Hello my wonderful friend! Today's video is on how to stop being
the nice guy (five tips to use now) I'm sure you have heard "well nice
guys finished last. Nice guys never win. No more Mr. Nice Guy"
all of those things. This is something that is very popular on the internet
right now and honestly it's easy to see why. However,
I think today's a video is really going to surprise you because I'm going to put
a different spin on this. Full disclosure: women actually really
like nice guys and good guys. I know that's
not what you've been told. And before you leave me hate comments,
yes, you know who you are, and I know who you are,
before you leave me hate comments do yourself a favor and watch this whole
video. Seriously it's going to put your mind at
ease. Here's the deal: if you are searching how to not be the
"nice guy" anymore it's probably because you've been hurt,
right? You've been rejected, you've been used, and
you're tired of it, right? It hurts. And the truth is it's wrong.
That shouldn't have happened to you and I'm sorry that has happened to you
but what you're tired of is being used, right?
You're not tired of being a nice guy, you're tired of being
used. I'm gonna let you guys in on a secret. You do not have to be used
to be a nice guy. There are so many nice guys who get the girl
every single day. I'm a dating coach for men,
there are nice guys who get the girl every single
day. It just requires that you have the right skills and those are the tips
I'm going to be going over with you in today's video. What I teach on my channel
is how you can have a crazy happy lifelong relationship. I'm not talking
about just a overnight fling, okay? That's not what you
are going to learn here. And the reason this whole "nice guys
always a loose" thing is so popular on the internet is because that's what most
people are trying to teach you to do, is to just have that one night fling. So
yeah, those types of women, they don't really care about a nice guy.
But if instead you are looking for a crazy happy relationship,
the kind of relationship where you fall in love, you stay crazy in love
for your entire life, that kind of woman, she is looking for a nice guy. And
it just makes sense, right? A nice guy is honest, he is
loyal, he is true, he is someone she can trust.
Those are the qualities that a woman is looking for in a lifelong
relationship. So if you've been told "well girls don't like nice guys"
well then maybe you should ask yourself what kind of girls
don't like nice guys? So is this making sense? The kind of woman that you want to
love forever is going to love you forever because you are a nice guy.
Now as I mentioned there are certain skills you have to learn in order to be
the nice guy who is totally hot and totally gets the
girl instead of the nice guy who nobody wants
to date because there is a difference, both do exist in this world.
Now as I mentioned before you just need to learn the right skills.
I do teach all the skills you need in my paid program however
I'm going to be touching on five of the most important and most
powerful here for you today. Before we dive into those tips if this is your
first time watching, welcome! My name is Melannie. I'm a
Christian dating coach for men. My specialty is teaching you how to stop
wasting your time and stop wasting your money on dead-end relationships and
heartbreak by learning the skills you need to get
your ideal girlfriend. So make sure you subscribe,
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With that let's dive into our tips. Now as we start this I want to again just
stress guys you don't want to stop being a nice guy.
You want to stop being the nice guy who gets walked on. So often
when we hear the term "nice guy" we think of a pushover. Kind of
that Charlie Brown character. If you remember Charlie Brown and Snoopy, the
Peanuts gang. Nobody wants to date Charlie Brown
because he's a pushover. But he's an amazing guy. He deserves
so much more. As opposed to Schroeder or Linus who are also really nice guys but
they don't get walked on and pushed around like Charlie
Brown. So the whole goal here is not to stop being a nice guy. If you stop being
a nice guy you're not going to have your long-term
relationship. Period, end of discussion. So it's not that you don't want to be a
nice guy, it's that you don't want to be the
pushover nice guy anymore. You want to be the very attractive,
nice guy. The kind of nice guy who gets women to crush on him and
ultimately to fall in love with him. That's the goal here. So let's dive in.
Tip number one for how to stop being the nice guy is to
know how to identify toxic women. The truth is toxic women
will use nice guys like crazy. And like we mentioned at the beginning you're
sick of being used, right? Toxic women will use you all day long
and she'll make you feel worthless, she'll make your self-esteem just like
shatter and she will make you feel like Charlie
Brown. Very similar to how Lucy and Sally and some of those characters treat
Charlie Brown. So it's very important that you know how
to identify toxic women and avoid them like at all costs. If you
haven't yet seen this video be sure to give it a watch. It will help you so much
with this and I actually have some others on this
topic as well. So make sure you check the link in the description below
to give those a watch. Here's the deal: as long as you are attracting
toxic women you will not be able to attract
the good, healthy, awesome women you are wanting to attract.
So this step is key. Sign number two is you really need
confidence. What's Charlie Brown's biggest problem? He has
no confidence. Now something most people don't know
is the way we gain confidence is we gain competence. When we are
good at something, when we know how to handle a situation,
we feel confident, right? We just know what we're doing. It's kind of like
trying to sign your name with your non-dominant
hand. It feels weird, right? And it's really
hard to do. But with your dominant hand it's a piece of cake.
Why? Because you're good at it. You've done it a million times, you know exactly
how to do it. Well your non-dominant hand it's like "what
am I doing?" Even though you technically should know
how to do it you have no clue what you're doing. So
if you want to be confident and if you want her to see you as an attractive
nice guy you need to be good at dating. It's as
simple as that. Here's the kicker: I just talked about
toxic women and how you want to avoid them.
But guys, not all women are toxic. I can't tell you how many men reach out to me
saying "hey she rejected me. She's such a jerk. I think she's toxic."
