Pill here, a couple of weeks back i asked you all to list some of the most common insults that
you've come across in life as i was going down the list i started to realize that there was a huge
variety of what you all considered to be insults so i decided to try out a new format for the video
where i simply go down the list and give you my thoughts on each of these points if i'm responding
to your comment in this video and you feel like i've interpreted your situation wrong just keep
in mind that i don't have much information so i have to guess now before we begin i do want
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the way let's begin so first we got this one from matty mark who's heard stop being so friendly get
a life from somebody at their university so this is actually what i would consider to be a critical
insult also known as a critique basically an insult that has some degree of truth to it maybe
you have been acting too needy maybe you have been asking this one person to hang out every
single day and they're feeling a bit annoyed which is why they ended up saying this when faced with
a critique there are two things that you should do first is to agree and amplify which is a solid
go-to response for almost any insult thrown your way basically you take whatever they throw at you
you agree with it and then you amplify it for example if they say you're being too friendly
you need to get a life you could respond with damn you're right i never considered getting a life the
reason you want to do this is because it shows people that you're mentally strong that you don't
take things too seriously that you can take some criticism on the other hand if you snap back and
you said something along the lines of the reason i don't have a life is because i hang out with you
then you're basically showing that their words hurt you that what they're saying is actually
true and that it bothers you when you act this way people will lose respect for you which only causes
them to want to insult you even more it's also important to note that most people do not enjoy
hanging out with people that get offended too easily so it's better to respond playfully
now the second thing you have to do when someone throws a critique at you is to actually sit down
and think about why they said it you see in my freshman year of college i was hanging out with
this one guy too much and he basically gave me the same critique and that's when i realized that wow
i didn't have my own hobbies or groups of friends to hang out with i was being too needy and asking
to hang out with him way too much when this dawned on me i took action and started going to clubs
parties and started meeting new people on my own and since then i can't recall a single instance
where someone has said something like that to me because it's simply not true anymore you need to
reflect on critiques so that you can take action and improve your life next up we got mcguckin if
someone tries to insult him by saying you are stupid his response is yeah i'm only stupid on
wednesdays now this is just an amazing response he's using agree and amplify perfectly however
if we dive into the comments we see that a lot of people are suggesting that he should respond with
things like yeah i already know you're stupid or i have to adjust to the people around me
these are not good responses because it shows people that you took it personally which only
causes them to lose respect for you and want to insult you even more you see the reason mcguckin's
response is so good is because it takes what might have been a genuine attempt to insult someone
and it flips the script on them by making it into a joke so that anyone watching would actually end
up having more respect for mcguckin afterwards and less respect for the person trying to insult him
if mcguckin had snapped back and got defensive this would not be the case next up we got carolyn
who's heard things like you're just being dramatic you're so lazy and you're just seeking attention
now initially i thought these were critiques mainly because i've gotten the lazy critique
many times before in my life but i was being a bum during those periods of time but these could also
be another form of insult that i like to call push down insults you see people will often use insults
to make others seem weaker to quote unquote push them down so that they seem stronger it's actually
one of the most common strategies used in groups of people to establish dominance to climb up the
social hierarchy if you pay close attention to how people interact you'll notice that there's usually
a punching bag in large groups of people right there's always one or two individuals that people
tend to pick on the most just because it's easy to pick on them people will purposely push them down
just to show others that they can get away with it which causes others to respect them more if this
is what's happening the best response is again to agree and amplify if someone goes out of their way
to try to push you down and you agree and amplify it actually makes them seem childish which again
causes people to gain more respect for you and lose respect for them so if someone says you're
just being dramatic you could agree on amplify by saying something like yeah i've been practicing
i'm trying to make it big in hollywood which shows that you didn't take it seriously next up we got
sign d who's heard things like you're overreacting you're clingy you're scared again these could
be critiques but they could also be pushed down insults i don't really know regardless it's always
good to respond with agree and amplify personally i have a really hard time watching scary movies i
get very jittery especially at jump scares and my friends always make fun of me about it and
whenever they do i just agree and amplify so if they say dude you're such a scaredy cat i can
respond with yeah i feel like i'm having a heart attack every time i watch one of these movies with
y'all which to be honest is actually true next up we got sam who gets your skinny as a stick
quite often now first of all this is a critique because like he admits he is skinny so he should
consider his health he should consider lifting some weights and building up some muscle second
this is probably the third type of insult which i like to call a test when people meet someone
new for the first time they will often tease each other on obvious things like heights weights or
something related to the way they look as a way to test and see how mentally strong the other person
is now you might be thinking okay pill how is this different from the push down insult well they're
basically the same thing the only difference is that the intent here isn't to push you down
