See the problem with you
is you rarely exercise your self discipline muscle.
You just go with the flow, no backbone whatsoever,
and that's perfectly fine until you start whining
and complaining about your lack of success.
That at some point along the way, we get confused.
And we misunderstand who we are.
We start building this false sense of self
around all the stories
and all the labels and all the things.
And we start living our life that way.
And we get confused about how life works,
how we interact with life.
And we start living much smaller than we really are.
See if you go through life, holding back
and most of us do.
Most of us If we ask ourselves, have we done all we can do?
Most of us will have to answer.
No, we haven't,
we've been holding back.
We have ideas that we don't act on things we wanna do
we're afraid to take chances.
You refuse to raise your standards.
You refuse to push yourself.
You refuse to give a little bit more,
give a little bit extra.
All that you have to do in order to start
to pursue your dreams is take small actions every day
that align your life in that direction.
You have to be hungry enought to understand
If this is something that you are truly going after,
then work has to be applied.
You can't make excuses.
You can't ask for a pass
and you got to understand
that you got to pay a toll to cross the bridge.
Whatever your answer is,
you can do it right now today, starting today, right?
It's still possible.
You can start doing that right now.
It's empowering the present with the future.
There is nothing stopping you
from making it happen right now.
You never ever have to feel that way
If you start doing it right now and you can do it right now.
The thing about self discipline is that it is necessary
for everything you do in your life.
You have to be self disciplined.
And once you understand
that you can always make a different choice and get a different reaction.
And that's the power in your life.
That's the power that you have
is no matter what's going on.
You can choose to think differently,
believe differently, see differently.
All of those things are a choice.
You have a why you can survive almost any how.
Once you begin to discover who you are, then you really realize
how you have been given authority and dominion
over everything on the face of the Earth,
including all the dimensions of your life.
But you can only do that through the struggle of life.
Get better, grow and learn, and develop and live
live in defiance of the weakness
and in rebellion against the decay.
Fight them as they creep in with their offers
of instant gratification and immediate rewards,
fight them for every inch they try to take.
Do not surrender any ground ever.
When you commit to something, you
require yourself to bring all of your disparate components
moving in a single direction, united in a single direction.
So it's a unifying act.
And then once having been unified,
well then you can bring that unity
to bear on a variety of different tasks.
But you have to bring it together first.
So, and that, that makes sense developmentally.
You see, children start out
as a disparate bundle of motivations and emotions,
sort of warring with one another.
And then they can integrate that into single
games that they can play with themselves.
And then they integrate that with games
they start to play with other people.
And all of that is integration.
It's not subjugation, it's not repression.
Not if it's a good game, it's integration.
You want to get integrated because then you have
all the horses that are pulling
your chariot pulling in the same direction.
And you're much more likely to get to where you want to go then.
And also much more likely to specify a good place to go.
So, that's another,
that's something else conservatives have to teach young people.
Which is, well, get yourself disciplined.
Well, why?
Well, not so you're a slave,
but so that you could be a master.
To use a terminology that you're not supposed to use anymore.
But, you know, this is in relationship to yourself.
Not to others.
So, yeah.
And to begin with, you have to accept an external master.
Because,
you just don't have the wisdom to do that for yourself,
or the ability, or the opportunity often.
Everybody knows this.
They feel bad when they...
They decide they're going to put,
get themselves in good shape and go to the gym and lasts like three attempts.
Yeah.
And then no one's happy about the fact that they quit
and they berate themselves for it.
And we know that we need to go through a disciplinary process
and we need to subjugate ourselves to a disciplinary process.
That's part of the problem with the constant harping about the,
you know, oppressive patriarchy,
but you need a disciplinary process.
So.
Well, that's just oppression and slavery.
It's like, no, it's not.
No more than a game is,
not a good game.
A good game isn't oppression and slavery.
You know, a lot of people, like I was talking about taking the path of least resistance.
I believe, in life, you must earn the right to be called a man.
And a lot of people do not think the way I do, and that's fine.
