social media is kind of like a dirty hi we think that once we get a certain
number of followers then we could finally feel 100%
whole and complete now let's ask the question how many followers does it take
till I can finally feel worthy when we look on social media it's quite easy to
see that we believe the more followers we get the more people that pay
attention to our stuff the more fulfilled and satisfied we may feel
however many times what that causes is people to do whatever they can in order
to get approval and validation and that has a dark negative side effect and in
this video I'm gonna show you exactly what that is how many followers it
really takes for you to feel worthy and how you can bypass it so that you don't
experience that I believe this could be one of the most powerful videos you
watch on social media and it's something that can change your life welcome back
to Metta video my name is Aaron and I help people expand their consciousness
now in this video I'm gonna be sharing with you understanding the comparison
trap on social media right now I'm not saying anything this to brag or anything
but just so you know I know what I'm talking about
I've been on YouTube for about three years now I have one of those play
button things over there I have a camera set up in my house I have camera set up
on different parts of my house because I do a lot of filming and I've been doing
this for a while so first up just know that I've been doing this I'm caught
talking from experience when I share the stories from my own life on this and
also it's just something to understand that what I'm saying I think can save
you a lot of time my social media journey started back in 2017 I was
making videos once a week on YouTube and I just didn't feel like I was really
where I really wanted to be I was working a nine-to-five job selling
women's shoes and I decided in a moment that I wanted to be a full-time youtuber
and I wasn't going to sit with the old like reality of going to a job I didn't
like anymore so I said no matter what every day for the next year no pretty
much going forward I'm gonna make a video a day until I'm a full-time
youtuber so I told myself that and what I did is I ended up going for it so I
worked at nine-to-five job I'd get up in the morning I'd go to it when I got off
I would film video schedule a video to go out the
next day edit everything and then there it would go so I was very busy doing
that and over the course of a couple months my channel went from 3,500
subscribers about a month into it three weeks into it I had a video that went
viral that was this video right here that video got like two 300,000 views
within the first couple weeks and that took my channel from about 3,000
subscribers all the way up to over 27 thousand subscribers so that started to
gain momentum for me and that's when it started to happen to where I started to
feel the validation of growing on social media or YouTube what happened is a few
months after that I started to grow started to gain momentum and I learned
that I could do a couple different things start coaching people so that I
could go full-time on YouTube so that's exactly what I began to do in August of
2017 after about five or six months of making daily videos I was able to quit
my job working at Barneys New York and women's shoes and I went full-time on
YouTube now I remember that in my mind I had it and I thought that once I hit
100,000 subscribers on YouTube I would then finally feel worthy it was
just this idea in my head it was my first ever goal on YouTube numbers-wise
and I remember thinking that and then going to bed one night I was at about 90
something thousand subs I went to Sedona about a month earlier and made a video
on 5 ways 5 things you must give up to raise your vibration instantly I'll go
and link that right here as well so you can see that thumbnail and that video I
did up going viral as well so that took my channel up to about 96 97 thousand
subscribers and I went to bed one night and I woke up the next morning and I was
at over a hundred thousand subscribers I thought it was gonna take a couple weeks
longer than it did but I had that other video that raise your vibration video go
viral and when it did it took me from 3 or 4
thousand subscribers pretty much overnight and I woke up at a hundred
thousand subs and I remember thinking to myself yes I finally hit it and that
feeling lasted about the time until about the time I went to the gym that
day literally I was at the gym on the bike doing a warm-up for a workout and
like appreciating grateful that it was at that it hit a hundred thousand there
was a goal I wanted to hit and it would finally happened and what happened after
that was a little bit disappointing I realized that even though I had gone
from you know zero or three thousand subs to a hundred thousand subs and even
though I was doing what I loved making videos part of me still felt like it
wasn't all it was hyped up to be part of me still felt like there was something
missing and I was like this feels just like it did at ninety thousand or eighty
thousand or seventy thousand there was no different in feeling from going from
zero to a hundred thousand subscribers on YouTube and shortly what I noticed
after that is after hitting 100,000 on YouTube I thought about it I appreciated
it for about an hour or two went to the treadmill noticed that my life are that
that elliptical the bike thing and realized that it really doesn't feel any
different whatsoever and in that moment what the mind do is the mind looked for
a higher number the mind then said well what about two hundred thousand two
