how do you deal with being evaluated specifically by different people with
different opinions and motives oh how do you deal with being evaluated well I can
tell you right now nobody likes being evaluated right nobody hmm now you might
get somebody that says oh I love being coach cinch and there are some people
that are pretty positive about that and as a matter of fact I have clients where
they want to be coached right but most people especially in a normal
environment like if you go out new hire someone to coach you okay but most
people in a normal environment they don't like being evaluated they don't
like being judged yeah always judging so the first thing you have to do when it
comes to being evaluated is get that in your head that you like everybody else
has defense mechanisms and they're gonna flare up as soon as somebody says
something critical of you as soon as somebody goes to evaluate you your
defense mechanisms are going to go up and then once that happens once you feel
those defense mechanisms go up you got to put your ego in check mm-hmm you got
to put your ego in check and then once you do that you gotta listen listen I
know it sounds crazy listen to what they're saying don't even don't even
think of a response say to yourself you know what I'm not even gonna respond I'm
only going to listen to what they're saying yeah but in two kind of em you're
already you can't even take it no no I can't take it oh I'm saying but I think
because people will quote-unquote do that but they won't really do it as far
as just I'm not gonna say anything I'm just gonna listen yeah there that that's
actually like that's actually like it that's actually how they set it up to
look I'm not saying exact exactly what I'm talking about that you don't or
they'll all body language you know the kind where they're like you know they'll
do that kind of stuff don't do that don't do that
so so you're right you got to listen and not just listen but truly listen not
listen just with your ears but listen with your mind and your brain and with
an open mind an open mind and then think about what people are saying and then
see it is important to see it from their perspective because if you just see it
from your perspective you're not even seeing what the criticism really is
you're only seeing the defence of the criticism so actually get in their mind
and say wow what does this look like from their perspective why would they be
taking the effort and the risk and the challenge of trying to present this
problem to me if it wasn't important mm-hmm are they just doing it just to
make me mad no they're trying to help you and you know what just like just
like a joke you know they say like every joke has some little truth to it every
little criticism even if the person is your archrival their criticism is built
on something so what is that reality that you can take away from it even
though you got to take it with a grain of salt especially if the person like it
says here if the person has different opinions and motifs well of course they
have different opinions you want people with different opinions maybe they have
different motives so maybe you think they're trying to usurp your authority
or something like that so maybe you got to take it with a grain of salt but find
the grain of truth in there too and find what it is from their perspective what
the problem is and learn from it and one of the most beautiful things about this
is you take the criticism and you make adjustments you know how do I deal with
about being evaluated I try and accept the evaluation and make adjustments to
improve myself as a human hmm that's how I deal with being evaluated and I'm not
saying I deal with it anybody better than anybody else
because everybody gets defensive myself included
hmm you know we had a little conversation when we started tonight
right sure you said I repeated some stuff on the last pot
allegedly and you know and then we talked through it and then I said you
know and you know I noticed that your camera work was a little bit off and you
know it was just to put my point was is to prove how defensive we all get and we
all get and you know what I did I said you know what I noticed that too
you know as far as me repeating there was a couple little sections and it was
because we pulled from multiple different books and they had a little
bit of overlap and looking back on it probably shouldn't have but at that time
I thought you know what this is emphasizing really important points yeah
but still people don't want to hear the same thing over and over again so I
probably shouldn't have done that so guess what
criticism accepted and on I will adapt adjust and I will make improvements to
my game based on your criticism of my technique my skill and my life