- What are the 16 personalities' Love languages?
Love languages, you got like French, Italian,
I'm kidding, okay?
Frank, that's not even funny.
So the five love languages are how we as individuals
prefer to be shown affection, I remember the five
love languages using the acronym GQPAW.
The love languages are gifts, quality time, physical touch,
acts of service and words of affirmation.
Of course, everyone appreciates all five love languages
to some degree, but the theory is that each of us prefers
one over the rest.
This whole idea comes from the bestselling book,
The 5 Love Languages, who would have thought written by
Gary Chapman, if you're interested in picking up a copy,
you can find a link in the description.
It's important to understand the love language of the people
in your life so you can better communicate your appreciation
of an affection for them.
And of course, me being a personality nerd,
I'm immediately like how do the five love languages
correlate, correspond connect to the 16 personalities?
Let's talk about what always tends to be
the least popular love language, gifts.
This one's straightforward, people who have gifts
as their love language like to receive gifts
that express the giver's affection towards them.
Like I said, this often ranks as like the least popular
love language in pretty much every poll I've ever seen
but I think a lot of people are not being totally honest
with themselves because, you know,
we don't wanna feel greedy or selfish or materialistic.
So it feels like socially unacceptable
to think of gifts as our love language.
But here's the thing, gifts are not usually about
the thing itself, it's about being creative
and showing the other person that you pay attention to them,
you pay attention to what they like
and what they spend their time doing.
But you know, gifts are tricky
because all of the personality types will have some hang ups
when it comes to receiving gifts and maybe this is why
it always ranks in last place.
FP types for example, have introverted feeling,
they know what they like and what they don't like.
You need to really pay attention
if you're gonna give an FP type a gift,
because if you give them a gift that they don't like,
it makes them feel really awkward.
For TJ types it can be even worse because they also have
introverted feeling, but they're thinking types,
so they feel even more uncomfortable when receiving gifts
that they don't like.
Now, if you can give a TJ type a useful gift
that might win them over, so pay attention
to what they spend their time doing.
For the TP types, if you get them the wrong gift,
they may just be like, oh, a dumb pointless gift,
and you'll get your feelings hurt.
I'd say the FJ types are probably the most likely
to prefer gifts as their love language,
because they are very to pay attention
to the givers feelings and the thought behind the gift,
rather than the gift itself.
The least likely types to rank gifts
as their preferred love language probably like
ENTJs and ESTJs, because it makes them feel awkward
and they're probably gonna throw it out
the next day anyway, not really their thing.
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The next love language we're talking about
is words of affirmation, people who prefer
words of affirmation likes to be told they are loved
and valued, to these people, hearing someone else say,
I appreciate you because of this or I think it's great
that you do that is important to them
so that they know they are loved.
The biggest difference as I can see here
when it comes to personality type,
is the division between thinking types and feeling types.
My guess is that feeling types are gonna be much more
likely to prefer words of affirmation than thinking types,
'cause feeling types tend to communicate with language
that deals not only with emotions
but the value of things and people.
They make decisions based on what matters, what's important.
So it makes sense that a feeling type would be more
in their element when people communicate to them,
hey, I value you, you are really talking in their language
when you say something like that.
Thinking types on the other hand tend to communicate
in the way of what is logical and what will work,
the feelings and the value of things is secondary,
as such I think thinking types are less likely
to prefer words of affirmation as a love language,
because it's not really communicating to them
in their preferred logical way.
ISTPs and INTPs in particular,
may prefer words of affirmation the least of all the types,
they might not know how to take it, they might feel awkward,
or they might just be like, yeah, I know I'm great,
there's no surprise there.
To learn more about how the 16 personalities communicate,
check out this video in the card above.
But the thinking types may prefer the next love language
we're gonna talk about, which is acts of service.
People whose love language is acts of service
feel the most love when someone else does something
for them, and sometimes that can be pretty simple
or even mundane, like doing the dishes,
or folding the laundry, or hitting the like button.
Thinking types will be much more likely prefer
acts of service as their love language,
thinkers are always looking at
how to solve things and get stuff done.
So an act of service is very meaningful to them,
much more than just telling them how you feel.
Feeling types certainly will appreciate acts of service,
I mean, who doesn't like it when you cook them a meal
or subscribe to the YouTube channel,
but between this love language and words of affirmation,
I would guess that actually hearing someone express
how they feel in words could be more meaningful
to feeling types and I think the least likely types
to prefer acts of service would probably be INFPs and ISFPs,
they might even feel uncomfortable
with others doing stuff for them.
Before we move on, I wanna point you to my whole playlist
of educational videos all about the 16 personalities,
you can click the card above my head to check it out.
Our next love language is physical touch,
which is also very popular.
I mean, this makes sense, all humans need physical touch
like from the time we're babies, we need it.
I suppose the question is, which types would rank
physical touch as their number love language
over all the others.
My first theory is that the SP types will all be more likely
to prefer a physical touch 'cause those types all prefer
extroverted sensing, which leads them to tend towards being
more present in physical reality,
they're not lost in their heads like the intuitive types.
The ESTP and ISTP in particular, especially,
might prefer physical touch because not only are they
extroverted sensors, but they are thinking types,
so action matters a bit more to them,
perhaps more than words.
NJ types may also rank physical touch highly
as these types of kind of like the cousins of the SP types.
The ENFJ and INFJ especially might preferred physical touch
since they have extroverted feeling,
which is focused on the feelings of others.
So really, they will appreciate any expression of affection
whether physical or verbal.
Least likely types to rank physical touch high,
I would say possibly ENFP and ENTP, just because
they can be so disconnected from the real concrete world
that physical touch might not even occur to them
right away as a love language.
Lastly but not leastly, let's talk about quality time.
Quality time by far is the most popular love language,
check out this poll I gave my audience,
you got almost half voting for quality time
as their love language with over 140,000 responses.
So I think it's safe to say the quality time
would be fairly universal amongst the personality types,
I mean, who doesn't feel loved when others
want to be with them, listen to them, pay attention to them.
But I think what each personality type would define
as quality time is gonna be a little different
from type to type, for example, for introverted types,
quality time could be for them just hanging out,
talking, shooting the breeze, they'll appreciate someone
who is just listening to them.
For extroverted types, quality time could be going out
and doing some activity, the togetherness
and the shared experience, the important part,
but, and maybe this is why it's the most popular one,
it really varies from person to person,
regardless of type.
You'll get extroverted types who get burned out
talking to people all day and they just want you
to sit next to them on the couch while they vent,
or introverts who want you to share
their occasional adventures out into the world with them,
it really depends.
Now, what are the types I think are the least likely
to pick quality time as their preferred love language?
Hmm, this is really tough because it is so universal,
but theoretically I'd say, the EP types,
especially ESTP and ESFP.
This is because quality time might be for these types
boring.
These are the types that if they tell you that quality time
is their love language, they probably want to spend
a lot of that quality time doing some adventurous activity
with you rather than like having a two hour conversation.
Check out my video, how did the 16 personalities
connect with others, which goes a bit more in depth
into what could be considered quality time
for each of the types.
Let me give you some words of affirmation and say,
I appreciate you when you watch videos of mine,
you can watch another one right here
or watch the whole playlist right here
and until next time, stay cool and attractive.