hundred thousand it's not just like this one-time thing two hundred thousand
shows that you can really replicate this over and over again and think about that
maybe then you'd have people coming up to you in public and stuff like that
that's where the ego goes with this and let me tell you once again that was what
I could just kept making videos now let me also say this I'm making videos
because I love making videos and because I want to help people become more aware
of who they are if you haven't subscribed to the channel yet you could
see I have over a thousand videos showing people how to raise their
vibration how to more consciously create what you want in your life goals many
different things is stuff that I talk about I love talking about it however
there's a dark side to social media to where then once you get tapped into it
it's almost like it's self perpetual you feel like you always have to keep up you
feel like you need to always have a video better than the day before
and in my own life I've noticed this as well because the more that I try to
always get ahead and have a video that's like completely different than the other
videos a lot of times the more I end up resisting the natural process there was
a show there's a show called black mirror
and in this show there's different episodes I have like different themes
and I've watched a couple of them there actually is they're actually very
interesting episodes kind of like some of them are a futuristic and it's on
Netflix and there was this one episode that was on this girl that was going to
kind of like a social media contest in a way it's she's in a society where
everyone has this phone that they rate each other at so every time you have an
interaction with someone you rate them 0 to 5 stars and then you have a mass
rating of how people see you in this rating is kind of like a credit score
this rating is kind of like for you to get into certain groups for you to do
certain things have certain privileges and the higher your rating meaning the
more people like you the more that then you feel the more limited literally
you're you more worthy you are and the more privileges and freedom that you
have now in this you see people that are literally being really fakin nice to
each other just so that they can get more likes on their profile or more
likes on their their rating and at a certain point you see her she's
desperate to get more because she wants to move into this new place the actress
she wants to move into the new this new nice apartment building so she's been
really nice to people and one of there's like a counselor that helps you kind of
like a credit score counselor helps you with getting your merit system up and
told her hey you're being too desperate you're being too desperate and you're
trying to people can feel that off you they can feel it off you then they're
gonna retch you low and even though that was like you know that's a whole show
and of itself but the Med the message and the metaphor behind it is powerful
if we try and are needy for other people's approval that causes resistance
many times they won't give it but also that approval can only come from within
now on this journey what I've realized is no matter how many social media
followers you have your mind will always look for more the mind wants more the
mind wants more validation the mind wants more people if thinks that once I
eventually get there then I can feel happy and that's exactly
what I've found the trap is of this whole entire process there's also a
comparison trap when I first started on YouTube I was one of the
one of only a couple people making content on some of the topics that I
talked about there would there weren't that many now there's a lot more however
they're at it there also has come up certain things that has kind of brought
it out because sometimes sometimes people will in a way like when it when
you're on social media and you have certain ideas that you shared now of
course there's no really original ideas however I feel announced notice that
some people they just they they will take the ideas that she put out and when
that happens it can be very triggering to the to the ego very triggering it's
like what I came up with this unique idea this unique title this unique
thumbnail combination and now you got like five other people jumping on it and
using it and in a way that was something that I had to deal with as well because
there are people that would kind of see what my videos did well and then
replicate them and be making the daily videos was kind of like being a guinea
pig for people to kind of like figure out what works now social media will
bring up a whole bunch of stuff within you and then what I would do is I'd
compare myself to those people that did that and in a way feel like I had to
always keep up and always stay one step ahead in order for me to always kind of
remain in the level that I'm at on social media on YouTube on Instagram
whatever it is however the thing that I've realized is that the pout the
feeling of worthiness and validation it really only comes from within and once I
realize this once I let it go once I catch myself and it's a process I
continue to catch myself trying to go for some type of number and realizing
why am I really doing what I'm doing I'm doing it because this is who I am this
is what I love doing because I want to help people because of the connection
that I'm able to make with other people that's why I share a lot of my journey
even though it sounds vulnerable at times sharing some things that maybe you
guys haven't seen behind the surface but what happens is the more you are able to
