Hey Everybody! I'm Marina and I run the channel Dating Beyond Borders. Today, we have episode two
of our new series, Rank Me. By the way if you like the channel and want to stay up to date on
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And now on to the video. We don't express emotions like the French. If you don't talk
about it, how do you know what pleases the other person? Is it more selfish of - let's see - That's
the philosophical French approach - Exactly. Let's talk about it first - and the more pragmatic Swedish approach.
Hi i'm Benjamin I'm from Lille, northern France. Hi I'm Vera i'm from Portugal. Hi I'm Peter and
I'm from Sweden. How's it going? I'm Clara and I'm from Ireland. Hello i'm Yiannis and I'm from Greece.
Hi I'm Josephine and I'm from Germany. So for the French, I would say we're pretty open sexually.
Did it came out weird? I think we secretly are open but we don't put it out there. We don't share that,
i think we keep it in secret. We are not that much about talking - we're more about doing - but you never
have people over! How do you have sex? That's - that's when we have people over. Okay - Ireland was kind of
like under the grasp of the Catholic church for quite a while but we were kind of shamed
into having 15 children and weren't really allowed wear condoms or do anything with ourselves. On the
offset of that, Ireland has become a bit confused. Not much to say after this but I would agree with Vera.
Where were are like secretly open about sex uh in Greece because they're still generally speaking
a more conservative society where you're supposed to get married, have a family, and all those kind
of stuff but it definitely happens but more on the down low. We don't have that religious part that
is holding us back. I don't know if they're very known for being super sexual like maybe we're not
the most flirtatious people but I do think we are very open for sex and just talk about German porn.
I don't know. I feel like you should go - I think I should go more there. French people I feel French
people talk a lot about it but they don't have it? I really don't agree on that no, I think it's more
liberated like we got rid of the church so many years ago and you know like sexual revolution
and stuff like that. I think we're really into it and also like a bunch of cliches that are like
partially correct. When you like when you see shows and stuff about like the men cheating on
their wife and their wife knowing and being more accepting and -that's the sexual openness - cheating?
No I would say like it's considered cheating for other cultures when it may be really open
relationship with others but would you sleep with someone on the first date? Of course -yes!
You need to be number one like if anyone knows anything about French cinema
and just those two words yeah okay get your [ __ ] ass up to number one right now.
Thank you Brigette Bardot!
Listen, listen, Lars von Trier, not even sure if he's French but my god he's pulled he's pulled out a
penis or two. He's Swedish is he Swedish? so you're like perfect! Switch it up - question for you guys and it's
me arguing my position - Do you think about Swedish people sexually? No no okay I go first. You're too
aesthetically pleasing it's just like you know untouchable almost untouchable. Yeah it's like
we don't need we don't need to have sex with you. We can have sex with each other - no that's fine
but you know what what are the rest of us doing here then? Irish people I think are like in the
newbie stages of experiencing or coming into their sexual liberation so yeah I feel like
I'd be pretty happy being here because like yeah I mean like we did churn out like a rake of children
like there's families that have like 20 children and you're like well they're clearly
doing something to make them. Well whether or not they're liberated in making them.
I'm good here personally. I'm good here when I think about Portugal like I said
I think we're a lot open-minded but we keep it a secret. Doesn't Portuguese have like
a lot of songs with like all these like double meanings about sex? It has actually like
if you listen to his songs yeah yeah he means something else. Every time - gasolina- that's Spanish!
There is definitely some sexual uh liberation over the last decade or so but still like it's on the
secret uh on the low side. If in terms of being open and talking about it and being expressive
about it I think that the French are more expressive about sex as I said in the beginning
we focus more on the doing rather than the talking so well the the talking about it makes the doing
more like open and more like you know. It's more the activity. Yeah we got that they speak it's
right yeah yeah sometimes it is a sport sometimes it is an activity so much more than sports
it's like art for french people yeah you know but also I think like the fact that we speak about it
and a lot of our culture cinema and like you said literature is a has a lot of uh sex in it, without
it being a taboo or something that was prohibited to read or to watch. Uh they're actually like
old movies from France like black and white movies that are more uh open than movies that
we do right now and the conversation can happen in families and stuff pretty easily.
It still is it really is it really is like it will depend massively on who you're talking to
but yes like family and any kind of family like you'd rather throw yourself off a building than
talk to your family about that like maybe when you're women as well it's different than a men?
Oh yeah like women in Ireland just don't have vaginas. We just like there's nothing down
there like there's nothing happening yeah yeah It's just imagining - these babies just come out
of nowhere - thanks to jesus and stuff at least for me at least. When I was growing up it's not like I
could have a boyfriend for like a couple months and then switch boyfriends you know. that's very
normal here right. Good lord not not for me! I had a boyfriend over to my house actually after
like a year of dating him and it was just this whole thing of like let's just pretend nothing's
happening let's just pretend that they're together and they're just doing nothing like I could see
it in my mom's face and she was just like yeah okay yeah okay he's going now okay. I can talk
to my family about sex. Oh gosh I mean, I don't go into details obviously but yeah I can talk about
sex to my family. Same my grandma can like know things like I wouldn't mind and she wouldn't mind
as well. It might be like uncomfortable for some individuals depending on how because we are a
reserved population in in general. We were talking about the book earlier like Sex Before Coffee and
that really says a lot of the things about the culture because it's it really is more about the
doing. It's really is more about the activity rather than than the talking both before and
after so you might like start relationships off by having sex with people and that's how you continue
and that's how you get to know each other and then you form a relationship based on the sex.
Now every guy wants to move to Sweden! We don't express emotions like the French. How do you how
do, if you don't talk about it, how do you know what pleases the other person? Is it more selfish -
that's a philosophical French approach Yeah, exactly. Let's talk about it first and then Wwedish
approach. Well there's reactions in activities that - it's not words - Swedes are also not known for
talking a lot. No, exactly. No I guess that's also yeah so that's how we treat sex as well right. So
if the sex doesn't work you break up? Yes probably you don't rush there but you but you want to know
and if it works it's something to build upon if it doesn't work it's like, okay well um I might not
get to know that person because I might not invest more time in that person. It gives like a whole
new layer to the pull out method. Who had like sexual education in their country? Oh no well no
no no no no no no no no we found out what organs we had what and that was kind of it. it was like
this is what boys have and this is what girls have - good luck with that. It was more on the protections
condoms and being safe, stds. There were no discourse of don't have sex. It was just if you do
get this. I learned that I get my period yeah we learned and then I was like, I thought I
get it once in my life for for like if because they're like oh it's gonna last like three four
days. So I was like okay then I'm done with it - No but every month and I was like what?! Yeah and
they showed us pretty weird videos. They even like went into this topic of sexual harassment showed
us this like kind of cartoon where like this uncle goes with that niece and they go camping and
he asked her to touch him. I was like that's not correct - that's so helpful -no when you're 10
and your uncle asks you to touch this. I'm going to tell my nine children at home this, I swear to god
Once you go Greek you don't sit for a week
I didn't know - I didn't know that - okay me being here makes
so much more sense. Hey Everybody! I hope you enjoyed our episode two of Rank Me. In your opinion
which is the most sexually open country in western Europe? Let us know your thoughts below.
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