Hey, it's Mark here, founder of Make Him Yours and creator of Love in Five Steps. I had a
question written into me from one of my subscribers. Now, make sure you become one if you haven't
already. Bottom right corner. Corina Lewis said, "I'm 26 and both my younger sisters
are engaged, and I'm now single again. In my culture, the women marry in their early twenties
and I'm starting to feel very judged for being single. How can I get a boyfriend as soon
as possible?" Well, it's not the first time I've been asked a question like this. So for
Corina and everyone else who's interested, today, I'm talking about how to get a boyfriend
and not just any boyfriend, a boyfriend who's right for you. Don't go anywhere.
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Okay, Corina. First of all, you are 26. This is the rest of your life we're talking about.
It's a very long time. You don't want to rush this and pick the wrong person. It might seem
like a nice idea to be married at 27, but I would much rather see you find the right
person at 30 if that's how long it takes than to rush things with the wrong person
at 27 and end up divorced at 35. Now, how do we go about getting you the right boyfriend
in the shortest possible amount of time? This is a big question. I broke down a similar
question in a lot of detail in my video, How To Find Love. If you haven't watched that one,
I'll put a link to that one in the description, and it basically breaks down in description
as well as up there and it basically breaks down the whole process that I use with clients.
But today, I thought, Corina, rather than bug you down in detail, I want to give you one
simple idea that you can apply right now that's going to allow you to find and get into the
relationship of your dreams with the right person. We all want a great result in our
dating lives. It's while we pluck up the courage to go out and meet people. It's what gave
me motivation to conquer my own fears, and it's why you've taken the time to watch my
video right now and why Corina took the time to message me. You know that results in this
area of your life are so worth it when you find the right guy who's just right for you.
The problem is dating is the one place, the one area of life where focusing on the result
can get you into a lot of trouble.
Think about when a man approaches you in a bar and within the first few minutes you can
already tell he's only after one thing. You get the sense that guy has an agenda. He didn't
get to know you. He didn't spend time figuring out if you were the right person for him.
You're just part of his plan to get the result he wants. Or imagine if you met a man who
was totally unhappy in his life and complained and whined and said, "I'll just be happy if
I can have a relationship. Will you have one with me?" Both of these situations, both of
these men are going to be a total turn off, right? Well, the same applies to getting a
relationship. Lots of women think of dating as an annoyance, like a speed bump to get
over as quickly as possible so they can be in a relationship and on the road to marriage.
The problem is if you see dating as a speed bump to a relationship, you become like the
guy who sees talking to you as a speed bump to getting sex. You're going to push the good
men away because you're now coming at them with an agenda. The good guys don't want a
woman who rushes straight in with the result in mind without taking the time to get to
know him and them first. He wants a woman who loves her life and is happy where she's
at that he can win over and win into a relationship. That's what the purpose of dating is. That's
what dating is for. If you want to lose weight and get your sexy body back, that might be
your end goal, but the real action that gets you there is going to the gym. If you just
focused on showing up at the gym every single day, you'd lose more weight than you're expecting
and have one hell of a sexy body in much less time than you think.
Going to the gym isn't the speed bump on your way to a sexy body. Going to the gym is the
road itself and dating isn't a speed bump to getting a boyfriend. Dating is the road
itself. When you focus on the actions that lead to a relationship rather than the result
of getting a relationship, you're making life happen for yourself and building your dream
without coming at men with any sort of agenda. So create habits where you get really good
at meeting people, introducing yourself to men everywhere. Talk to three guys on the
phone every single night. Put that time aside. Invest that time into your dating life. Go
on three dates every week and build confidence flirting, even if the dates are only 30 minutes
each. If you took even a small portion of this amount of action, your dating results
would skyrocket and I guarantee you, you'd find the right boyfriend before you knew it.
When you forget the results and focus on the actions, staying in the dating phase and mastering
that, then just like if you master going to the gym every day, the result you want is
going to materialize in your life sooner than you thought possible without you having to
directly aim for it. Well, that's it! I really hope that helps you, Corrina and gives you
a different way to think about this problem. If you want your question answered as well,
make sure you leave it in the comments below. I want to do a lot more of these sort of question,
answer videos from all my amazing subscribers. If you're not one yet, make sure you hit the
button in the bottom right of the screen or on the end screen right now below me.
Leave a comment. Let me know what you think. Give it a thumbs up, and I'll talk to you very soon.