- In this video, I'm gonna show you the number one secret
to have an extremely magnetic energy
that will completely transform your life
from the inside out.
Now, the one word that I'm gonna share with you,
and I'm gonna show you how to embody,
how to remove the blocks around,
is the thing that will make you more magnetic than ever.
Now think of a magnet.
A magnet is something that has the ability to both attract
and repel at the same time,
and it depends on one thing.
Can you guess what that thing is?
Polarity.
Based on the polarity of a magnet,
it will determine how magnetic it is and what it attracts.
And at the same time, the level to which
it has that polarity energy,
it will also repel the opposite of it.
Now, when it comes to attracting love,
it's about understanding
that the degree to which you can attract love
will be the degree to which you are non-needy.
You do not need someone else to meet your needs.
You do not need someone else's validation.
You do not need someone else's support.
You feel whole and complete on the inside,
and one of the other biggest game changers
when it comes to polarity is understanding the ability
to embody either your own feminine or masculine core.
Now, this also explains why when I was years ago,
before I learned this, and I began to apply
what I shared with you with this video,
I had a tendency of attracting women into my life
that I was being an embodying more feminine energy
and they were embodying a little bit more masculine energy,
and it was a complete, I still had masculine energy,
but it was like, it was a little bit unbalanced.
And one of the reasons that was,
was because of the energy I was embodying.
Now, sometimes, I see it in the community
and just in people that I work with in my 21-day challenges
that I've had over 10,000 people go through
or 15,000 people, so I've seen a lot of this pattern,
is you might have someone that's feminine
that wants to attract someone that's masculine,
and it could be a woman
that wants to attract a masculine man,
or it could be a same sex marriage,
if feminine and that masculine energy
is something that is the key to polarization.
However, even in same sex relationships,
it works very similar,
but maybe they feel like they have a masculine
or feminine shield.
Now for me,
this meant that I was this nice guy, people pleaser version
of myself back in the day.
And what would happen is I'd be like,
"Huh, why am I not attracting this feminine nurturing energy
that I wanna attract?"
And why was it?
Because I was embodying energy that was more feminine.
I was more so tuning myself to the feminine.
Are you okay?
Can I fix you?
What can I do for you?
Because I felt a low sense of self-worth.
I felt like I wasn't worthy,
felt like there was something wrong with me.
So therefore, if I can make you happy,
I'm gonna become indispensable.
I'm gonna be someone you can never abandon.
You could never leave me because of that.
But guess what?
Then I'm embodying not my own masculine presence.
And here's the thing with masculine feminine energy.
Masculine energy is very directional.
It's very focused.
It's lot of times focused on the results.
It's focused on going in a certain direction.
It's focused on leading.
That's masculine energy.
Feminine energy tends to be a little bit more flowy.
It's a little bit more present to the moment
and it's nurturing,
and it's an energy that has much more feminine flow to it.
So feminine flow, directional, and practical, and grounded.
And these two energies, what I was realizing,
is there was something about me
that didn't feel safe really just being in that energy,
so I would tune myself to the feminine
and that would get into have the feminine not feel safe,
because one thing with the masculine too,
is the masculine being on their purpose,
then allows the feminine to feel safe,
the feminine to feel flowy,
and to feel safe in the masculine container.
Now, what I was doing is I was not embodying
my true masculine energy.
Why?
Well, growing up as well, I think that my dad
was very much a nice guy people pleaser or is that way.
So that being modeled growing up, the masculine energy,
what was happening is the energy that was modeled growing up
was more so somebody that was kind of like,
sometimes a doormat to my ex-stepmom, for example,
who was very manipulative and controlling.
And that was the reflection that I had.
So therefore, I thought,
"Oh, maybe I'm supposed to be the same way.
I'm supposed to be like that kind of energy."
And what would end up happening is I would then tune myself
to the person I was dating
and tuning to them, then they wouldn't feel safe,
and it was this thing
that was depolarizing the relationship.