And I say "okay tell me the situation. Let me know what happened." And they explain
it to me and I have to explain to them "I'm sorry but
she's not toxic. You made this mistake, this mistake, and
this mistake and it made her feel uncomfortable. It scared her. It made her
feel awkward and it pushed her away so she rejected
you because she thought you were creepy" or
whatever it is. And so so often guys think "well she's
just toxic" when in reality they just don't have any idea what
they're doing even though they think they do. So if you want to
stop being the nice guy who's rejected and instead be the nice guy
with his dream girl then you need to make sure you are gaining
confidence by gaining competence. Now I know what you're thinking: "holy cow
I don't even know where to start," right? That can feel so overwhelming.
Don't worry, I've got your back. I actually created a free master class for
you where I teach you the same framework I
teach my paid clients to get their ideal girlfriend. So that is
a fabulous place to start to start gaining that competence. So
there is a link in the description below and a link in the pinned comment. Make
sure to give that a watch because the truth is you deserve to be
confident, you deserve to have that confidence
and this is the perfect place to start. So check out the link in the description
and/or the link pinned in the pinned comment
below. Tip number three is flirt with her. If you want women to
stop seeing you as the nice guy that they don't want to go out with then you
need to start portraying yourself as the super hot
guy. If all she sees you is the "guy next door" or just the "really nice guy"
well then she has no reason to date you. But if instead she sees you as like
dating material, as a guy who is really attractive,
and a guy who she'd enjoy getting to know better, and someone interesting,
now she's attracted to you. Now she wants to get to know you. Now she wants to date
you. Because she sees you as an attractive man not
just a guy. Flirting when done right is one of the best ways to increase
attraction. Now I do want to mention, because I know I'll get comments about
this, "every time I try and flirt it tanks." Well
it's probably because it's coming across as awkward. What you
are intending to come across as flirtatious is coming across as
awkward. If it's not working it's because it's not being done
the right way. When flirting is done the right way it's
super effective and it is never ever awkward. This is again where
increasing your competence is so important. So is this making sense
so far? Are you enjoying this? If you are and if you would like more
videos on how to get the girl as a really nice guy
be sure to comment "YES!" so I know to make more videos just like this one
for you. Tip number four is to make sure you
are pursuing her. Pay very close attention to this:
if you want to stay friend zone material for life
then never pursue a woman. But if you want the attraction to increase, if you
want her to see you as a man and see you as masculine and someone she
wants to get to know better, then pursue her. When a man knows how to
ask a girl out the right way, how to approach her the right way, how to get
her number the right way, how to flirt with her the right way, how
to talk to her the right way, and he does those things, holy moly,
he is so attractive. When a man doesn't do those things
then she sees him as a boy, she doesn't really see him as a man, she sees him as
the guy next door or just a dude. She doesn't
see him as an attractive man who's like "whoa.
I want to get to know him better. I want to date him. I want to spend more time
with him." For more on pursuing make sure you watch
this video. There is a link in the description below.
And as I mentioned at the beginning everything I'm teaching you here I go so
much more in depth in my paid program How to Get a Girlfriend.
To get a sneak peek at the same framework I teach there
check out that free masterclass you guys. There is a link in the description below
and I will put a link in the pinned comment. But bottom line is again
if she sees you as Charlie Brown, she sees you as Charlie Brown.
An amazing guy but not someone she wants to date. Instead you need to present
yourself as an attractive man, as someone she
would enjoy getting to know, and someone who believes in yourself.
Again you gain confidence by gaining competence. And the more you
practice these things the more effective they are and you go
from being the nice guy that she doesn't want to make eye contact
with and go out with to the nice guy that she's like crazy in
love with. Ready for tip number five? This one is a
kicker guys. Set appropriate boundaries.
One of the big things that keeps really nice guys
from getting anywhere in relationships is the fact that they're a pushover. It's
the fact that nobody has any respect for them
because they don't have respect for themselves.
That is the reality of life. I know it's not fair
but that's the way it is. If we don't treat ourselves like we matter
nobody else is going to treat us like we do either. This is why it's so important
that we set appropriate boundaries. You are kind about how you set
boundaries but you set them. When you do this this
helps you believe in yourself, it helps you see yourself in a new light, and
helps you start treating yourself like the awesome man you really
are. You're not "just a nice guy", you're an incredible man
with so much to offer and you deserve to feel that. But as long as you're letting
people walk on you you're not going to feel that.
So it's important that you set appropriate boundaries.
This right here is what takes you from a boy in her eyes to a man. An
interesting man, a powerful man, someone who is confident, someone who is
attractive. So there you have it. If you are sick of being the nice guy who
everybody ignores and you're ready to be the nice guy who gets his dream girl to
fall crazy in love with him these tips are key. To sum up, tip number
one is make sure you know how to spot toxic
women and avoid them. Tip number two is increase your
confidence. You do this by becoming good at dating. You don't
know what you don't know until you know what you don't know. So
many men come to me having no idea that they're actually
really awkward at dating and relationships.
So the best way to move past all of that is to just become really educated and
really good about dating and attraction. Tip number
three is learn how to flirt. Show her that you are a man and an
attractive man, that you are interested in her. Tip
number four is to pursue her. Which has the same effect really as flirting.
It helps her see you as a man instead of a boy. Tip number
five is set those appropriate boundaries. Charlie Brown would not be in the
position Charlie Brown is in if he would set
those boundaries. Thank you so much again for watching!
As I mentioned before, everything I teach here is
covered in so much more detail in my program How to Get a Girlfriend.
To get a sneak peek at my framework and learn more about that
check out the masterclass through the link in the description below and in the
pinned comments. Seriously if you are sick of
being rejected and trying to figure it out on your own and totally tanking
and you would like to just skip to the part where you just get the girl
then you are going to love my master class and that's precisely what I
created my paid program to do for you. So make sure you check that out.
Thank you so much for watching! Again if you have not yet subscribed be sure to
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you would be sure to comment "YES!" Thank you so much again my amazing
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