THERE IS EVIDENCE INDICATING THAT MORE PEOPLE ARE SINGLE
NOW THAN EVER BEFORE AND THE LIKELIHOOD OF THESE PEOPLE
EVER GETTING MARRIED IS PRETTY LOW.
SOME PEOPLE, CONSERVATIVES TO BE SPECIFIC SPEAK OUT ABOUT THIS
THINK ABOUT THIS AND I THINK ALL MY GOD, THE NUCLEAR FAMILY,
WE HAVE TO DO ANYTHING WE CAN TO PROTECT IT THAT WE NEED MEN
AND WOMEN TO GET MARRIED, HAVE BABIES, CHRISTIAN VALUES
AND IF WE DON'T DO IT THE MORALS OF THIS COUNTRY WILL FALL APART.
THE REALITY IS THERE ARE ACTUALLY SOME UPSIDES TO
LIVING A SINGLE LICE I ONCE GAINED ABOUT A LITTLE BIT.
FIRST OF ALL, A STAT THAT BLEW ME AWAY LITTLE
BIT THAT BY THE TIME TODAY'S YOUNG ADULTS REACH THE AGE OF
50, ABOUT ONE IN FOUR OF THEM WILL NEVER MARRY.
I BELIEVE THAT BECAUSE YOU LOOK AT THE STATS OF THE SURVEYS
WITH MILLENNIAL'S AND THEIR VIEWS ON MARRIAGE AND ALL
OF THAT AND A LOT OF THEM SAY OR AT LEAST A SIZABLE PORTION
SAY THAT THEY ARE NOT INTERESTED IN EVER GETTING MARRIED.
THEY ENJOY THEIR INDEPENDENCE, THEY LIKE HAVING RELATIONSHIPS
BUT THEY DON'T REALLY SEE THE NEED TO GET MARRIED.
CNBC COVERED IT AND THIS IS WHAT ONE EXTRA SAID.
SORRY, I'M WRONG.
WOW, I'M PULLING UP RIGHT NOW ARE 2.
SHOTS FIRED.
THIS IS NOT CNBC, THIS IS BELLA DEPARLE SHE'S A
RESEARCHER FROM CSB C AND SHE SAYS THEY ARE MORE LIKELY
THAN MARRIED COUPLE TO ENCOURAGE, HELP AND
SOCIALIZE WITH THEIR FRIENDS AND NEIGHBORS.
THEY ALSO MORE LIKELY TO VISIT, SUPPORT, ADVICE AND STAY IN
TOUCH WITH THEIR SIBLINGS AND PARENTS.
SHE IS COMPARING SINGLE ADULTS TO THOSE WHO HAVE GOTTEN
MARRIED AND SHE IS SAYING LOOK, JUST BECAUSE YOU ARE NOT
MARRIED DOESN'T MEAN THAT YOU ARE GOING TO LIVE A LONELY LIFE.
AND FACT, YOU ARE WAY MORE LIKELY TO BE SOCIAL THAN
MARRIED COUPLES AND I TOTALLY AGREE WITH HER.
YEAH, YOU FEEL LIKE YOU WERE DROPPING OUT OF SOCIAL CIRCLES?
YEAH, BUT I FEEL SO GOOD THAT
THAT'S THE THING THAT
ISSUES WITH HER SHE LIKES THAT
I'M JUST LIKE, I DON'T WANT TO GO OUT, I JUST WANT TO GO HOME
AND TO THE PERSON I LOVE AND BE AN INTROVERT AND BE WITH MY DOG.
BUT THERE'S A LOT OF DOWNSIDES TO DOING THAT BECAUSE YOUR
LIFE BECOMES TOO DEPENDENT ON THE COMPANIONSHIP OF ONE PERSON.
YOU HAVE TO MAINTAIN YOUR FRIENDSHIPS AND I THINK A
LOT OF PEOPLE TO GET MARRIED KIND OF DROP OFF THE PLATE
FACE OF THE EARTH AND THAT IS NOT GOOD.
I BLAME GEORGE CLOONEY.
WISE I?
BECAUSE HE MADE BEING SINGLE FOR SO LONG SO SEXY AND I
THINK THAT A LOT OF PEOPLE,
SEXY FERMENTER
I'M JOKING, BUT I KNOW A LOT OF GUYS THAT ARE LIKE I AM
NOT GETTING MARRIED UNTIL I AM 60 THAT EVEN JAMIE FOX ONCE
SAID I'M GETTING MARRIED WHEN I AM 100 AND I AM GOING TO DIE
WHEN I AM 104 AND I'M GOING TO BE MARRIED FOR THE REST OF MY LIFE.
ITíS A GLAMORIZATION OF BEING SINGLE AND HAVING TENDER
AND BEAUTIFUL WOMEN AT YOUR FINGERTIPS.
I THINK THERE IS A DOUBLE STANDARD WHEN IT COMES TO THAT.
