how to cure porn addiction i'm dr trish leigh let me tell you how
in this video i'm going to briefly describe the three primary stages of
healing your brain and curing a porn addiction and what is involved in each stage
stage number one is commitment and i know that seems easy and a no-brainer pun intended but
in fact this is the most difficult stage going from zero percent to 100 percent commitment is
absolutely necessary 99.9 commitment isn't going to cut the mustard unfortunately the reason being
is if there is that sliver of doubt in your mind that it's worth it that you can
do it that it's going to be possible and that it's going to work out for you if you have that
one percent in your mind that thinks that it can't be done or you don't want to do it
that's where the hijacker enters back in to your mindset and when you leave the door cracked open
it is pushed open by the hijacker of addiction in other videos i've made detailed explanations
of how porn hijacks your brain but it is addictive and addiction isn't something to be messed with
with low levels of commitment and the reality is when you are fully committed for yourself
you're unstoppable and this can take anywhere from one second to literally a lifetime
going from zero to one hundred percent but once you get one hundred percent
you're good to go moving towards stage two stage two is generally a 90-day process of unwiring
the brain pattern that is pushing you back towards the screen now unfortunately pornography
pulls you back into it is a super normal stimulus that can't be found anywhere in the real world
it gives your brain so much dopamine that it feels so good so numbed out so extraordinary
taking the edge off of all the chaos and stress from life that it feels worth it hence stage one
going from zero to 100 percent committed because of this super normal stimulus that pulls you back
in so it takes time for the push and the pull to go away and what happens
when you consume pornography with any level of frequency consistency and especially intensity
your brain needs the dopamine it needs the rush from porn to just get by in your life and it's
very complex mechanisms but they're real so you need time to unwire your brain from the
need the need to go back and that can be tricky so in this second stage you need a plan my friend
you need a plan that involves two things one new knowledge you need information you need knowledge
you need to learn the skills you need to learn the concepts and the reasons behind them i use
a system called integration theory integration theory is proven to work it teaches you the why
behind the how which is the second part of what you need in your plan you need to know why
you're doing it and you need to know how to do it knowledge and self-awareness is one thing action
steps are another you can't stay in that learning part of stage two forever you have to learn and
implement learn something else implement it learn something else implement it that's why i've made
hundreds of videos on this channel so that you can learn something you don't know and then learn
how to implement it to help your own cause but i've got to be honest with you having a program
that is comprehensive that walks you through from beginning to end is more powerful than having
videos that are in a random order any solid 90-day program is filled with all the tools and skills
knowledge and action steps that you need and it goes from beginning to end the 90-day program that
i offer helps you to unwire your brain by looking at trauma and family dysfunction in the past we
know that most people are pushed into the screen by dysfunctional family or relational patterns
that make life feel chaotic and challenging so that dopamine hit is extra powerful
it must be unwired secondly your brain has to rewire itself towards the optimal
healthy brain pattern what i use is called brain training neurofeedback brain training
very powerful tool to help you rewire your brain and then of course you have to learn
new strategies and routines new habits new thought processes investigate your identity and
your personality they are just constructs come up with new versions of that so that you can thrive
then when you've done that you move forward to hardwire in that new better brain pattern
using a flexibly scheduled life that serves you that there's no reason to escape into the screen
anymore that way you break the push in the pull so then what happens is that moves you towards
stage three so in stage three that's where all the healing in the end happens so stage one
you're getting committed you're moving towards healing stage two you are unwiring primarily
and beginning to rewire in stage three which can take anywhere from one year to three years
depending upon how many tools and strategies you implement in this last stage your brain can heal
itself it creates new neural pathways it it fires up new neurons that can help you to feel better
it activates your frontal lobe so you can think better you have decreased anxiety you don't feel
depressed you feel motivated it also re-sensitizes the reward center in your brain through this
hard wiring when you re-sensitize the reward center what happens is you can feel pleasure
again in the real world sex with a partner is amazing there's no more delayed ejaculation
there's no more erectile dysfunction when you're trying to be with a partner we know from the
science erectile dysfunctions through the roof for young men this is a direct side effect of porn use
so all of that can heal your thinking your mental health and your physical body the more strategies
that you use the better in these three stages so this is how you cure a porn addiction number one
find a way to inspire yourself and motivate yourself to get committed beyond a shadow of
a doubt number two get a plan from somebody who knows what they're doing you need new knowledge
new skills and new action steps find a program that fits your needs with someone you can trust
and feels good to you you also need support so your program should have group coaching or the
ability to get a coach to work with because this journey can be a challenging one having
someone to answer your questions and to say you got this keep moving forward i know you're
struggling but i know you're stronger than you think you are can be really really important so
find a program you don't know how to get yourself out of this in most cases you need someone to help
you but with the right help you definitely can do it and then number three once you've been
in that program for 90 days you will have the structure that you need to build a life that
you love so do it you deserve it get on purpose in your work your relationships and your hobbies
it will serve you over time and through your program you will have developed the ability to
always re-evaluate your life in course correct so that you're not triggered to use porn again that's
the deal okay if you are looking for help on that journey i'd love to help you out if it feels good
go on over to my website at drtrishleigh.com there's lots of programs there in different shapes
and sizes that could possibly serve your needs and as always control your brain or it'll control you