Hey everyone Travis Robertson CEO and founder of Robertson Coaching International - where
we help people just like you create businesses that support your life, not businesses that
run your life.
And today is part two of our three-part series on overcoming and battling your fears that're
holding you back from getting to where you want to go.
As I talked about in the last video, we are only born with two fears hard-wired into us:
the fear of falling and the fear of loud noises.
Every other fear we have, you guys, is a learned fear, meaning that just as easily as we learn
how to be afraid of something we can learn we can unlearn how to be afraid of it as well.
and so we can unlearn the fear as easily as we've learned it.
now as I mentioned in the last one, we are not talking about phobias.
I'm not gonna teach you how to overcome your fear spiders (or my fear spiders).
I'm gonna talk with you about those things that are holding you back from the big ambitions,
the big dreams, and the big goals that you have for your business or your life, right?
those doubts, those fears, those concerns, and they usually present themselves as these
negative kind of scripts or tapes that play in our head over and over and over again.
and in the first video what we talked about was loss pain, right?
This idea that if I go for something that I really really want, something really good
in my life I'm also gonna lose something on the journey.
I'm gonna lose something as a result of trying to get more so therefore I don't wanna go
for more if I'm gonna lose this over here.
we kind of create these false dichotomies or these false choices.
I can either have this or I can have that but I can never have both.
and that's not really how life works.
and so I want you if you haven't watched that, go back and watch it.
understand how to overcome that loss pain in your life so you can really get to that
next level.
now the second one that we're gonna be talking about today is hardship pain, right?
And this is the pain or discomfort of the actual journey or the actual effort that we
need to put in to get to that next level in our business or in our life.
and most people don't realize that they actually can sometimes can be afraid of that journey.
and and it often presents as "I don't know if I'm afraid to step out of my comfort zone."
Right?
It's a comfort zone conversation.
now there's a lot of different ways that the fear of hardship or the hardship pain can
present and usually it comes with this idea that "well I don't know if I have what it
takes to get to that next level.
I don't know if I have what it takes to really go on this journey, to put the time and the
effort in.
I mean, I don't know if I'm smart enough, or good enough, or pretty enough, or thin
enough, or athletic enough."
Whatever it is we start to doubt our ability to take the journey that we know lies ahead
of us.
and so we start to fear the journey itself.
and sometimes it's just "I don't even know where to start.
Like where do I begin with this thing.
You know I wanna go from point a to point B but man that gap is so big that where do
I begin?"
And so we start to doubt our ability to even figure it out.
And so how do we battle this?
how do we battle this type of fear in our lives and in our business?
Well first what we have to realize is that you have an amazing ability to figure things
out.
And when you're afraid of these things, what you're basically saying is you doubt your
ability to learn how to do what you need to do.
And is it gonna challenge you, is it going to push you, is it gonna drive you out of
your comfort zone? of course it is, but I also believe in your ability and also my ability
to figure out what I need to figure out in order to get to that next level.
If I need to learn a new skill or learn a new habit or to do research on something,
you know what?
I believe I can figure that out and I believe you can as well.
the second thing is we need to start to learn to appreciate and enjoy the journey.
I mean, think about it this way: think about anything great you have in your life, whether
that's a relationship or business or a marriage, whatever it is that you have that's great
your life, did you get it because it was easy?
Of course not!
anything great in your life only comes on the back side of trial and challenge and hard
work.
A great marriage doesn't just happen.
wonderful kids don't just happen.
a great business doesn't just show up one day and go hey let's just have a wonderful,
incredible business.
You've gotta work for you it.
You've gotta hustle for it.
and think about movies.
I love big movies, like the big, epic movies,you know the Bravehearts and the gladiators.
we all love what we call the hero's journey, right?
that that battle that they have to go on, the hardship, the trials, the efforts that
they have to take and we romanticize it for everybody else before ourselves.
and when we look at our hero's journey that we've gotta go on, we start going "well that's
too much.
I can't do it.
I don't know if I'm enough."
that's why it's called the hero's journey because somewhere inside you is a hero.
somewhere inside you is somebody who says "you know I am good enough.
I can do this and I believe I can figure this out.
Is it gonna be hard?
heck yeah, it's going to be hard!"
but you know what?
maybe it's time to romanticize your own journey and to realize that this is that next stage
for you.
this is that next level and it's gonna require you to push outside of your comfort zone but
you know what? that's a good thing.
there's nothing good that comes from staying inside the safe area right?
you never learn how to swim by staying in the shallow end of the pool.
You've got to venture out into something more challenging, something more interesting and
ultimately that's what makes life exciting, isn't it?
the challenge and the battle and realizing that when we get to the other side, it wasn't
so much where we were going that was important, it was the realization that it was who we
were becoming.
you see everybody loves a comeback story, but nobody ever wants the setbacks that create
the comebacks.
See, you can't ever let your setbacks hold you back from actually experiencing your comeback.
understand with the setback is, figure out what you need to do and move forward.
start to learn to love the journey that you're on.
your hero's journey.
and I look forward to hearing your stories about your journey at the different events
that I get to meet each and every one of you at.
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