IF A MAN SAYS I AM GOING TO BE A BACHELOR FOR AS LONG AS
POSSIBLE, EVERYONE IS LIKE
I GET SO MANY HIGH-FIVES WHEN I SAY THAT.
AND THEN
BONES, WE DO THIS.
GOOD JOB.
BUT WITH WOMEN, WE TALKED ABOUT THIS IN A PREVIOUS STORY.
YOUR WOMAN IN YOUR 30S YOU HAVEN'T GOTTEN MARRIED YET
PEOPLE START LOOKING AT YOU LIKE WHAT IS WRONG WITH YOU?
THAT DOUBLE STANDARD EXISTS BUT I THINK IT IS LUCKILY
CHANGING A LITTLE BIT BUT WHETHER YOU ARE A MAN OR A
WOMAN, THERE'S NO REASON TO FEEL SORRY YOUR BAD ABOUT BEING
SINGLE BECAUSE THEIR BENEFITS.
SINGLE PEOPLE ALSO VOLUNTEER MORE FOR SOCIAL SERVICE
ORGANIZATIONS, EDUCATIONAL GROUPS, HOSPITALS AND
ORGANIZATIONS DEVOTED TO THE ARSON PEOPLE WHO ARE MARRIED.
BECAUSE PEOPLE WITH KIDS AND FAMILY ARE TOO BUSY GETTING
THEIR LIVESTOCK OUT OF THEM BY THEIR OFFSPRING.
BUT I WANT TO SAY ONE THING BECAUSE I'M NOT 30,
I'M NOT 50 EITHER,
YOU LOOK GOOD THAT'S ALL THAT MATTERS.
BUT WHAT I WILL SAY IS THIS.
I DO GET ENGAGE IN CONVERSATION WITH WOMEN HER MY AGENT PEOPLE
ARE MY AGE AND OLDER AND ONE THING THEY ALWAYS TALK ABOUT IS
THIS YOUNGER GENERATION OF PEOPLE WHO ARE LOST IN WHAT I
THINK IS A BUNCH OF YOUNG PEOPLE ARE FOUND TO REALLY FIND
THEMSELVES IN KNOW WHO THEY ARE AND ARE ABLE TO SAY THINGS LIKE
I DON'T KNOW IF I WANT TO GET MARRIED THAT I DON'T KNOW,
I MAKE MORE MONEY THAN MY BOYFRIEND.
BESIDES ALL OF THIS STUFF, WHAT I WANT TO SAY IS I CELEBRATE
YOUNG WOMEN WHO ARE ABLE TO DO THAT BECAUSE I COME FROM A
CULTURE, I WAS RAISED BY A CUBAN MAN AND A GENERATION OF WOMEN,
NOT MY GENERATION BUT THE GENERATION BEFORE ME AND MY
MOTHER WHO REALLY HAD TO HIDE BEHIND A MAN AND THEY COULDN'T
SAY CELEBRATE THEIR WINS LIKE THEY WANT TO BECAUSE IT
WOULD MAKE THE MANDOLIN COMFORTABLE AND THIS
FEMINIST AND EMPOWERMENT MOVEMENT OF YOUNG WOMEN, I
AM REALLY EXCITED ABOUT IT.
TO HEAR YOUNG WOMAN SAY TO ME I DON'T KNOW IF I WANT TO
HAVE CHILDREN, I DON'T OFTEN WANT TO GET MARRIED THAT I
DON'T THINK WHAT IS WRONG WITH HER?
I THINK THEM, SHE REALLY KNOWS HERSELF THAT I WISH THAT
WOULD'VE BEEN MY FRIEND WHEN I WAS A TEENAGER.
KUDOS WITH THE YOUNG GIRLS.
I HAVE FRIENDS WHO ARE NOT EVEN CLOSE TO GETTING MARRIED
AND I HAVE OTHER FRIENDS WHO GOT MARRIED EARLY AND IT IS JUST A
DIFFERENT EXPERIENCE.
THE EXPERIENCE I'VE SEEN WITH THE PEOPLE GOT MARRIED
EARLY THEY'RE JUST DISCOVERING IT TOGETHER.
ITíS HARD TO BE
A FULLY FORMED HUMAN WHEN YOU ARE 23.
THESE FOLKS GOT MARRIED AT THAT POINT AND THEY CONTINUED TO
DEVELOPMENT IN A HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP TOGETHER, LOOKING
AT STUFF WITH DIFFERENT EXACT PERSPECTIVES GENERALLY TOGETHER
AND THERE ARE OTHERS WHO SHOULDN'T HAVE GOTTEN MARRIED,
THEY SHOULD'VE DONE WHAT THEY DID WHICH WAS STAY SINGLE FOR A
LONGER AMOUNT OF TIME SO THEY COULD FIGURE OUT WHO THEY ARE
AND FULLY BE ABLE TO LOOK AROUND TO THEIR OWN EYES AS OPPOSED TO
WHAT SOCIETY TELLS YOU HAVE TO DO AND THEN ADEQUATELY
CHOOSE WHO THEY SHOULD BE WITHIN THEY MADE GOOD CHOICES.
