do you white girls like Asian guys insider I wanted to record this video
today because for those of you who've been following us for many years you may
have seen the video that ended up getting tons of views titled this exact
topic it's since been removed but I've realized a lot of my personal clients
were going through relationship issues and they had some stories that was
preventing them from moving forwards and succeeding in terms of love so that's
why I wanted to rerecord this because things have changed times have changed
society has changed and also my viewpoint a viewpoint has changed as
well and this is why Toma is back and we're gonna be answering this
question once and for all and putting a close to this chapter
let me ask you Toma do white girls like Asian guys tell me and we just click
stop after that right now we'll elaborate of course sorry um I do think
that it's not about the race to put it simply personally I never thought gonna
end up with an asian guy as I never felt like I had someone why is that I think
it's because of the stereotype I had in my mind about Asian guys as you actually
were the first Asian guy that I've met and dated so oh no I met somebody in
university but I didn't date them but yeah I never felt like Asian guys were
my type because I had the sort of stereotype in my head that Asian guys
are really shy and all the interested is their computer and everything to do with
numbers and computers and all of that because I didn't see many of them like
socializing with other girls going to the clubs
I'm seeing them more like studying like with the heads down and really
likes soaked into their computers sounds like me I think it's kind of true to a certain extent in terms of loving
computers I do love my tech I gotta say but definitely have changed myself
because for those of you then in my background I used to be an extremely shy
ever since I was pretty much growing up I was suffering from social anxiety
disorder meaning I was homebound every single day I got addicted to video games
as a result and I loved I suppose technology I'm not sure why I'm from
Seoul South Korea so maybe that's partly the reason I have no idea but I
struggled with relationship for most of my life because I never interacted with
girls I would have never approached Toma or spoken to Toma back in the
days but once I began to develop my personal development things really
transformed for me so would you say then white girls like asian guys then or what
what's your answer in terms of that I think I do think that it's a very unfair to
hide behind the race I think what girls really like girls like the confidence
girls like somebody who you know it's fun to hang around with and this sort of
ask questions they seem interested it's more to do with the confidence and
personality more than the race um of course they're always gonna be girls
that not gonna like one reason or another there's like girls I'm never
gonna date black guy asian guy or sometimes even the white guys is that maybe or I would say it
depends on the person you need to do like in part 2 video to answer that yeah
I do think it depends on the person and how you carry yourself do you do you
like the way you are are you confident in your own skin because if you are not
and if you don't put any sort of effort to approach a girl and you don't put any
effort in terms of like developing yourself and me gonna becoming best
version of you it doesn't matter which race you are it's not something that
girls will be attracted to yeah I think it's just attraction is a choice that's
why I discovered from my life because I've had a period of my life where every
single approach I ever attempted and I'm so scary trying to do so it just kept on
flopping failing failing failing but the more I just kept on focusing on me in
terms of my growth and just working on growing myself into the best best
version of myself and letting go of all of that shyness and social anxiety and
all about sadness I was going through back in my dark times I've realized the more
I kept and worked on me and getting my character the more I just found women were
just I suppose wanting me to approach them because you'll find when you seek
love you always find this quite kind of hard to find love but when you aren't
looking for it for example you've just fell into a relationship you'll notice
all of sudden left right and center people want to approach you girls want
to date you it's because you got to realize when you've worked on you got
the cup full that's when you're the most attractive as an individual and that's
not determined by your race and I think it's crazy how the whole a AMWF community
talks about this topic in this way because race has not been a factor in my
life race has been yes sometimes there's an objection a
girl says I don't like Asian guys or whatever maybe but then what do I do
I sell myself better and I show I'm not the typical stereotype so it's all again
based upon what you're saying it's based upon yourself and I think people Asian
men especially if that's you you gotta get off your story yeah
get off the story of blaming society get off your story of saying oh but you
don't understand the western media realize things are changing but even if
it isn't changing you gotta take control of your life and that only
happens when you stop being a victim of the circumstances and I remember when I
was younger I used to always complain always just justify always to say many
reasons why I can't take action in life you either have reasons or results you
gotta choose yeah so why would you say asian guys could be attractive to white
girls what do they need to have in terms of equality just so we can give them
some golden nuggets and we'll wrap up from there I personally think what Asian
guys really have is like the strong manners when it comes to like treating
the girl the right way so you want us to over amplify that well I didn't say
over amplify that but I think it's also show up in your best light I think
because you guys are really handsome but if you don't put yourself together
firstly like in terms of grooming then nobody is gonna see that so what should
