we are continuing our new series called counter types and today i will be teaching on the type
5. this is an important one because this type five definitely doesn't always look like the other two
type fives before i dive in let me explain what counter type means within the enneagram every type
all nine types have a counter type and this is due to all types having subtypes you've probably heard
them called self-preservation social and sexual also known as one to one these are the subtypes
within each type and they can also be known as instinctual variants so we have self preservation
social and sexual for each type and within those three is the counter type this is the one that
doesn't always appear to be like the type on the outside and also with their behaviors and to break
it down even further but try not to confuse you every type has a different counter type
so for example i'm the counter type i am a social nine the counter type of the nine is
the social instinct but this doesn't mean every social instinct ends up being the counter type
within the type does that make sense it could be self-preservation social or sexual within the type
and that's what i'm gonna do in this series for every type i'm gonna break down the counter type
within the type if you're new here welcome i'm hillary your certified enneagram life coach and
i love to teach you guys the enneagram in the simplest and easiest way possible so what is
the counter type of the type 5 it's the sexual instinct within the five we also hear that called
the one-to-one instinct um but it can be called either sexual or one-to-one within today's video
i will be calling it the sexual instinct all right so if you relate to the core desire of the
type 5 which is to be knowledgeable capable and competent and the core fear which is being useless
helpless and being overwhelmed by the needs of others and sometimes even themselves and the
core weakness which is adverse then you might be a type 5 and if you want a more in-depth teaching
of that type 5 i've done a bunch of videos on it already i will link one of them right here and
in the description box down below so that you can find it easily but i'm just not going to have time
to teach a whole overview on that type five today but like i said if you relate to the cores of the
five then you might be a five and from there once you know you're a five we move on to subtypes when
people think of that stereotypical five they're usually thinking of the self-preservation five
and the social five the sexual instinct of the five has behaviors that are different than those
two instincts okay so like i said the sexual five is the counter type so let's go ahead and break
that down even further so this type five is the romantic type they search for that ideal mate and
absolute love they are motivated by finding that intense connection with another person the other
two subtypes of the five the self-preservation and the social they are more focused on protecting
their own energy and self-sufficiency but not the sexual five they are more focused on
finding somebody that's gonna share in their intensity and their quirkiness this five suffers
more than the other two and that can make him look like a type four at times which is why a lot
of fours and fives come to me going am i a four am i a five i can relate to both a lot of times
it has to do with the counter type the sexual five is actually more talkative than the other two and
while the sexual five has a really vivid inner life they are still removed from other people
more than other types would be that's sexual five they are sensitive and they really really really
just desire to find somebody that's gonna fulfill their ideal of trust okay so that's a glimpse into
the counter type five if you've always tested as a five or even just related to the cores of
the five but didn't always look or act like that stereotypical five this might be why you might
be the counter type five and if you wanna learn more about subtypes i've actually already done a
complete video on all three of the subtypes within the type 5 and i'll link that right here and down
below in the description that way you can find it fast if you want to go give that a watch and
learn more about all the subtypes within the type 5. alright so that's all i have for that counter
type 5. you guys know i never like to close these without letting you know if you've gotten to this
point and you're still trying to discover your type or you need some coaching i have good news
for you i offer typing sessions and coaching sessions and couples typing and all different
things i'll link that right here and down below if you still aren't really for sure of your type or
you want some coaching but that's all i have for today i'll see you guys on the next one bye guys
you