My parents had a maths tutor for me because they wanted me to be amazing at math
I was pretty good at numbers and I'd have this tutor and he'd tell me that, he goes.
The reason that you're struggling with the next question
is because you're always worried about what your parents think.
And, and that really stayed in my head.
I was just like wow, so as long as I'm trapped by what my parents think
I can actually never find the answers to the real questions of life.
Most of us just throw ourselves into the deep end
and then try swimming and figuring it out
The problem is we all went to normal schools
that try to put stuff in us rather than takes stuff out of us.
You know, you were told at school that you weren't very good
and you weren't good at English
and now you have a New York Times Bestseller, right?
And it's like, no one noticed that potential inside you.
No one noticed that "Oh, Lewis was really creative"
and you're not the only person, there're so many people who feel like that.
So the modern schooling system didn't
extrapolate your Self-actualization, your element
and just try to put maths, English, science inside.
So the point is that you're trying to get to such a strong foundation
that when you interact in the world
you're going with a sense of strength, fuel, energy to make a difference
rather than going into the world and then going
"Oh my god, where am I?" trying to figure it out.
People were so far removed from their own understanding of themselves
that they were either lost living a life they didn't want to,
Lost living up to someone else's expectations
or lost becoming someone to impress someone else.
How many of you have a crazy dream or a crazy goal?
I want you to write out in the comment section
What is your crazy dream?
The dream that keeps you up at night
is the real dream you should be chasing
but to chase that dream,
to find that dream, to make that dream a reality
you need a strategy, right?
A dream without a plan is just a wish, Tony Robbins said that
Right! "A dream without a plan is just a wish"
You can't be what you can't see.
If I never saw a monk, I would have never wanted to be a monk
if I never meet a billionaire, I wouldn't want to be one
because I wouldn't know what that feels like
I don't know what it looks like, I don't know what it takes.
What am I good at?
What do I love?
What does the world need?
and how do I get paid for it?
To me those four help you unlock your passion.
I often say to people, "Your passion is for you,
your purpose is for others."
Your passion makes you happy
but when you use your passion to make a difference in someone else's life
that's a service, that's a purpose.
My goal has never been financially or materially oriented
I see that stuff as the byproduct of doing what you love
I genuinely, genuinely believe that
it's always been that way around for me.
My focus is to create entertainment
that truly has educational value
but without us always knowing it.
I think we all learn best when we don't know that we're learning
if we're all pushed into a classroom and told we have a class
we're all not listening
Start at a place
where you have self-awareness, self-actualization.
You have figured out what works for you, what your strengths are
So I think it starts even at a physical level
Anyone who's a physical fitness or health coach
will know that different bodies
need different food, different sleep, different fluids
we don't all need the same thing.
Me and you with different body types can't do the same workout.
Our bodies have different tolerances in different things
that's self-awareness at the physical level.
We know our limits, we know what we can do,
we know what we can't do, we know what a challenge is.
On a mental level, what's self-awareness?
Knowing what type of people I like to be with
knowing who helps me grow and who drains me.
That's mental self-awareness.
I believe that
the answers come from within
and we're not asking the right questions.
I feel we're always looking for the right answers not the right question.
And the biggest companies that we respect today
the biggest organizations, all came from trying to answer a question.
It all came from trying to solve a problem
or a question that we were able to identify.
So my work comes from a very simple study that I read
that said, "The most successful people in the world
choose education over entertainment
and the most unsuccessful people in the world
choose entertainment over education."
I Know people who graduated at 21
and didn't get a job till they were 27
I know people who graduated late at 25
and they found work immediately.
I know people who never went to university
but found what they loved at 18.
I know people that have found a job straight out of college.
making decent money, but hate what they do.
I know people who took gap years and found their purpose.
I know people who were so sure about what they were going to do at 16
and change their mind at 26.
I know people who have children but are single.
and I know people who are married
but have had to wait 8 to 10 years to have children.
I know people in relationships
who love someone else.
I know people who love each other
but aren't together.
So my point is
everything in life happens according to our time, our clock.
You may look at some of your friends and think that they're ahead of you
maybe some of them you feel are behind.
But everything happens at their own pace.
They have their own time and clock
and so do you
be patient.
At age 25, Mark Cuban was a bartender in Dallas
It took till 32 for J.K. Rowling to be published for Harry Potter
after being rejected by 12 publishers.
Ortega launched Zara when he was 39.
Jack Ma started Alibaba when he was 35
Morgan Freeman got his big break at 52
Steve Carell only got his break after 40 years old.
Virgin was started by Richard Branson at 34.
Getting your degree after 25 is still an achievement
not being married at 30 but still happy is beautiful.
Starting a family after 35 is still possible.
And buying a house after 40 is still great
Don't let anyone rush you with their time-lines
because as Einstein said
"Not everything that counts can be counted
and not everything that's counted truly counts."
and this is the most important thing.
I want you to be able to create
meaningful, purposeful, fulfilling lives for yourselves
and learn how to use that
to make an impact and a difference in the lives of others.
That will be true success.
Priority is on the root of things
not the leaf of the symptoms.
You're not dealing with your challenges at symptomatic level
you're dealing with it at root level.
Right! people say, "I'll just rest, I'll just take a stress pill"
"If you're stressed out just go to get a massage."
"If you're stressed out just relax watch Netflix and chill"
but all that's doing is pacifying you escape
for that hour, two hours, maybe a week
But going to the root of it and learning how to change your breath
then you can manage any situation in life.
Always go to the root.
It will take longer, but it will last longer.
Always go to the root, cut down the root of that weed in your heart.
Cut down the root of that weed in your mind.
Don't just let it grow and kind of water it a little bit
and snip snip cut it a little bit
just really go to the root, just knock it out.
Get rid of it, get a big axe and cut it down.
The biggest weeds that we all get is in our intention
So when I say intention I mean
my current intention is to use everything I've been given
everything that I have in the service of others.
But every day that intention which is a beautiful little plant that's growing
gets weeds around it.
No, do it for the money
just do it for the fame, do it for the followers
do it for this all these weeds
are like growing around my real intention every day.
Every day that's a weed
a weed is the intention that you don't want
and the problem is sometimes you've let it grow so much
the weed looks like the plant
and you start believing it's the same thing.
I've always had friends who are older than me,
and I can see a lot of them in the most successful careers
successful jobs
beautiful partners whatever it was.
But I saw a sense of lack of fulfillment meaning and purpose in that lives.
And I've always been an observer
and I would see these people are like 5 years old than me
7 years older than me, maybe 10 years older than me.
And I'd be watching them and go "Is that the life I want?"
and often the advice I give to people today is
Fast-forward where you are
look at yourself in 10, 15, 20 years time
and ask yourself the question
Is that where I want to be?
I think it's Thomas Edison who says
"When you feel you've exhausted every option
remember you haven't."
And Einstein said, "if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree
it will spend its whole life believing that it's stupid."
and too many of us are fish trying to climb a tree.
Too many of us are monkeys being taught how to swim.
Too many of us are lions being taught to live like cats.
We're not getting to live in our element
Live in that element that you've naturally been given.
Don't try to adopt another
you know, we've all got a special genius inside of us.