you focus on terms of grooming to make sure you well firstly clothes that fit
you um I'm so sick and tired of were like two jeans they're baggy and dirty
and all of that like pay more attention to the way you look because if you want
to attract the pretty girl do you think that somebody who's looking after
themselves I'm gonna be attracted by somebody who just like puts whatever on
themselves isn't it it's the same thing so true yeah so I think if you are
looking at more like you know that type of girls that look after themselves you
need to do that as well but but more than looks I think work on improving
your confidence on on improving yourself I think that is something that's really
important because if you're happy with the way you are and you happy in your
own skin then it doesn't matter which race you are like you you already like
them said you're a cupful and that's what we're looking for we we always are
looking for people that are interesting that are fun and they feel confident and
comfortable with the way they are yeah how you should picture it since I assume
you're Asian guy watching this imagine you get your dream car that could be a
Ferrari or Lamborghini I'm sure you're not gonna allow that to rot in the
garage what will you do you give it the best polish every single day you may
take some selfies with it you make it seem really nice right but that's the
exterior that car however doesn't mean anything unless it's got that engine as
well and that engine is you your personal growth the exteriors the way
you show up okay so you're gonna make sure you work on yourself outer world
but then you gotta master that inner world as well and both of those is
important you can't just go out there and just sudden it tuck on a t-shirt and
just hope that things will be okay because if you're aiming for eight nine
ten in terms of the looks in terms of the girl you want to attract you gotta
make sure you present yourself as an eight nine ten and sometimes just bit of
clothing Toma's specialty is personal branding by the way and she shows
different clients how just the different clothes just changed entirely the way
you look so work on that the skin care the hair all of this by the way I had to
transform because back in the days just give some idea because I was addicted to
a lot of drugs when I was growing up I wouldn't even brush my teeth every day
oh my God it was it's funny I suppose looking back now at the time I just didn't care about
my life I just was addicted to a lot of the hardcore different level drugs which
I don't get to today but you could just tell from my photo that I just didn't
care about myself and as a result guess what there's a great saying goes you're
constantly letting other people know how to treat you by the way you treat
yourself and so that's why people didn't care about me they didn't even give me a
job when I was looking for a job in fact i was only the
only job I could get was a toilet cleaner at the time and so it always
goes to show the exterior world is important exterior but then you've gotta
have that engine fuel that engine give it the right health give it the
right nutrition in terms of your mind and nutrition you must master this
everything changes and so if you want me to talk more about this insider I'm more
than happy to share with you the transformation I had to go through just
let me know in the comments box below because your feedback helps me to create
like specific topics and so forth now Toma if yours to leave everybody
with one final message in terms of putting an end to this chapter once
and for all what would it be I would just say that you know it's very lazy to
hide behind the label and to hide behind your race and now blame just your race
why girls are not attracted to you like look at yourself and think like are you
doing the best from your sight so you get different results because if you're
not doing the best and you just expecting all those results to come it
doesn't work this way in order for you to receive something you have to give
something yourself so I think stop hiding behind your race and start
working on the best version of yourself and start becoming the change that you
wanna see in the world definitely this video for me means a lot
because firstly it's what started success insider I created these videos to
help out my younger self and a lot of people who approached me they look like
my younger self at the time and this video was what ended up taking successes
out his channel just on a whole another level getting hundreds of thousands of
views and at the same time this this video is almost like I'm speaking to my
younger self because I've been through this I know what it's like to be on the
other side of my life where my health is deteriorating and just is an absolute
mess so my advice is this is the advice I would give to my younger self if I
could speak to him you gotta believe in yourself and realize that nobody is to
blame the only person is actually you right
now and you gotta believe in your capabilities that you can get yourself
out but it's only you that has to decide this nobody else don't wait for the
world to transform you gotta transform don't wait for things to get better you
gotta get better now and this takes a firm decision decide today you're gonna
work on you decide today you'll become obsessed with personal
development once you mastered this once you're a master mind set and heart set
game over you've mastered life so go out there insider and do your absolute
best if you enjoy today's video be sure to like this video and comment below in
regards to your biggest takeaway and if you want us to create more videos in
terms of this is a little bit off-topic but I understand that a lot of you high
achievers you do suffer from relationship maybe in terms of
maintaining relationship or getting into a relationship so I'm more than happy to
provide you with whatever value you need and I'm here to serve born to serve okay
so as always insider follow your heart my friend and take action and go live the
life you're truly born to live I'll see you very soon my friend take care