Hey it's Mark here from Make Him Yours
and today, we are talking about a fascinating topic.
How do you tell the difference between your intuition and your insecurities?
One is your most powerful sense as a woman
and the other does not serve you in your dating and relationships.
I'm going to show you how to tell the difference, next.
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Welcome to the video and today, we are talking about how do you tell your women's intuition,
that powerful sense that something is off from your insecurities, which usually serve
to have negative effects on your dating and relationships? I've got five ways to tell
the difference between your intuition and your insecurities.
The first one is that intuition is a feeling from your body,
whereas you'll notice that insecurities are thoughts swimming around in your head.
If you're unsure what you're feeling, see if you can examine where
the thought is coming from. If it's a series of thoughts that are spinning around constantly
in your head, it's more likely to be an insecurity at play.
On the other hand, if it's a gut feeling where you just feel something is off right now
and you can't quite put your finger on what,
it's much more likely to be your intuition and you should trust it.
Number two, insecurities are past-triggered, while intuition is present-triggered. Have
a look at what you're feeling and where it's coming from. Does it feel familiar? Does it
feel like there's a story behind it? Have you gone through something like this before?
It's much more likely that insecurities are being triggered by a past event, so if there's
been something off in your dating relationships before and you've been burned by it, it's
much more likely that your insecurities will kick in and it will be relating to that previous
story. Intuition is much more of a present feeling. You won't be comparing it to a past
experience. You'll be feeling in the now and you'll be very present and alert with what
your body is telling you. Number three, insecurity triggers questions about yourself while intuition
triggers questions about him. Have a look at what you're feeling, what's being triggered
within your body?
Are you questioning yourself? Am I good enough? Am I worthy enough to keep him? Is he going
to leave me for her? These are typical thoughts behind insecurity and they're always about
questioning you and your own value. Intuition on the other hand, doesn't question you. It
questions him. It questions the situation around the two of you. It questions what's
going on. I can remember a former partner of mine going away and staying in a tent with
another man that I knew she was close to and was into her, but I realized, no, my partner's
fully loyal. She's given me no reason to doubt her. This is purely an insecurity talking.
Intuition on the other hand is when you feel that someone is being dodgy. In dating or
in a relationship, you just get that sense and there's no questions about yourself, there's
no self doubt. It's questions about him and what's going on in the situation.
If you're noticing yourself questioning whether you're good enough, it's much more likely
to be an insecurity, but on the other hand, if you're purely observing and questioning
him, it's more likely to be your intuition telling you something is off. Which brings
me to number four. Insecurity triggers fight or flight responses. It triggers actions.
While intuition triggers curiosity. Insecurity and intuition are very different in what they
lead to. The insecurity leads to a flare up. It leads to you wanting to do something to
act quickly to relieve the anxiety. It's usually a flight or a fight response. You want to
confront your boyfriend, you want to go through his phone, you want to call him all the time.
You want to do something that doesn't help the situation. Intuition on the other hand
doesn't promote action. It promotes curiosity. While insecurity tends to blind you and just
makes you want to run or go after him, intuition just makes you more curious.
Now to add to that, can intuition trigger insecurity? Yes it can, but you want to take
the insecure layers off.
You want to be able to split the past story away from what's happening
in the present and only judge and act based on what is happening in the present. Your
insecurities will not promote actions that are going to be healthy or that will help
your dating and relationship in the long-term. And finally, number five, emotional intensity.
Insecurity is a much more emotionally intense, while intuition is a slow grumble. As I talked
about in the last point, fight or flight is very often triggered by insecurities.
They're big waves and they come in stressful, anxious patterns.
Intuition on the other hand is a steady grumble. It grumbles along
and makes you more curious about the situation. You feel you're present,
you're curious about what's going on and to learn more. Insecurity
drives those big waves of action. The emotional peaks and troughs of insecurity leads us to
doing things that, as I said, a very often not helpful to your dating and relationships.
If you're finding yourself calling him 10 times, begging to go with him, looking into
his phone without his permission. None of these actions are helpful to your dating and
relationships and they're triggered by insecurity. On the other hand, if you're finding yourself
becoming more aware, you're finding yourself being observant and then when the time is
right, bringing up the conversations that have been concerning you, these actions are
very helpful to your dating and relationships and will still get you the answer in the end
as to what's going on. Emotional intensity can demonstrate the difference between insecurity
and intuition. Watch for those high steady peaks versus that low constant grumble.
Well, that's it. That's the video.
Thank you for watching and just one more thing before I go,
If you're struggling to tell the difference between intuition and insecurity in your own
life, one thing you want to make sure of is that you're dating very authentically. If
you're not dating authentically, the lines between insecurity and intuition are going
to blur if you're holding back interest. If you're playing games with men, if not being
genuine, then you're going to believe that's how dating is on a subconscious level and
that that's how men are acting as well. It's going to put you a lot more in your head.
You're going to have a lot more questions about men's actions, what they're doing, are
you being played and there's going to be a lot more self-doubt that comes in with the
overthinking. You'll be on your head rather than in your body, and your insecurities are
much more likely to take over from your intuition.
Well, that's the full video. Thank you for watching.
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