In this video you will learn 4 more tips that will make your man miss you and want you more..
So, if you’re in a situation where you’re feeling under appreciated or if you just want
your man to think about you more…. Then you’ve got to watch this entire video because
I’m going to tell you the four secrets to make that happen... don’t go anywhere because
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hi everyone.. I’m dr Antonio Borrello, Welcome to another video. I’m a psychologist and
relationship coach and I make weekly dating and relationship advice videos. This channel
is all about helping you build great relationships so you can grow happy with the people you
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missing anything. OK… on to how to make a man miss you and want you more.
So here’s the scenario.. you begin talking to a person who you think is super attractive
and you think he would make a great partner. You’re super excited about this guy because
everything about him sounds perfect… he’s attractive, successful, funny… he seems
to have a lot going for him.. and maybe you even question if he is in your league? Perhaps
you’re feeling skeptical if this person would even be interested in you…
and when he shows signs of interest, you’re not only excited.. you’re a bit surprised
and hopeful…. Can you relate? Have you been there? Ok… good.. stay with me here..
so he asks you out on this date for the upcoming weekend. you get really excited about it..
you think about and plan what you’ll wear, how you’ll do your hair and make up… you
think about and anticipate how the date will go… ya know… you daydream… Then
you go on the date… things go very well.. communication is solid… you feel like he’s
checking you out and he’s interested.. he’s asking you great questions… and you both
have a lot of fun. But the date ends without him asking you to confirm what’s next.. you
both go your separate ways and you don’t here from him that night…. Or the next day.
how do you feel? What would you do?. Would you reach out, or wait?.
Are you feeling Kinda insecure.. wondering and hoping if he’s going to call and make
plans… perhaps you are analyzing and rethinking so many of the interactions you shared…
the things you said. Then… two or three days later, he sends a text message asking
you to make plans for the following weekend.. What do you do.. do you accept right away?.
Do you make him wait…. Do you decline and ask for a raincheck?.
Starting a relationship from this position makes it more likely that insecurity will
motivate the way you interact with this new person. When we feel like we might not be
good enough, we are much more likely to be “on our best behavior” and create the
personality we think is most compatible with the other person. I’ve known many men
and woman that have had this experience… rather than acknowledge their feelings of
inferiority, they become an actor and play the part of the “perfect girlfriend”.
they try make themselves the person they think would be most impressive to their new partner
and win them over. They are super agreeable… and go along with all of their partner’s
plans for activities, music choices, places to dine… people to hang out with.
They make themselves always available to a fault. They do this because they believe that
he will like them more if they are available… they don’t want the person to think they
are not interested…
So they are very responsive… and quick to let him know they are available. They make
it very easy… and the problem with that… people don’t appreciate things that are
easy. We always value things we invest in and work hard for.
Things (people) we don't invest in are somehow less valued. If you’re the one doing all
the investing, the relationship becomes lopsided and you’ll be taken for granted and unappreciated.
. And when things get difficult, it's the partner who has invested the least that is
more willing to call it quits and walk away. You'd think they have much more to lose, but
that's not how it works. Balance is essential.
Most of us can relate to this scenario in some way. In fact, relationships like this
are very common. Perhaps we have friends who have engaged in similar behaviors and have
had similar results. Or, maybe this scenario is similar to one that you’ve personally
experienced. Either way, how can we fix this… how can we prevent this from happening?
First, you must recognize and accept the fact that you’re feeling a bit insecure with
this new situation. Pay attention to your innervoice.. your gut instincts.. note what
you’re thinking about so much.. are you thinking about how compatible you are.. are
you thinking about how great your conversations were, or are you constantly wondering how
he’s feeling.. if he’s into you or not? IF that’s the case, you need to change what
you’re focusing on…
Again, You need to approach this new relationship from a position of strength… not a position
of weakness or desperation. And that begins by
#1Focusing on You. PRIORITIZE YOUR NEEDS… PUT YOURSELF FIRST.
As I said earlier, when you go out of your way to show the person you’re dating how
much you like them, when you jump at every opportunity to talk, hang out, text… you
may be unwillingly sabotaging your relationship, especially when you aren’t sure that you
fully have his attention.. In this case, you need to take the attention off of him, and
put it back onto yourself. Take care of you first… pick up some hobbies, make and KEEP
plans with your friends.. fill up your social calendar…. And when he calls last minute
to make plans… Oops.. sorry, I have plans… this will make him prioritize and plan his
time with you. Putting yourself first also goes a long way
towards helping him to see you as a high value woman with an exciting life…. And when you
do that he is going to want to be a part of that…. And when he isn’t, he’s going
to feel that too.
