my name is Nick and when I was 26 I was diagnosed with cancer
think about how you feel right maybe a little fear little pity maybe some
sadness all that is normal now picture yourself hearing that sentence sitting across
from me on the first date. "What?", "I was just telling you something about me like I
love skiing, I had cancer
play Settlers of Catan" "Wait what did you just say?" "Settlers of Catan its a board game, kind of dorky,
but it's fun and it's super addicting!" "No no wait go back, go back before that you said what..
you you have cancer? Do you still have cancer?" "No, no no! I'm, it's fine! Enough
about me you, let's talk about you. Tell me about yourself Meghan. Should we just order?"
I don't blame anyone for feeling uncomfortable hearing about cancer it's a subject that makes you think about death which isn't great date
talk because when you're on a date you feel so alive
sharing stories you're being vulnerable you're trying to be open and honest and
funny so you can connect maybe even make-out cancer is my heaviest baggage, its my
crazy ex-girlfriend who tried to kill me and I would hate it if she ever came
back but she's crazy so she might I feel like I gotta tell you at some point so
when's the right time I don't know maybe on the third day definitely not
when you first just like sit down with someone that's seriously personal information and you don't
even know anything about me
Where are you from?
Now it's just weird
But you're super cool and you're pretty
maybe if you told me you had cancer I would like you more than you like me a little
Does that mean you already like me a little already?
Let me give you some advice. Okay. Maybe just get to know somebody. You know wait until the time is right.
That's good advice
and change your profile picture it doesn't look anything like you
It's just really great angle should we order? If I tell you right away it might scare
you off cancer is scary and you have every right to find someone less cancer-y
but if I like you I want you to know everything about me
cancer is a big part of Who I am so there it is how to navigate when the
right time is, its complicated.
it was really nice to meet you, you know good luck with
everything. Thank you, I would do it again if you want to
get together again because I feel like we are having a good time and. "Did you want to order?"
See? This game involves wheat!
Yeah if you have any wheat I will give you some brick?
I think I like you
there's something I want to tell you and um its weird and medical and it doesn't really matter but I feel comfortable around you
I have something too, I have something weird and medical and I have just been waiting for the right time
Should we go at the same time? or?
One
Two
Three
I have cancer, I have HPV
I'm sorry what did you say?
I have HPV if it's really embarrassing doesn't like everybody had
like 80% of sexually active adults get HPV. You're not weirded out? No! Like the other 20%
live in their parents basement. Thank you for being understanding you're very sweet .You're very sweet. What was yours again?
Ah! Doesn't matter, okay. Okay. Wait.
did you say that you had cancer? Yeah.Yes.
Oh you know! Is there something? No? we need to talk about? *laughing* No we don't need to talk about it.
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