tap into your own sense of worthiness and own sense of validation and really
being yourself to the videos I have that do the best are normally the videos that
I'm just being myself and I too learned that the hard way
because it becomes very easy to chase the use especially when you start
comparing yourself to other people other people that may be kind of in a way to
you know using similar ideas that you use so it's like you always have to feel
like you get a step ahead and there's this comparison trap to where it just
keeps perpetuating in itself and then I found myself even recently I'm like oh I
need to take things to the next level and and knowing that it's not a
technique it's not a certain keyword or a topic for me to take things to the
next level I just have to be myself more and as cheesy as that sounds the more I
myself the better I feel and then the better I feel the better content I make
that's what I've realized for this process now when it comes to worthiness
though understand this the more rules we have as to what it takes for us to be
worthy the least likely we are to say it now think about this anyways we have us
right here with a neck and what happens is we have us and then we give ourselves
these rules these rules that say I will feel worthy feel worthy win and these
these rules that we have that we say after that all have to be checked marked
in order to happen must happen in order for us to actually feel that worthiness
on the inside now the irony is that worthiness already exists all we have to
do is give ourself permission now to feel worthy that's the thing these rules
that we have on outside I will feel worthy when I have 1 million followers
when I have sort of out of money in the bank
when I have everyone like me when all of these things happen then I will feel
worthy but here's the thing many times we get caught up in our own sense of
worthiness and these rules don't even make sense
for example I have a goal of reaching a lot of people and helping them transform
their life through the videos I make so that's one goal and I have another goal
of it subconsciously of everyone liking me well what are the chances that
everyone's going to approve of me and give me validation if I'm also having a
goal of reaching a lot of people thing is is the more people
you reach the more likely there's gonna be people that don't approve of you that
don't like you so I had to become aware of this in my own life and I had to
change the way that I internally gave myself permission to feel loved and
worthiness and think of this as well worthiness worthy worth worth value so
here's the thing we normally have a belief system that says once I get a
certain number of social media followers then I'll feel worthy once I have a
certain amount of money then I'll feel worthy meaning I also have a certain
number of social media followers then I'll feel valuable I know that I'm of
value once I have a certain amount of money then I'll know that I have value
in the world when instead if we were to change around the way that we saw this
idea of worthiness and knew that I have worthy and value for simply being me
because I'm unique I have something unique to share and when we have that
frame we then feel valuable now and we're more creative to come up with cool
ideas creativity wise we're more likely to show up authenticity just in the in
the world expressing ourselves in a cool way
so the key to this whole entire video is knowing that the more rules we have
about worthiness which means how much value do we feel the number of rules
that we have the more rules we have the harder it is to fill what for us to feel
worthy if we realize that worthy is an inside job we can feel worthy by
noticing and appreciating the value we have for being us the more we will
eventually feel that approval and satisfaction we can only give it from
within even think about it when we say when these things happen then I will
feel happy when this thing on the outside happens about me having a lot of
followers and having a lot of money and everyone liking me happens then I'll
feel happy all we're doing is we're waiting and prolonging the happiness
that already exists in our own mind if I were to tell you hey you didn't know
this you don't know this but when you went to bed last night you have a social
media post that went viral now you have two million followers and you have all
these people that like - and all this crazy stuff and then all of a sudden you
feel this rush of adrenaline and you're in a rush of love and all of this
satisfaction but I'll tell you what that would go away very fast but this is the
thing the emotions already exists inside of you
it's just that you've then hit a rule inside of you that says once I have this
they don't feel happy so realize that all of this exists within worthiness is
an inside job no amount of social media followers will you hit and then finally
feel worthy unless you feel worthy for being you
worthy already even now I'm at I don't know what I was eight hundred some
thousand on YouTube and the mind is like what about a million and I know I know
this deep down that once I hit and once the it hits a million subscribers guess
what it's gonna feel the exact same as it does now but dang it does the ego
love to go for it that's the way it works the key here is all awareness
becoming aware of that so if you have it yet you can subscribe to my channel I
share five to seven times a week I make youtube videos showing people how to
become more aware of themselves and all the stuff that you'll see you'll see
more videos in the that I have similar to this as well other than that as
always peace which love I'm not mistake