Heya playas, What do I say next?
It's gotta be something cool so they think I'm cool.
No, no it's gotta be funny.
it's gotta be something funny.
Oh you're still here, if you want to learn how to make a good first impression you'll
find out how right after this.
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First impressions are interesting.
In a way that first judgment we make of a person is how we expect them to be but more
often then not once we get to know them, we see they're totally different.
Have you ever entered a new group or been around your crush and found yourself acting
totally not like yourself?
It happens to everyone and there's a few tricks I've learned on how to overcome those nerves
to totally become the most interesting person in the room.
If you're looking for body language tips on how to stand and position yourself check out
my video here or if you're looking on how to be more confident, check my other video
here.
But aside from those two topics, here's what you need to know.
We as humans are a very judgy species.
We're always looking at others as if they're insane, or cool or dorky but the fact of the
matter is that a label can only cover so much of a person.
If you find yourself being labeled as something, look deep down inside because you'll see that
that label doesn't fully cover the full spectrum of who you are.
We give people labels based on the little bit that we know about them because it's easy
to do and it helps us figure out where they fit in relation to us.
And while we continuously do that, what's so interesting about humans is that we are
deeply afraid of being labeled.
The idea of someone else declaring us as something is terrifying.
What does this all have to do with first impressions?
Well, 99% of the time people are more focused on what you think of them than what they think
of you.
They're worried about saying something stupid or dressing inappropriately, hell, they don't
have time to worry about what you're doing.
If you've ever noticed, the cool kids only feel more confident because their friends
around them are making them feel comfortable.
And that's where your power play comes in, because most people just want to feel accepted
and if you can do that for them, they're gonna think you're a pretty amazing person.
Smile when people talk to you, give a crap about what they're saying.
This will help people put their guards down so they can be comfortable enough to be real
with you.
So what exactly should you say to set that comfortable, relaxed tone?
Simple.
Talk to new people like you've been friends with them for years.
Seriously, don't start a conversation with something like "Hi, nice to meet you.
So what are you into?", instead say something like "Hey, how's it going?
What have you been up to?".
That little difference of formality goes a long way.
Here's an example.
One place that I always put this into practice is when I go to Vidcon and encounter a high
profile YouTuber.
If you talk to them like you're a "fan" then they're gonna feel the need to jump into the
reverse role which is acting like a celebrity.
But if you talk to them like they're a normal person, then they're gonna feel relaxed and
act normal around you too.
What do you guys think though, does the idea of leaving a bad first impression make you
nervous?
Leave your comments below so we can talk about it.
When you speak to people like you already know them, then they respond like you do.
So carrying the mindset that people are more concerned with how you're perceiving them
than how they're perceiving you and talking to them like they're old friends is exactly
how you nail a good first impression.
Following those two tips will put you past all the awkward barriers that people set up
when they first meet someone new.
Plus, being the person that people feel they can open up to without the fear of being judged
is exactly what it takes to be the most interesting person in the room.
As always guys, love and peace.
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