In this video, I'm gonna be sharing with you seven cracking signs of a great relationship.
Seven signs that a man is healthy for you, and you should not be letting that relationship
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Seven signs, your relationship is healthy for you. So if you're in a relationship right
now, these are signs that I've found over the years signal really powerful and healthy
relationships for my clients. And if you're not in one right now, then have a listen to
this and start to think, "Okay, have I felt these with different people before and how
can I bring these together in my relationship in the future?"
Number one, you don't feel like you have to do anything to keep his interest.
What a powerful and healthy relationships sign, where you really feel someone is there for you
rather than what you can do for them, right?
This means you can enjoy yourself in the moment with him. This means you feel totally
accepted for who you are by him, which also means you can learn to accept
yourself even more. And it means that when you do do things for him,
you're doing them because it lights you up to do it.
And it gives you more energy to do something nice for him. It makes you feel more loved
and loving to do something nice for him. You're not doing it through fear
or obligation or because you feel like he will love you less if you don't do the thing.
When you're in a relationship where you feel like you don't have to do anything to
keep his interest, his interest is just there by default, just for you, for who you are,
then that is a massive sign your relationship is uber healthy.
Number two, you always, always, always, always feel respected by him.
So I spoke about this in another video, I'm reiterating it here because it is such
a healthy relationship sign.
Mark Manson, one of my favorite authors check out his stuff, did a big, big study of
over 1500 couples. And what he found was that in these 1500 couples
who had all been married 20 plus years,
was that the number one thing that kept them together was not communication,
was not even kindness, but was respect. When they were together,
when they were separate,
when they were going through tough times, when they were going through great times,
the common factor was they would always respect
each other. So if you always feel respected by him, especially when things are not going
so well, when maybe you guys are a bit annoyed at each other, or when there's just a bit
of a negative dip in the relationship, if you still always feel respected during that
time, that is a wonderful sign your relationship is healthy.
Number three, big one, super healthy.
You're not confused about his interest. This one really speaks for itself. And so so many
clients who come to me, women who come to me, it's confusion over interest. Does he
like me? Is he into me? Why won't he commit? He does this. He's so warm. He comes towards
me, then he pulls away. I don't hear from him for a week.
So much confusion. Okay? What is a world of confusion if you're spending all your time,
you know, especially if you're spending months or years in these situations? You're going
to be spending months or years confused!
You know if you're spending months or years confused
about someone's interest, you're going to be spending months or years, starting to feel
confused about why you're not good enough or what's wrong with you. That's where we
go back into the child mindset, where if we didn't have the best upbringing, we start
to wonder what's wrong with us. Well, the same thing's going to happen if you're in
an adult relationship where you're feeling confused about someone's interest.
So if you're in a relationship where no matter what happens, whether you're taking
a bit of space, whether you're a bit annoyed at each other, whether
you're having a great day, whether you're having not so great day, that no matter what
happens, you know, that that guy loves you.
There's no question of his interest. If you're in a relationship like that, that is a powerful
sign your relationship is very healthy. Number four, your self confidence is higher than
it used to be, even when he's not around.
So co-dependence, and that means you're basically enmeshed with him.
That means your confidence or your self worth relies on him. So if he
goes down or if he's not around, you're not going to be able to bring that confidence
out. But interdependence means that you can have your confidence. You can still lean on
that person, but there's healthy boundaries in between, and you'll notice this because
you'll know when you move away from him, when he's not in the room,
when he's not physically around, you look at yourself and you say,
"Wow, my confidence has actually gone up as
an individual." If your confidence is going up, if your self worth is higher, if you're
more taking more chances, if you're doing more things more self-belief,
that is a wonderful sign that relationship is healthy.
Number five, your body insecurities have lessened or eliminated in the relationship.
So we talk a lot about loving ourselves and it's true the more that you find love
for yourself, the more you're going to find that reflected in a man.
But no, one's perfect. And you don't
have to unconditionally perfectly love yourself to qualify for a relationship, right?
You're going to have insecurities. You're going to have things you don't love about yourself.
You're gonna have things that you might not like, especially when it comes to your body.
But it's cool because in a great relationship, this can work the other way. So you'll notice
that sometimes when you're in a great relationship,
you might have those little insecurities,
but the man loving them and accepting you for them actually means that as an individual,
you accept them more in yourself. This is something I noticed in myself as I went through
good relationships was that things I used to be insecure about with one woman, when
she totally accepted them, in my next relationship, that was just something
that I owned.
That was no longer an insecurity. So if your body insecurities have lessened, if you're
feeling more accepting of your body, more confident about your body while you're with
someone, that is a wonderful sign your relationship is healthy.
Number six, you're not afraid to show any interest in him, right?
How often do we hear the advice, play hard to get, treat him mean, keep him keen.
Stay away. And it's true, sometimes in the short term, that can
generate attraction, but what the hell do you do after that? What are you going to do?
Play hard to get once he's your boyfriend, once he's your partner, once she's your wife?
You're just going to keep being avoidant to attract the avoidant guy?
You can't fake this, right? So in a healthy relationship, it's not weird to show interest
in your partner. You can do whenever you want. You show interest.
You want to give him kisses.
You want to say, I miss you. You want to do all the things that they're normal, and it's
not weird for either of you to receive that interest from the other. What this really
communicates underneath is that you are comfortable with your independence
during closeness. And when it comes to someone who's avoidant or
a man who's emotionally unavailable, what that at a deeper level really means is that
when a woman, when you move close to them, they start to fear that loss of independence
and they move away. But in a healthy relationship,
you can give each other compliments, you can move closer,
and it doesn't become a threat to your independence.
You have confidence in your independence, in closeness. That is interdependence, and
that is a wonderful sign of a healthy relationship.
Number seven, there is a wonderful friendship underneath your chemistry.
So often in popular culture. And just even in ourselves, we can get distracted by
the sexual chemistry, by the energy, by the connection. But could you
hang out with that person all day without sexual vibes at all?
Would you want to do that? Would you consider this person one of
your best friends? The mark of a great relationship
is that you can go from that sexual polarity, that masculine-feminine polarity passion to
equal friendship model. This is a best friend. This is someone I respect. This is someone
whose values I admire. This is someone I'd want to spend a day with, even if there was
no sexual chemistry that way involved. If you have an amazing friendship underneath
the chemistry where you guys can talk about anything, you can hang out and it's not weird,
this is someone I'd want to spend my time with, wow!
That is a wonderful sign of a healthy relationship
and the seventh sign of a great relationship to not let go of.
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about your healthy relationship sign. Now, if you're in a relationship, tell me what's
healthy about it. I'd love to hear it. If you're not in a relationship, what's the big
thing, the big, healthy piece that you're going to make sure you get in the future?
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