Hi there. Thanks for checking out my video.
Today I want to give you a little tip
now this tip
is something that we're going to progressively work on
like Iíve said before I don't like black and white scenarios, I donít like I do this
all the way or I don't do it at all we're working in a grey zone I always
Tell my clients that
that's black and white, I donít work in black and white I only work in grey
So, what am I talking about? what are we working in the grey zone about
I want you
And me, this is something that I have to remind myself all the time to do
we're gonna start taking responsibility
for our own lives
you're probably thinking
Duh, I do it all the time
If I get in trouble at school I'm the one That gets in trouble, Iím the one that gets
the letter.
if I drive under the influence I'm the one who goes to jail and gets a fine
Iím taking responsibility
that's not really what I'm talking about
what I mean is
Youíre taking responsibility
here on out.
I know a lot of us had really bad things happen to us in the past
many of us have probably been abused maybe had an alcoholic parent
and I'm not discrediting these horrible things I know I am saying them quickly like it's
no big deal
I know it's a big deal
I know it really hurts
I know it's horrible it's hard to get over
but what I mean is
those things happened
in the past
those things we canít change
how do we go back in time we can't right
So, those horrible things that happened to us that bad experience you can't get over
that person who broke your heart and now you can never date again or
you know that parent who abuse me and now I just don't trust anybody
whatever's happening or has happened to you
we're gonna stop looking back
so that we can move forward
Right? I mean if I was holding onto a String or a big rope and I had it wrapped around
my hand I'm holding back
trying to walk forward
Itís hooked onto like a 2-ton truck, Iím
not going to get very far. Right?
so we're gonna try to let go of those chains from the past
and start taking responsibility
from now forward
Okay, well what do you mean thatís still Not very clear
what I mean is
There are going to be things and choices that you make
and I want you recognize that those are your choices
that's why we're gonna start listening to our inner self, were going to start doing all
these things so that we
can take responsibility
when you choose not to have that snack, or you choose to work out when you know your
dietitian told you not to
I want you to recognize that's a choice you made
for better or for worse those are things we are going to do, we are going to make
mistakes like I said we're working in the land of gray
but I want you to recognize
That we have to take responsibility for our own lives
we make
our own dreams we create this world around us right we can be friends not
Be friends with people we can
choose to do something to go to school to not go to school
we slowly build our world
why wouldnít build something that we love?
And if weíre busy looking back
blaming other people for things that have happened to us
Yeah, they probably did a really horrible thing to us and
Theyíre at fault for that that happened
but weíre at fault for what we do now
about it, right?
Does that kind of makes sense?
so grab that journal
like I said we need to grab the journals and we need to make notes because otherwise we
listen to something and then "POOF" we forget it you know we don't apply it we
lose it
jot down
I'm gonna start taking responsibility
for my own life
Maybe even capitalize OWN
sometimes it helps me to underline things, capitalize it
make a list of the things youíve been holding onto sometimes it helps to visualize
stupid jerk boyfriend that broke my heart back in
college or
high school
hate his guts, havenít dated anybody seriously since
write all that down
abusive dad used to get drunk came home, yelled at me write these things down
because we're going to have to address them
We're going to have to talk about them, and weíre going to have to let them go
so that we can continue
building a healthier life for ourselves. Right?
So comment below don't forget
I would love to hear your successes. Today I didnít think once about that person who hurt me
I'd love to hear that You donít need to be specific if itís embarrassing if you
don't feel comfortable but let's share our successes
or our comments this is really hard Kati thanks for a really hard homework
Assignment I hate your guts
that's fine too cause I know it's hard trust me
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and we will continue one step at a time
one
moment at a time to a healthy mind and healthy body
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