Now sometimes, what I see is, especially in the new...
I'm reading book right now.
It's an amazing book, by the way.
It's called "Intimate Communion" by David Deida.
He also wrote the book called "The Way of the Superior Man"
which even if you're a woman,
that's a great book, by the way.
It talks about mask and feminine energy.
One of the things he talks about
that I found very interesting is he uses the analogy
of Hawaii and New York.
And he says that there is masculine-feminine energy
based on geography.
So why do you think a lot of people
maybe go to Hawaii for a honeymoon?
It's a very flowy, feminine energy.
It's very much about love.
Feminine loves love and a giving and receiving love.
So when people go on their honeymoon, they go to a Hawaii
and they can feel all this love and its expansiveness.
Now, most people don't go on a honeymoon in New York.
Now, New York, maybe some do,
but New York is a very masculine energy.
And one of the challenges can be,
even here in Sedona, for example, I'm in Sedona right now.
That's a very feminine energy here in Sedona.
And it is common that there are men out here
that have a very much a soft, feminine core.
I was at the Creek the other day talking to someone
and someone's like, "I just love creating arts.
And I love all these things and creating art
and being creative.
And I make these little crystal beads for bracelets."
And all of these things is a very feminine practice
'cause it's a feminine energy here.
And there's some women here
that I know want to attract love,
but sometimes a little bit challenging.
There are some men out here that are masculine,
but in general, there's a common like Sedona vibe
for some of the men out here
where it's a little bit more feminine.
Not all of them, like I said, but some, but many.
Now, in the same way, if you go to New York,
you may notice that in New York,
it's a very masculine energy.
Fast-paced, directional.
You're going this, you're thinking,
"How am I gonna get this out of this network
and thing that I'm doing?
What am I gonna get out of this?
How is this gonna help me get the result that I wanna get?"
And that rubs off on the woman or the feminine energy.
So then it's like they wanna be feminine
and to attract the masculine,
but at the same time, they're swept in
with this masculine and go, go, go, go getter attitude.
And at the same time, in this book,
it also talks about how a lot of times surfers in Hawaii,
a lot of times won't commit to relationships.
You wanna know why?
Because they are already so in,
they're getting their needs met so much
with the feminine energy of the waves and the ocean
and the Hawaii energy
that they don't need to get their needs met
and the other way with the relationship.
So it's interesting because in a way,
it's like the location, geography acts as a surrogate.
It acts as like a way of getting the needs met,
but that can then cause a little bit of blockages.
So one thing that I would have you become aware of
is your energy more like Hawaii or is it more like New York?
And if you're in New York
or you're in a geography or you're somewhere
or you're always surrounded by people
that are more masculine,
that can have a masculine effect on you.
I'm here with my two bros right now, two of my best friends
and guess what we're doing?
We're having guy time in Sedona for a week.
It's very good for our masculine energy.
It's good to get away from our girlfriends
so that we could just like chill out and go on hikes
and connect and do business stuff.
Very healthy for us.
When we go back,
we're gonna be embodying this masculine energy.
It's very healthy.
So when it comes to polarity,
the thing I wanna ask you
is are you giving yourself permission
to be where your natural core is?
Because some of us have trauma
that caused us not to be in our natural core.
It is actually very natural.
It took a lot more energy for me
to not be in my natural core
because I was trying to people please
and be in this feminine energy
'cause I was trying to uphold and avoid becoming abandoned.
I was really afraid of being abandoned.
That's what a lot of times getting out of our own masculine
and feminine energy that is our core,
'cause the key to really attracting
the love you want is polarity.
It's you being in your own natural core.
Your natural core is like what feels the least effort to do
at your natural core
when you're really in a regulated nervous system.
Because if we're in survival mode,
we're trying to get our needs met,
we people please and all this stuff,
that wasn't my natural core.
It took a lot of energy to do,
being hard to set boundaries, all those things.
