INFJs are a rare personality type, and as a result,
they often feel misunderstood. They are creative souls who see the world in their own unique way.
INFJs are compassionate and empathetic, but they also have a strong sense of justice. They are
complex individuals who are constantly seeking new ways to grow and develop.
If you're an INFJ, you've probably experienced your fair share of INFJ situations.
You've probably had these experiences your entire life,
even if you didn't realize it was an INFJ thing at the time. I am here to help clear
the air and make sense of some things which is why today I am talking about 7 surprising
experiences only true INFJs will understand. Make sure to watch until the end of the video.
If you are truly an INFJ, you will understand exactly what I am talking about, even if you've
never realized that these are unique to you specifically, because you are an INFJ.
Let's get into it.
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Starting things off today is QUESTIONING, THEN LEARNING TO TRUST YOUR INSTINCT
If you're an INFJ, you've probably spent a lot of time doubting or questioning your intuition
before discovering what it means to be an INFJ. It can be difficult to give credit to your gut
instincts because INFJs are equal parts logical and emotional. Because INFJs
are generally unable to back up intuitive nudges with factual data, you disregard them.
For example, perhaps you've had a gut feeling that someone can't be trusted.
However, because you don't know them well, it's easy to convince yourself that you don't have any
hard facts to back up your judgment and that you should give this person the benefit of the doubt.
It may be enough for some INFJs to note the rate at
which their intuitive cues appear to be accurate for them to learn to trust it.
Others may need to discover that they are actually an INFJ and how their
intuition works in order to learn this lesson. If you've gotten to this point, you're probably
aware of how life-changing it can be to learn to lean into this tremendously strong intuition.
Next up and number 6 is PEOPLE Requesting YOU FOR ADVICE
INFJs are highlighted for their ability to see the larger picture. Other talents include excellent
listening skills and the capacity to sympathize with and understand the motivations of others.
As a result, INFJs excel at grasping the big picture of a problem,
its consequences in the future, and where all parties involved are coming from.
Because of this, INFJs are frequently sought out for guidance
and advice. They may even be referred to as the friend group's therapist.
When an INFJ has these talks, they usually discover that they
are sometimes giving advise and other times simply presenting a different perspective.
The majority of the time, INFJs actually love this role. They like the fact that they can
be supportive and helpful to those they care about in such a unique way. More often than not,
an INFJ is told that the counsel and viewpoint they provide is truly beneficial.
It typically makes an INFJ feel more connected and valued by the people in their life,
and they enjoy being able to contribute to the creation of that kind of connection and support.
The number 5 surprising experience only INFJs understand is IGNORING THAT ADVICE,
AND THE SITUATION PLAYS OUT EXACTLY AS THEY PREDICTED
On the other hand, there have been numerous instances where someone has
asked guidance from an INFJ and then ignored all they said.
Every INFJ is aware of, and has had, this experience.
While INFJs enjoy offering their time, energy, and insights to help others,
it may be extremely disheartening and exhausting to provide these resources just to have the
advice ignored. And, most of the time, the situation unfolds just as they predicted.
It's exhausting in a way that they don't experience when they're talking to someone
who is open to their point of view. It's much worse when a preventable
disaster unfolds in front of their eyes. Everyone has control over their lives and
has the ability to make their own decisions, but it can be frustrating to devote so much
time and emotional energy to a situation in the hopes of being helpful and supportive,
only for it to be in vain. Especially when someone had asked for your assistance.
Learning when to stop giving too much of yourself might be difficult.
When you hold back, you may always feel a sense of guilt. But it's crucial for your
personal well-being, and it makes you available to others who actually value your viewpoint.
Next up on my list today is CONVINCING PEOPLE THAT YOU REALLY DO WANT TO STAY IN ON A FRIDAY NIGHT
Staying at home has long been associated with sadness and loneliness in our society.
But it's always been what true freedom looks like for INFJs.
And, while there is more introvert awareness than ever before, there are still plenty
of people who believe they are helping an INFJ by asking them to come out with them.
Most INFJs have never actually had to tell someone,
"No, I really want to stay home tonight." Please don't bother me.
Most INFJs have learned to pick their battles by now. "I have plans," is a popular go-to response.
They are not deceiving anyone. They genuinely really do have plans to stay at home.
If an INFJ gets to know someone better and discovers that they are appreciative
of an INFJ's plans, they will be more open with them. Otherwise,
they keep their plans private. It's simply not worth the efforts.
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Kicking off my top 3 today is BECOMING AWARE THAT YOU ARE AN INFJ
This might be one of the most compltely relatable and common INFJ experiences.
It's the oh my god, this explains everything moment.
This is why being an INFJ can change your life. INFJs are thought to be the
most uncommon personality type. This implies that your encounters are truly one-of-a-kind.
Even if you're in a polite and supportive setting, INFJs are often fully aware that
they're not like the majority of people. When most INFJs first hear my explanation,
they feel a strong connection to it. It's the first time they realize why they've always felt
so different. It is also frequently the start of an exciting period of self-discovery and insight.
In the runner up spot is an INFJs ANXIETY RESPONSE AS A RESULT OF OVERSTIMULATION
Many INFJs are also extremely sensitive. This could be yet another "holy crap,
this explains everything" moment. If you're unfamiliar with high sensitivity,
it's an inherited personality trait that basically says your nervous system is more
sensitive than 80-85 percent of the population. For you, the world is louder, brighter,
and more crowded than most. So, if you've ever felt like this, it's not your imagination.
When you're overstimulated, it may feel similar to anxiousness, but it's not the same thing.
There is a distinct difference for the majority of INFJs. If anything causes them anxiety, the very
thought of doing it makes them anxious. As an example, imagine you need to make a phone call.
However, if something overstimulates an INFJ, the prospect of the activity does not make them
anxious. They are aware that they do not enjoy it, yet there is no tension associated with it. The
anxiety response does not occur until they are in the situation and have been overstimulated.
I wanted to share this since so many INFJs have this experience,
yet the extremely sensitive personality trait isn't discussed as frequently as it should be.
Topping my list and the number 1 surprising experience only true
INFJs understand is INFJs are Reluctant to accept anything at face value
While the rest of the world appears to step out into their environment with confidence,
effortlessly believing that the walls, floors, and buildings around them will sustain them,
INFJs second-guess everything. What is the difference between an illusion and reality?
What is the significance of these actual, tactile items? They desire to go beyond the
tangible world, beyond the senses, and beyond the bounds of time itself in order to comprehend the
ultimate meaning of everything. While most people are preoccupied with what is happening right now,
INFJs are attempting to figure out what "now" is in connection to everything else. In fact,
what exactly does it mean to exist in "the now"?
However, INFJs take longer than other types, particularly sensory types,
to determine what is real and what is not. It's very common for INFJs to claim that as children,
they wondered constantly about the nature of reality and their place in life's play.
The only thing these experiences have in common is that only INFJs recognize that they begin within.
Because the outside world simply does not understand them, I wanted to throw some
light on a few internal situations that I'm sure you're all too familiar with.
This is why these INFJ-only experiences serve to remind you that loneliness and misunderstanding
are not a burden. They are there to remind you that you are destined for greatness,
that you are intended to stand out and make a difference!
Are you an INFJ and Have you had an experience that only an INFJ could understand?
Please tell me your stories in the comments below.
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