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The phrase "toxic masculinity" has been been thrown around a lot of late
and refers to a so-called narrow, repressive definition of masculinity
as defined by violence, ---, status and aggression
where showing any emotion is considered a sign of weakness.
The phrase gained a lot of traction recently -- when purveyor of shaving products
and "arbiter of moral guidance" -- Gillette released that fabled advertisement.
According to the ad and backed up by feminists everywhere
this "toxic masculinity" is the cause of all violence, bullying, murder and ------ abuse by men
It is portrayed as a cultural evil inherent to men.
An "original sin" if you will.
That all men must spend their entire lives striving against
lest they fall prey to the vile temptations of their intrinsic nature.
The theory is that if we eradicate toxic masculinity, then all of the worlds problems that happen to be caused by men will be solved
and the world will finally reach that Socialist Utopia the regressive-left have been promising us.
Of course, there have been a chorus of voices protesting this theory, including mine.
However let’s hypothesise, for just a small moment in time, that toxic masculinity is a thing.
Afterall, nobody would deny that men do face enormous pressure to restrain themselves emotionally
or that their higher levels of testosterone and superior physical form
which has historically made them the warriors of the human race.
would make them more likely and more suited to engaged in physical force.
So, if, and again -- hypothetically -- these male-typical behaviours are the result of this abstract theory of "toxic masculinity"
rather than, you know, biology and evolution
then what causes toxic female behaviours?
Believe me, there is definitely a pattern of behaviour typical to women
that is highly destructive.
So while we're on the subject of "toxic masculinity" -- maybe we should have a quick look at could only be termed
"toxic femininity"
First of all, let’s get one thing straight.
You know that ‘sisterhood’ that feminists keep going on about?
That alleged stronghold of women supporting each other stoically in the professional and personal sphere?
Well guess what? It doesn’t exist.
There is no such thing. In fact it's exactly the opposite.
Women are biologically programmed to compete with each other.
We do not form social groups in the same ways that men do.
This is how we have evolved. Throughout the course of human history, women have been forced to compete for resources
that is -- a suitable mate, who can protect us while we bear offspring.
This goes right back to the days of the cavemen
when women had to find the man with the biggest club to protect the door of the cave while she bore and raised the kids inside.
This primal behaviour begins in the schoolyard.
While the stats say that schoolboys are more likely to bully and be bullied
schoolgirls have their own way of asserting dominance.
While boys are more likely to beat each other up
girls tend to engage in relational aggression, and in the majority of cases pick a female target.
So what is relational aggression?
Well, you remember this scene from Mean Girls?
The Plastics pretty much sum up your typical relationally aggressive, female school bully.
They use verbal abuse, ostracizing, spread rumours and gossip
make unkind comments about their victim's appearance
and often sabotage their relationships and even their grades
and all with one end goal in mind
climbing the social hierarchy within the pack.
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So if a girl is particularly pretty, or intelligent
she's likely to be a target for relational aggression
because she threatens to gain what her bullies perceive to be limited resources
attention, affirmation and above all
status.
The most insidious thing about female-on-female relational aggression
is that it is very easy to disguise.
When boys bully other boys -- there are cuts, bruises and black eyes.
plenty of evidence.
With girls -- there's none of that.
This makes girl-on-girl bullying much more difficult to spot
which means that often it is underrepresented in bullying statistics.
In addition, girls are premeditated in their bullying
whereas boys are, more often than not, opportunistic.
As such girls who are targets of bullies may suffer the treatment for months -- even years
which causes untold psychological damage.
Sounds fairly toxic -- wouldn't you agree?
But this toxic female relational aggression doesn’t end in high school.
It continues all the way through the workforce.
While most workplace bullies are male, which coincides with the fact
that most office bullying comes from the top ranks which are largely male.
When women do bully in the workplace they choose a female target in two-thirds of cases.
This is known as ‘Queen Bee’ syndrome.
According to Cecilia Harvey, in the journal "Development and Learning in Organizations"
The objective of the office "Queen Bee" is to sabotage other women in the workplace
thus protecting the Queen Bee's position as top female, so-to-speak
This is particularly true of women in male-dominated industries
who are, ironically, even less likely to help their female counterparts
than in workplaces with more of a gender balance.