the intent is to see where you stand on the totem pole this is especially common in younger groups
of people right how do you tell how high up in the social hierarchy someone is when everyone is young
broke with not much to show the answer is you test them and you see how they react if they react very
defensively and you can see that they were hurt by your words then it shows that they're low on
the totem pole that they have low self-esteem that it's easy to pick on them and manipulate
them on the other hand if they respond in a joking manner by using a green amplify then you instantly
know okay this person doesn't really care he or she believes in themselves i should become
their friend so whenever someone new is testing you don't get offended because almost everyone
conducts tests whether they're aware of it or not simply understand that this is natural and use
agree and amplify so if they say you're skinny as a stick you could respond with yeah my metabolism
is crazy next up we got audrey who's heard a lot of get over it and like you said it's not really
an insult it's more like a thing that people say to you when they don't respect you already right
if they did respect you and you're opening up about your feelings on something they would be
listening carefully but if there's no respect then they would say something like get over it
so personally i would take this as a critique and ask myself why don't people care about my
feelings how can i raise the amount of respect they have for me and hopefully that should give
you some insight next up we got haniel i hope i'm pronouncing your name properly who says they've
gotten a lot of you'll never get a girlfriend your lips are too big you're ugly you're weird
and what's interesting is that you said you get bullied a lot for almost everything which
tells me that people are using a lot of push down insults on you which means that they see you as an
easy target and they have decided to pick on you for things that probably aren't even true in the
beginning they were probably only testing you with easy things like you're weird which to be honest i
get all the time and i love it when people tell me i'm weird i usually just smile and say thank you
because i genuinely see it as a compliment but you probably responded by showing that their words
hurt you after which the group decided that you were at the bottom and started using you as the
local punching bag again i'm just guessing i might be totally wrong here but from the information
that you provided this is what seems like is the case in order to prevent this from happening in
the first place you need to agree and amplify so i'm going to start skipping some of these because
they're basically the same insults sorry m site but next up we got ahmed who's gotten things like
you're so quiet why don't you talk more and you're fat so these are probably critiques if you're an
introvert and you have a lot of social anxiety when interacting with others preventing you from
speaking up too much it's pretty common to see this critique because the person on the other side
doesn't feel like the conversation is going well in this case you need to reflect on yourself and
work on your social skills next up we have an interesting comment from ariano who says
people will get jealous of you so they will bring you down to their level and that those people are
the worst kinds first of all i want to say that these people are not bad at all i hope you see
a common trend in my thinking certain actions are simply human nature they're to be expected
it's human nature to throw a test at someone that you've known for a long period of time
when they try to make a huge change for example when i decided to start this channel a lot of my
close friends said things like you're crazy it's not gonna work you'll never make enough money it's
too risky and they didn't have bad intentions they were not jealous of me it is simply human nature
to test someone when that person decides to make a huge change as a way to see how confident they
are in their abilities assuming that these people are bad is not healthy because truly
bad people will do far more than throw a couple of insults your way truly bad people will lie and
try to manipulate you into doing certain things these are the people that you need to be wary of
next up we got the dragon master himself who's received insults such as your clothes look old
and you're not tall enough now these are probably tests i've gotten the first one plenty of times
and that's because i rotate between the same three outfits for months at a time simply because i
don't like traveling with too much stuff so people will often comment on that and again the best
thing to do here is to agree and amplify if they say why do you wear the same clothes every day are
you broke you could respond with yeah man life's a struggle you know i only own one pair of underwear
and if i flip it inside out i could wear it twice as much next up we got mitcha who hears a lot of
why can't you be like her why can't you have better grades like your cousins and i'm assuming
it's your parents who are saying this in this case i think you should watch a recent video
i made about dealing with toxic people this isn't really a case where you can just agree and amplify
and the problem is gone your parents aren't gonna suddenly respect you more this is something that
you have to dive a bit deeper into in order to fix now i'm gonna go into rapid fire mode and answer
a couple more of these to wrap this episode up so syed's gotten your forehead is bigger than a
runway this is probably a push down to which you can respond with yeah man don't you know big head
big brain red r gamer gets a lot of you can't even do that now it really depends on who's saying this
i think you should go and watch my toxic video abhishek gets a lot of you're so anti-social
so this is probably a critique as an introvert you need to learn how to turn on a switch so that
you can interact with people around you or else they will continue to say stuff like this most
extroverts simply don't understand how introverts feel kanzada gets a lot of oh you're just gonna
cry about that now so this is probably a critique and probably a push down as well you could say
something like yeah don't you know i cried like 12 times a day every two hours on the clock
i hope you enjoy this video if you're trying to work on your social skills in general i
suggest checking out the befriend course which will show you everything you need
to know about making friends and forming deep relationships let me know in the comments down
below some of the other common insults that you've received in the past show me how you
would agree and amplify to respond and i'll give you some feedback besides that guys stay tuned
you