the characters, the heroes as well as the antagonists in the books
and in the stories all have a purpose that falls into one of eight categories, at least they think
their purpose falls into one of these eight categories. When they're an antagonist, they usually
miss the mark? What are these eight missions that a person could have? Well they are to feed the hungry,
clothe the naked, heal the sick, comfort the lonely, teach the ignorant,
create beauty, liberate the captives and preach the gospel. Those are the eight missions
that a person might feel like they are called to live. So, I share these eight missions with people
and I say as one of my mentors said to me years ago, listen to me say these eight missions
and see which one sticks out most to you. Feed the hungry, clothe the naked, heal the sick,
teach the ignorant, create beauty, comfort the lonely, liberate the captives and preach the gospel,
which one of those sticks out to you as who you are supposed to be? When I first heard that list,
the thing that stuck out to me was liberate the captives. I recognized that the work I was doing
with parenting and helping people protect their rights as parents and to help their children
to be protected from exploitation, all the things that I cared about was me helping people be free,
me helping people find the truths they didn't have because people don't know what they don't
know. Some might say well Nicholeen, you're teaching the ignorant. I don't think anybody's ignorant. I
think that people just have different experiences and different information that they've had and
you don't know what you don't know so, I'm going to give you something that can help you be free,
that's what I'm doing liberating the captives? So what sticks out to you? Now, I want to bring this
into clearer perspective because there was a huge aha I had after I looked at this list for
a period of time. Before I go into this aha and what you can do to live your purpose every day,
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so that you get notified when new videos come out. So what was my aha? My aha was that all
eight of those missions are part of being a parent. I am a parent to four children. I was the parent
to many foster children, that is the greatest mission of all missions in that mission. I
feed the hungry, clothed the naked, heal the sick, comfort the lonely, teach the ignorant,
create beauty and liberate the captives as well as preach the gospel. I do all eight of those missions
in that one mission, that must mean that that is the mission of all missions. The mission to prepare
you for everything else that you will do and then I thought of my life. I was just a mom minding her
own business, trying to be the best mom that I can be and people said hey Nicholeen, will you come
to our support group or to our parent group or to our church and talk to us about what you're
doing with these foster children because you're doing something special here and I think everyone
needs to know and I said okay. I thought it would be short-lived, I'd help people the best I could
and then the BBC contacted me and asked me to be on a program and then the United Nations and then
the World Congress and then you know work on this and this and this and write this book in this book.
It never ends, it never ends and it all started because I wanted to be the best mom I could be
and I deliberately focused all of my efforts on it. I gave every ounce of my heart and soul to it
and then God gave me other missions that I needed to do too. So if you want to have a life of purpose,
be purposeful in what you're doing right now. If you're a parent, that is the mission of all
missions. Do that the best, don't get distracted on thoughts of other things. Do that the best
and then you know what the next thing will be very apparent to you when it's time especially if
you don't have a lot of contention at your house because you've been putting so much effort there.
So this brings me to some things that we need to do to prepare for a life of purpose
and how to live with purpose each day. As a parent who wants to be intentional, who wants to
be deliberate and to have a life of purpose, we've got to be living in the zone of purpose every day,
which means that when we're teaching our children, we do it with purpose. We deliver it with calmness
and with love and acceptance and that when we're correcting our children, we do the same,
calmness, love, acceptance. These are important things as we train our children. They need to
know the words that we'll say, we need to know the words that we'll say so that we don't make
it up and just get creative in the minute. Parents who are always just creating the next consequence,
the next intimidation, they actually create very reactive children because they're starting power
struggles. If things are pre-planned ahead of time and then you just execute with your family
then you are being a good leader. You are following through on that mission to be the best parent
that you can be. So, work on yourself in that capacity first and you will end up learning
all the flaws about yourself that you need to fix so that you can do that next mission in life
which was that thing that stuck out to you when I made the list of missions earlier. Since you've
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