Hi, I'm Dr Sam Robbins,
Over the past few months, I’ve received lots of questions about NoFap - which in all
honesty, I had no idea what it was.
So, I decided to do some research.
Basically, NoFap is a website and community forum that serves as a support group for those
who wish to avoid pornography and masturbation.
Its name comes from the Internet slang term fap, which originated in manga comics representing
the sound of masturbation
If you go to the NoFap website https://www.nofap.com, you’ll see that it basically about helping
people QUIT porn through education and support.
Thus, it’s NOT about stopping masturbation, which many people claim NoFap is about.
Simply stated, it’s about the potential ADDICTION to porn.
It’s not a “movement”, or some kind of religious or anti-masturbation website.
They don’t want to restrict porn or control it.
It’s not just for men, because women can also be addicted to porn.
It’s for people who want to free themselves from compulsive sexual behaviors, which many
times revolves around porn.
NoFap helps their users overcome their sexual addictions so they can heal from porn-induced
sexual dysfunctions, improve their relationships, and ultimately live more fulfilling lives.
Why Do This
So I was curious as to why people wanted to follow the NoFap recommendations and suggestions?...
Why did so many guys keep asking my opinion about it?
Well, one reason or belief of NoFap is that after abstaining from porn and masturbation
for a period of time, some of NoFap's users claim to experience "dramatic increases in
social confidence, energy, concentration, mental acuity, motivation, self-esteem, emotional
stability, happiness, sexual prowess, and attractiveness to the opposite sex".
Some NoFap users say their brains were warped by porn, at the expense of real relationships.
Dopamine
So people who promote NoFap - and not the NoFap.com website specifically, but just all
the various blogs, youtube videos, etc., etc…
say that porn causes dopamine levels to constantly go up and stay high and thus, causing an addiction.
… JUST like cocaine, amphetamines, heroine and so forth.
Yes, true… but so what.
So does playing video games.
So does getting a text.
Getting “likes” on Facebook, Swiping left and right on dating sites, so does drinking
coffee or anything with caffeine, so does having sex, and gambling and hundreds of thousands
of other activities that stimulate dopamine receptors.
But these people say that there is no limit with porn as to the potential dopamine damage,
but their is with other things I’ve mentioned - again, total lies.
Your body has limits with everything - it will ALWAYS balance itself out.
And it does so after you orgasim by decreasing dopamine, increasing serotonin (another neurotramitter)
and increasing Prolactin levels (a “female” hormone).
Something that other dopamine-inducing activities can NOT do (drugs, gambling, etc.).
I’m not going to get into the science, it gets complicated and boring -- needless to
say, please don’t think that by stopping porn and masturbation, you’ll somehow magically
fix your need for dopamine.
You’ll simply go get a dopamine high from somewhere else because of genetic issues…
which I’ll get to in a minute.
Then there’s the theory that if you don’t masturbate, you’ll also improve your dopamine
levels, feel more confident, happier and so forth.
However, some of these same people are okay with you having sex -- so what’s the difference?
Listen, if you don’t get “it” out, and have an orgasm, your body (especially in men
due to their higher sex drive, testosterone and massive sperm production) will get it
out in the middle of the night through a nocturnal emission - better known as a “wet” dream.
It’s how the body gets rid of old sperm, to make room for new, healthier sperm.
Thus, NOT having an orgasim for 30 or 90 days and so forth, as some of these NoFap advocates
recommend, is BAD for your body.
It’s also bad for your hormones.
It increases stress hormones such as cortisol.
Some will say that not masturbating increases testosterone.
Wrong.
Masturbating increases testosterone and after you orgasim, it comes back down and then it
goes back up.
Trust me - there are far more benefits to having an orgasim (through intercourse or
masturbation), then NOT.
The problem is when you’re addicted to masturbation and more specifically, porn….
And it’s getting in the way of you living a better life and achieving your goals.
What Is Addiction?
So, the first real question is what is defined as an addiction or more specifically about
today’s subject -- PORN addiction?...
Well, there are lots of definitions and part of addiction is first and foremost, a genetic
predisposition.
Whether it’s to porn, drugs, food or something else - some people just have addictive personalities.
I’ve seen this over and over again in the past few decades.
Usually one or both parents have an addictive history as well (alcohol, drugs, etc.).
Now, with that aside, there’s the general definition that an addiction is “something
you do in the face of adverse and negative consequences.
If it’s hurting or harming someone else or yourself.”
For example, you get a DUI and yet, you keep drinking and driving.
You get lung cancer, yet you continue to smoke.
In case of porn addiction, a better definition might be “if it inhibits partner-oriented
behavior, or it’s done in public or gets in the way of day to day living”
Obviously, if you’re masturbating in public … you’ve got a problem that needs to be
addressed.
If porn addiction is getting in the way of work, your daily responsibilities or you spending
time with family, friends and having a social life - you’ve got a problem.
More importantly, if it’s preventing you from having a relationship - then yes, you
need to get this situation under control.
For example, if your girlfriend wants to have sex, but instead you’re rather go watch
some porn and masturbate, that’s not good.
There’s nothing wrong with masturbating, as long as it’s not replacing intimacy with
someone else.
Now, some people have a very high sex drive and maybe their partner only wants to have
sex 2x a week, while they want to do it daily.
Well, in this situation - have sex with your partner as much as they can and want to, and
the rest of the time go masturbate.
We all have different sex drives.
I’d rather you go masturbate, instead of cheating on your partner - right?...
I mention all of this because I have some guys asking me if it’s wrong that they masturbate
daily.
This usually comes from younger guys and I tell them to enjoy it, because later on in
life when they’re older, they are NOT going to be as horny.
They will NOT want to masturbate daily.
But again, I go back to the main problem -- if porn is preventing you from having real relationships,
especially intimate ones, then yes - you’re probably addicted to it.
If you can’t control it and/or limit it, so you can ALSO have a real, intimate relationship,
then like a drug you need to just stop.
Put some kind of program on your computer or phone to BLOCK all porn sites, so you can’t
access them.
See how you feel after a few weeks or a month or two.
You can still masturbate without porn, but again - don’t let it replace human interactions
and intimacy with another person.
The bottom line is that in today’s modern society, we are overstimulated because of
stress and especially, electronics.
We have access to thousands of TV shows, books, articles, videos, pictures, so on and so forth.
NEVER has our brains and bodies been so over stimulated.
Thus, you’ll need to replenish these energy stores, dopamine and serotonin levels, normalize
cortisol and other stress hormones.
THIS Is why so many people have anxiety, depression, feel panic and stress all day long and feel
uncomfortable in social settings.
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Listen, I have no problem if you want to stop porn, go for it.
See how you feel.
You want to stop masturbating too, go ahead - but that’s NOT natural.
It’s NOT sustainable.
But the bottom line is just don’t let porn and masturbation take over your life, your
thoughts and certainly NOT your relationships.
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