Those were all the wounded aspects of me.
And really what I was trying to do
is I was avoiding abandonment
by being this other person that I thought I had to be.
So one of the most magnetic things you can possibly do
is get in your own magnetic core
and to realize you're good enough the way you are,
you can stop abandoning yourself,
and you can start giving yourself the ability
to be the most authentic version of you.
And some of the ways this can look too
is actually really simple.
You can change your environment.
Does it mean you have to move? Not necessarily.
However, I will say something very powerful for you to do
is if you want to be more feminine,
surround yourself with people that have feminine energy.
You can even go to feminine places.
You go to a feminine beach or something like that.
You could surround yourself with other feminine people.
Sometimes you'll see like maybe a woman
that hangs out with only guy, only has guy friends,
more of a tomboy.
It might be hard for them to tap into their feminine energy
if they wanna attract a masculine person.
So one of the things you could do
is hang around with your girlfriends
that are also very feminine.
Or start putting yourself in positions
where you do things that are feminine,
like yoga, for example,
where you're getting in the flow
and you're moving your body,
doing like a pole dancing class,
or something it's a little bit outside your comfort zone.
That might be something that helps you embody
that feminine energy.
On the masculine side,
you could do something like hanging out with your bros,
go play basketball, or something like that.
There are things you can do that will help you
to then embody...
Have a goal
or a focus of something that you're doing.
For the feminine, you could do art
and do something that's an end of itself.
But one of the most magnetic things you can possibly do
is to get to your own center of core
and give yourself permission
to be the most authentic version of you
you could possibly be.
Because as you do that,
you will find that you actually attract more
of what you want.
You take down your masculine shield.
And a lot of times your masculine or your feminine shield,
by the way, is up
because there was a shield against mom or dad.
We're replaying the same childhood dynamics
that were alive when we're kids.
And maybe mom or dad wasn't emotionally available.
Maybe somehow they abandoned you as a kid.
And we put that shield up so it doesn't happen again.
But guess what?
You put that shield up, you're blocking love.
You're blocking from opening up your heart.
And the key to attracting love that I found
is really about opening up my own heart
and being vulnerable, sharing the real me.
Yes, I could get rejected
if I'm setting boundaries with someone else,
expressing what I really enjoy doing, but guess what?
You're gonna attract the people
that really do vibrate with you.
You're gonna attract
and you're gonna repel the people that don't.
It's a good thing.
It is good to reject, to repel people
that don't resonate with you.
And the more you embody them, the more you realize
that that actually has a very powerful effect on your life,
a very powerful effect
on how you're showing up in the world.
So that's something that will change your life
more than anything else now.
Also, if you haven't heard yet,
I do have a community
that is called Magnetic Mastery Membership.
This is a community where you go
to become the most magnetic version of you
from the inside out.
And the way we do that
is through weekly accountability and coaching.
So every week there's a live call.
There's live coaching.
I bring people up. I coach people.
Plus two times a month, on two of the weeks,
it's accountability where you get in groups.
We hold each other accountable.
Because the two things I've noticed
that makes the biggest difference is the accountability
of actually wiring something in
and then doing that consistently.
That's the second thing, consistently doing it.
And we do that in the Magnetic Mastery Membership.
If you're watching this video right now,
you can join by going to www.magneticmastery.com.
Click the link in the top description box below and join.
Only founding members are in there.
I'm really gonna...
The energy is starting to get put in there.
It's really cool.
I've done these challenges
that are 10 to 15,000 people
have been through the 21-day challenges.
We're turning that into a monthly container
where we have a safe place to heal,
other high vibe people,
we can connect with like-minded people,
but also become the most magnetic versions of us
from the inside out.
Now also there's a video right here
that shows you why when you let go,
you are able to attract so much more
and it'll change your life
and help you to really embody
this non-attached polarizing energy.
So watch this video right here.
Why is it that when you want someone, when you desire them,
they feel that energy and it literally.