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Do you constantly feel like whatever you say falls on deaf ears? Are you puzzled why people
ignore you all the time? But what if it is due to something you may be doing? It’s a
truth universally acknowledged that having good and healthy relationships can make you
a relatively happier person when compared to others. An environment where you are
constantly getting ignored can have a negative impact on how you think of yourself and others.
This is especially true if you are not aware of why they do so.
Do you think there might be some habits you might have that cause people to ignore what you say?
Before we begin, please note, this video intends to help you gain awareness about this,
addressing possible reasons why people are ignoring you. It is important to
keep in mind that it does not aim to put any individual in a bad light.
Having that said, here are five habits that might have been causing people to ignore you:
One, You don’t listen to others
Do you feel like you tend to speak a lot more than other people? Or that you only
talk about yourself? If the answer is yes, this might be a reason people ignore you.
Constantly talking about yourself without letting other people get a word in can annoy a lot of
people. It shows that you are not concerned about the other person’s point of view. Relationships
thrive on a give-and-take principle. If you want to be listened to when you talk, you have
to listen to others as well. Of course, the reason you talk a lot does not necessarily mean that you
are not interested in others. Maybe you have a lot to share, or you think that having other people
leading the conversation could be a hassle for them. Rather it gives off the wrong impression.
Two, You criticize too much
Are you someone who wants the best for their close ones and always tells them what mistakes
they make? If this is you, you have a truly admirable and caring mentality. However,
a lot of times, having this mentality can lead you to criticize people too much, especially if
you focus only on their mistakes. The impression of being someone who only knows how to criticize
will eventually lead to you getting ignored by everyone, even if you have the best of intentions.
This is not to say that you should just let your loved ones make mistakes without saying anything.
Measured criticism is important for personal growth. However,
throwing encouragement and compliments into the mix can help mediate the severity of the critique.
Three, You are full of negativity
Is the glass always half empty for you? Have you ever felt like avoiding someone who usually only
says negative things? If the answer is yes, then you know how people react to negativity.
When you are constantly complaining or saying negative things, then that could be a reason
people ignore you. According to a study people avoid negativity at all costs since
it can actually affect others’ mood and overall well-being. So, it might be a good idea to take
a quick reality check and make sure that you are not a source of negativity for your social group.
Four, Your presence doesn’t grab attention
Do you feel like people don’t pay too much attention to what you say, even when they just
met you? The reason people ignore you, even when you just met them, might have something to do with
your public presence and your confidence levels. Studies show people tend to be attracted and pay
more attention to those who have high levels of confidence and make a positive first impression.
So, if you feel like your presence does not grab enough attention, taking steps towards
increasing your levels of confidence might be a good place to start. It is important to work on
your body language and how you approach people when you engage in conversations. These factors
are key to making sure that your presence is felt and people start paying attention to you more.
Five, You overthink what you’re going to say
Do you consider yourself to be quiet during group conversations? Do you feel like the conversation
moves faster and you can’t find a window to hop into it? If so, the most likely reason why you
feel ignored during conversations is that you are overthinking what you are going to say.
It is very natural and almost everyone does it. When you overthink during a conversation,
you may get the feeling that you are participating a lot because of all the things that you
are considering in your head. In reality, you speak much less than you think, and people can
get the impression that you are not interested. Therefore, others may ignore you simply because
they think you don’t want to socialize. However, rest assured that not everything
is your fault. You can only control your own behavior, not other people’s behavior.
It is important to remember that doing the things addressed above does not make you a bad person.
There is always a chance that those ignoring you are simply not interested. There is no need to
change yourself for people who are not interested in forming a relationship with you. Instead,
it's better to redirect the energy into people who are actually interested and care for you.
We hope we were able to give you insight into some habits that might cause people to
ignore what you say. Do any of these describe your experience? Which do you think is most
potent? Leave a comment down below about your encounters with them if you’d like!
Please feel free to share any thoughts you have as well! Also,
would you like a sequel showing how to remedy these habits. Do let us know what you think.
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