I'm not asking you to be David Goggins.
Trust me, it's a hard f***** road to home.
It's not fun.
It's not fun all the time.
But the thing about it is, you have to look,
I, I looked at my hardships as challenges.
Once I got over the pity party,
cause I went through that phase.
Of course.
I'm a normal human being, but I realized
that that got me exactly where I was at, even worse.
As I looked at those challenges
the way most people do, woe is me.
Why the f*** can't I get a break?
Why, I wish I was better.
I wish my parents were better.
I wish I had a better education.
I wish this, I wish that.
They have all these wish sandwiches.
I started realizing,
how can I f****** figure out how this shit can f**** work for me?
So the one thing we don't do is we don't,
when we're in that dark place,
that dark place is a great learning environment.
If you can sit back in a dark place and find quiet,
to this think
there's so much power
in your failures, in your f*****, in your suffering.
Because why?
You're still alive.
You're still f****** here.
So you gotta look at that s***.
It's my god, man.
This is power, man.
Like, now I gotta flip this s***.
How many men will be able to do what I'm
about to do, what I'm about to try to do?
Literally, what gave me strength was when I was at the worst of my worst,
how many men would even **** say they want to try to be a Navy SEAL right now?
I'm at the worst spot of my life.
Like, I can't even walk down the street, let alone run down the street.
And I'm gonna now call a recruiter up
and try to be a SEAL.
There's a lot of power in that,
but people don't see it that way.
They see it, man, that's stupid.
I had this voice in the back of my head that I kept on running from.
I was afraid of the water.
I was afraid of dealing with things
that made me feel unaccepted.
I didn't accept myself,
so I kept on going towards things that I felt good.
Let me go this way but something kept on saying,
m******, you, you have it, man.
You got it, man.
But you're going to have to fail a lot,
but you have it.
And like I said, that that voice kept on haunting, but that voice kept on saying,
if you face it,
you realize it's not that bad.
Persistence is self discipline in action.
Your ability to persist in the face of all setbacks and temporary failures
is essential to success in life.
Napoleon Hill said,
persistence is to the character of man as carbon is to steel.
The primary reason for success is persistence,
and likewise the primary reason for failure
is lack of persistence, quitting too soon.
There is a direct link between self discipline and self esteem.
Each time you discipline yourself
to do what you should do,
when you should do it,
whether you feel like it or not, your self esteem increases.
This is why there is direct relationship
between self esteem and persistence.
Each time you persist and force yourself to continue on,
even when you feel like quitting, your self esteem goes up.
Each act of self discipline strengthens
every other act of self discipline.
Every act
of persistence strengthens every other act of persistence.
When you discipline yourself to persist
over and over, you like and respect yourself more and more.
You become stronger and more confident.
Eventually, you become unstoppable.
Persistence is its own reward.
Every time you force yourself to persist on a task,
whether it is large or small,
you feel happier and better about yourself.
When you go the extra mile and do more
than you are paid for
or more than is expected, your self esteem goes up.
You feel more powerful
and in greater control of your life.
In your career, when you go the extra mile,
you put yourself on the side of the angels.
The primary difference between winners and losers in life is simple,
winners never quit, and quitters never win.
Your ability to respond effectively to setbacks,
your level of response ability
is the measure of your readiness to succeed.
When you experience a major setback or problem,
you will feel temporarily stunned.
This feeling is very much like a punch
in the emotional solar plexus.
You will be stopped for a few seconds or a few minutes.
During this period,
you will often feel discouraged or experience self pity.
You will say, why me?
However, it is not how far you fall that counts,
but rather how high you bounce.
Your aim is to bounce back as quickly as possible.
Resilience in the face of unexpected reversals is vital
to long term success.
Remember the warrior's creed,
I will lay me down to bleed a while and then rise and fight again.
Don't be surprised, shocked,
or set back when things go wrong.
Your best laid plans will often fall apart.
Instead, expect disappointments
and setbacks as a part of life.
Take a deep breath,
pick up the pieces, and continue onward.