These women see limited opportunities for women at the top
so feel they are competing for apparently limited resources.
It's known as the rope ladder effect;
women climb it to the top
then pull the ladder back up after them.
Office Queen Bee's use the same tactics as schoolyard mean girls.
They may also steal a fellow female employee's work
belittle her in front of other coworkers
send unnecessarily aggressive emails
or boycott her ideas and projects.
Their sole intent is to destroy their prey's reputation within the office.
This causes the victim to work in fear, thus undermining her productivity
or causes her to admit defeat and quit.
Office Queen Bee's are power hungry, controlling
they often have issues with envy and anger
and also personal insecurities.
Considering this, it's no wonder women generally prefer a male boss to a female one.
Again, it all sounds very -- toxic. Doesn't it?
Now feminists, of course, have an excuse for this female-typical behaviour in the workplace.
They reject the Queen Bee theory
and insist that women only behave like that
because they are reacting to sexism from men in a patriarchal environment.
They insist that women are simply distancing themselves from the marginalised group
in order try to not to be marginalised themselves
by the big, bad, chauvinistic men all around them.
Now this is so typical of feminists.
Here they are, absolving women of any responsibility for anything wrong with their lives
as usual and thus shirking all of the blame onto men -- again as usual.
Personally and evidently unlike feminists
I don't think women are so impressionable, or weak-minded
or susceptible to male influence
that all of their negative actions are simply a reaction to the behaviour of men.
I mean, gosh feminists have a low opinion of women don't they?
If you are going to insist that the bad behaviour of some men
is the result of a toxic culture within their ranks
then you have to at least consider the option
that women suffer from a similar affliction.
You can't just fob it all off on men
that is hypocritical and makes no sense.
Speaking of feminists
if you can get them to see that women do behave badly of their own accord
they will insist very quickly that female bad behaviour
doesn't lead to physical abuse and loss of life
as apparently "toxic masculinity" does.
Oh really? Why don't you tell that to the parents of 12-year-old Rebecca Sedwick
who took her own life after relentless bullying from other girls.
Or the family of 15-year-old Onur Cucu
who did the same after girls spread of nude photo of him on Instagram.
Or 15-year-old Mollie Spencer
who was recently hospitalised after continued bullying from another girl led to her being attacked by a gang of 15 teenagers
with her tormentor as the ringleader.
Not to mention the countless women and girls who suffer depression, anxiety, low self-esteem
and have trouble building healthy friendships after years of relational aggression from other females.
Then of course you have the oft under-reported phenomenon
of women physically abusing their male partners
and yes, while in Australia 75% of deaths from intimate partner DV
come at the hands of a man ending the life of a woman.
That still leaves 25% where it's the other way round.
That is not a small minority.
That is a solid chunk and deserves at least an attempt to remedy the problem
and yet nobody ever talks about it in the mainstream media.
So what's the take-away from all of this?
Well I'm not trying to prove that women are somehow worse than men
this is not an "us versus them" scenario.
My point is that if you want a better world
which feminists and the regressive-left continue to insist that they do
well you have to look at the bad behaviour of everyone
and work out whether it's systemic or not.
If you only focus on the bad behaviour of some men
and snarl any time anyone suggests that women may also be culpable
then you don't actually want to help people
you just want to project your own narrative.
Do not patronise women by assuming we are mere victims in the sea of patriarchy.
While men are more prone to violence
we are more prone to psychological warfare
which can do much more lasting damage than any fist fight.
It's how women have survived for millennia.
In the absence of superior physical prowess
we have relied on our wit, our cunning and our beguiling and sometimes toxic femininity
if you want to go all "Old Testament" on it
remember it was Eve, not Adam, who ate the fruit.
It was Eve who was opportunistic, dishonest and disloyal.
It was not Adam's patriarchal influence that caused her to give into temptation
it was Eve's own malcontent and wanton destructiveness.
Underestimate the culpability of women at your peril.
We are just as capable of evil as men
the difference is however
that we're much, much better at getting away with it.
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