I THINK THAT IS A REALLY GOOD WAY OF DESCRIBING AND ALSO,
I THINK FOR WOMEN SPECIFICALLY FOR A LONG TIME WE REVIEWED
ALWAYS HEAR THAT LINE, YOU WOULD DO IT ALL, WOMEN CAN WORK
AND RAISE KIDS AND BE MARRIED AND ALL OF THAT AND I THINK
WOMEN, SOME WOMEN, NOT ALL, SOME WOMAN CAN DO IT ALL BUT I'M
GOING TO SAY QUITE HONESTLY FROM MY PERSPECTIVE, I DON'T
THINK I CAN DO IT ALL THE
I THINK YOU NEED TO REDEFINE WHAT ALL IS START THINK
THAT BELIEVE THAT BEING ABLE TO DO IT ALL IS ME BEING A MOM
AND THAT MAY NOT BE WHAT YOUR DEFINITION IS.
I THINK YOU ARE DOING IT ALL.
IT DEPENDS ON WHO YOU ARE HAVING A CONVERSATION WITH.
IF YOU ARE TALKING TO MY MOM I'M NOT DOING IT ALL, LIKE, WAS
THE BABY.
WHERE'S THE BABY?
I DON'T OF THE BABIES EVER GOING TO HAPPEN.
I KNOW.
WHAT ARE WE HERE FOR?
I HAD THE BABIES AND I AM LIKE GO GIRL.
THE THING IS, I LIKE MY LIFE AND I LIKE MY CAREER AND SO THE
MORAL OF THE STORY, IT DOESN'T MATTER IF YOU'RE SINGLE,
MARRIED, HAVE KIDS OR NOT, YOU HAVE TO DO A MISSION COMFORTABLE
BECAUSE THE SENTIMENT AS YOU MAKE YOUR FAMILY OR SOCIETY
PRESSURE YOU AND WHAT THEY THINK YOU SHOULD DO YOUR GOING TO
MAKE A DECISION THAT IS NOT GOING TO MAKE YOU HAPPY.
I HAVE FRIENDS WHO GOT MARRIED AND DECIDED WERE
NOT GOING TO FRANCE FOR A WHILE, JUST GOING TO BE HAPPY AND THEN
AFTER THAT, WE WILL HAVE A KID AND THEN THEY WERE LIKE WAY, DO
WE JUST SAY WE WOULD ONLY HAVE KIDS WERE NOT HAPPY ANYMORE?
WAS GOOD DEVELOPMENT THAT THEY GOT TO A POINT WERE THERE
LIKE I DON'T SEE THIS HAPPEN IS DUMPING BUT I DEFTLY DON'T
WANT TO WAIT TILL DOES TO HAVE KIDS SO THIS IS THE TIME THAT
I'M THE MOTHER OF A DAUGHTER AND I MAKE HER LOOK AT PEOPLE THAT
ARE LIKE YOU, BECAUSE SHE IS LIKE WHAT IF I DON'T HAVE KIDS?
I SAY THAT'S ABSOLUTE FIND THAT THE ONLY THING I'VE EVER
POURED INTO MY DAUGHTER BECAUSE I TELL HER, DONíT GET CAUGHT
UP IN THOSE MAGAZINE ARTICLES.
THERE'S NOTHING
WRONG WITH YOU IF YOU DON'T GET MARRIED.
THE ONLY THING WE SHOULD TELL OUR DAUGHTERS
IS THAT THEY ARE INTELLIGENT AND THEY ARE HIGHLY INTELLIGENT
BECAUSE THAT WILL NEVER GO AWAY.
ALL THAT SUPERFICIAL STUFF WILL FADE.
THAT IS ALL, READ
THIS ARTICLE ABOUT HOW SMART YOU ARE AND THEN YOU CAN MAKE
YOUR CHOICES, YOU KNOW?
MAKE YOUR OWN CHOICES.
AND I BELIEVE YOU WITH ONE FINAL BID ON THE STORY THAT
I THINK WAS REALLY INTERESTING JUST COMPARING SINGLE
PEOPLE TO MARRIED PEOPLE.
STUDIES HAVE SHOWED THE PEOPLE STAY SINGLE TO MORE
CONFIDENCE IN THEIR OWN OPINIONS AND UNDERGO MORE PERSONAL
GROWTH AND DEVELOPMENT THE PEOPLE WHO MARRIED.
THEY VALUE MEANINGFUL WORK MORE THAN MARRIED PEOPLE DO.
THEY MAY ALSO HAVE MORE OPPORTUNITIES TO ENJOY THE
SOLITUDE THAT MANY OF THEM SAVOR.
SOLITUDE IS REALLY NICE
I WILL SAY.
THAT'S IT, I AM NEVER GETTING MARRIED AGAIN.