#2Give him something to miss… simply put, you've got to be that person that he wants
to be with the most. you have to rock his world in a way that no one else can.. and
leave him wanting more.. leave him craving more. and the only one who can satisfy that
craving... that need, is you... so you must create that dynamic... that feeling
that he can't get anywhere else.
Every time he thinks of you, hes going to be thinking about the fun things.. he going
to associate you with everything fun. And this is number 1 ?….. don’t talk about
missing him… or telling him you’re going to miss him.. don’t let him think you’ve
become too attached or needy… let him wonder if your’e actually missing him. Then
he’ll be the one watching these videos.. ok.. I can’t believe I just said that..
but yeah.
So, Keep things light and fun..even though you’re disappointed by the fact that he
doesn’t show you he misses you, you have to hide that disappointment… and keep things
light and fun and carefree. Not once, but everytime.. light, fun, easygoing, confident….
Not disappointed, frustrated or insecure about where things are going.
#3 Decide if you really like him based on his actions with you.
In the situation I describe above, many people would be focusing on (overwhelmingly) whether
or not the guy they’re dating likes them…... and that is an uncomfortable and insecure
position to be in. And when you are worried about whether or not he want’s you, you’re
less likely to focus on something even more important… DO YOU LIKE HIM? ARE YOU Compatible?
Could this person or would this person ever be your best friend?
I want you to consider this… would you be watching a video on how to make a man miss
you if you got everything you needed from your relationship? If you were completely
happy with his interactions with you, would you be watching this? What you’re hoping
is that there is something you can do that will influence his behavior.. something that
will cause a permanent change in his behavior, right?. Something that will cause him to miss
you more and to show you that, right. Here is my next question.. what if you are always
feeling like he doesn’t show you enough attention or affection? Or that he doesn’t
miss you..
Let me change the scenario to make a point…. Lets change it from the beginning…. you
go on a date with a guy…. He’s super excited about you.. texting you all the time.. consistently..
you think he’s cool and you decide to give it a try.
on the first date he let’s you know he likes you and wants to see you again.. then he texts
you right after the date and keeps in constant communication with you…. He wants to confirm
plans with you…etc.. In this situation, you have no doubt in your mind that the guy
is into you. No anxiety, no worries. When this happens, the only thing you have
to decide is whether or not you also like him, the only pressure you may feel in
this situation comes from him wanting to know where you stand, right?
It’s quite different from not knowing or feeling insecure about his feelings.. You
don’t worry if he misses you because he is letting you know that he does.. Isn’t
that what you want?. . and herein is my point…. A person may look like an amazing catch on
the outside… he may be beautiful, successful, funny… but ultimately, if he isn’t emotionally
connected with you.. if he isn’t giving you what you need from a relationship, it’s
not going to work in the long run anyway… And that leads to the last one.
#4. Be Willing to Walk Away if He Isn’t All that you need..
For some people, the fear of a relationship ending or of being abandoned is usually far
more terrifying to think about than it is to experience. This fear keeps so many people
from walking away from toxic and unhealthy relationships.
Despite being completely unsatisfied and unhappy, they remain stuck because they fear being
alone... or worse, they fear their partner will find someone "better" and be happier
with someone else. Isn't that the point?
Dating isn’t a sport… it’s supposed to be a process of courting… ya know.. getting
to know another person so that you can decide if they are the one for you.. so you can decide
if you’re compatible and IF you want to spend your life with that person…. It’s
like a trial period…. To know if they are the one for you.. And… the beginning of
a relationship should be the easy part…. That’s when thing should be great….. if
they aren’t great in the beginning…. Why would you think they will get better later?.
Meeting a person that’s not right for you.. a person that is not a good match is not a
reflection on you… Period.
RELATIONSHIPS ARE NOT MADE IN HEAVEN. THEY COME IN INDIVIDUAL KITS THAT TAKE TIME AND
EFFORT TO PUT TOGETHER… and it takes both parties working together… sometimes its
50-50.. sometimes its 60-40 and other times its 40-60.. its all about balancing each other
and supporting one another when needed. if a relationship is meant to be… if he
is the person for you, if you are really that compatible, then implementing these suggestions
will certainly bring the two of you closer. That’s for sure… But if it’s not right…
if he’s not the right one for you, if there are too many differences, … nothing you
can do will change that outcome… it just wont work… and that’s ok.
So.. I’d love hearing your stories and examples….. Have you been in this situation and turned
things around? If so, I’d love to hear about it. Leave a comment and let’s start a discussion.
I promise to respond to all of them.
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