Heya playas, maintaining a solid and stable relationship requires a lot of work. If you
want to know how much work that really is, check out the hit tv show Married at First
Sight on FYI network. A group of experts chose 6 New York singles to participate in a marriage
experiment to see if arranged marriages, based on personalities could work. In this video
I'll share with you 5 ways to make your relationship work which is very similar to the advice I
gave Jason Carrion on Married at First Sight. This is The Josh Speaks. You're watching The
Josh Speaks. A few of you guys have left comments letting me know that you've spotted me in
a few of the episodes before. Well just as a sidebar, I'm going to be making a huge appearance
in tonight's episode to talk to Jason about what is really required of partner in a relationship.
First, practice trust with your partner. Sometimes insecurities seep in to our minds and make
us second guess our partner's moves. And in an effort to prevent ourselves from getting
hurt we act reserved but are still weary about what they do. This may lead to you sneaking
around to check their phone to see who they're texting or you may just flat out tell them
that you don't want them to talk to any other guys or girls. Only when we're open to trust,
that we can be honest about what makes us uncomfortable. Part of being open to trust
is having your partner know that they can share their thoughts freely without having
to worry about how you may respond. If you want to build trust with your partner, don't
hold back on how you feel. It's when you bottle up all your feelings and then spring it on
them that they end up becoming more reserved themselves and feeling like they can't trust
you. Next, practice commitment with your partner. This can be kind of confusing because the
idea of "cheating" can come off as being very vague or broad. When I say commitment, I mean
more than just physically. It means sticking by your partner's side when they need you
the most, even when they've said things that may have bruised your ego. Every relationship
is different. Some people want one partner, some people want multiple partners. The key
here is to never do anything that you wouldn't want your partner to do. Although sometimes
we may feel that there are double standards, if you're doing something that would hurt
your partner if they found out, then be respectful of them and just don't do it. Three, practice
flexibility with your partner. Because let's be honest here, you're not gonna find someone
that's gonna wanna do 100% of the same things that you want to. Different people have different
interests and that's not something to be sad or upset about, it's something to celebrate.
It's good to have activities that you can do with your partner and activities that you
could do with your friends. But, you can't hold it against your partner if they don't
always want to participate in the activities with everyone else. As long as they support
you and what you do and you support them, then you guys can still enjoy that moment
just by actively listening to each other. Because flying off the handle at them is only
gonna make things worse. Number four, practice compassion with your partner. So many couples
get hung up in the little details of situations and they end up forgetting the bigger picture.
The two of you deeply care about one another and that's the approach you have to take when
you speak. Being verbally abusive, name calling or insulting someone is no way to talk to
them. In fact what you're doing is masking your own hurt and putting it on them. Then
when they feel bad, you end up thinking that you feel better because you're no longer focusing
on your own hurt but now you're watching them experience theirs. And as it turns out, nothing
gets solved and all you end up with are two people that are unwilling to be accepting
or forgiving. Remember, it's ok to admit when you're wrong because you're partner doesn't
win if you're unhappy. So instead make it a double win by aiming to keep yourself happy
and them as well. And finally, practice romance with your partner. It's really easy to fall
into a rut where you got them by your side and you don't have to try anymore. Having
a partner that goes out of their way to make you feel special, whether it's giving you
spontaneous gifts or just recognizing the little things goes a long way. Here's a quick
and easy way for you to be more romantic. Make a secret calendar filled with events
for the two of you tp do. Sit down one day for like an hour and choose a bunch of restaurants,
parks, and events that you could go to. Take those and just plop them in random places
on the calendar. Then when you see that date is coming up, tell your partner you have a
surprise for them and then take them out. And if they're busy that day, then just do
it another day. It comes off as spontaneous and romantic and you can plan all of your
dates in one hour. What do you guys think though, do you have trouble making your relationship
work? Leave your comments below so we can talk about it. And don't forget that tonight
at 9PM EST I'll be making a special appearance on the show Married at First Sight, you'll
definitely want to check that out. Plus, anyone who watching the episode, spots me, and then
tweets me or messages me will get a shout out in my next video. If you follow these
five steps then you'll be well on your way to a relationship that is happy, healthy and
heartwarming. Man that sounds corny. As always guys, love and peace. Hey thanks for watching.
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