﻿Hi Friends, meet Kim she is 38, blonde, a gorgeous smile and an incredibly attractive figure
by today’s current social standards. She oozes sex appeal, that many men lust over her from a far.
Despite her admirers she consistently finds herself in and out of relationships with often
toxic but more interestingly… older men. And it all stems from one factor… Daddy Issues.
Daddy issues is a catchphrase largely misunderstood and abused. I want you in
this video to understand the clear signs of what daddy issues are, and identify
signs if you may have them, so that you can understand it's more than just a saying…
Kim grew up with a loving father. A loving, wealthy father who wanted his children around him
and to have whatever they wanted when they wanted. Lavished with continuous holidays and gifts,
Kim became accustomed to a certain lifestyle. This lifestyle meant unless she found a Mark
Zuckerberg who could fund her lifestyle it was game over for any potential suitors.
This led Kim to daddy issue number 1 … dating older men. Kim found herself consistently
attracted to the financially secure and more established lifestyle of the older man. Why?
to replace the void of the father figure. Kim felt that she needed to hold on desperately
to each partner and became incredibly intense which leads us to the 2nd daddy issue…
An intense physical relationship. Kim felt close contact (representing the closeness
of her father) would be the strategy to keep a man by her at all times, in fact the reverse happened,
whilst she would express public displays of affection as a tactic, the confident older
man would pull away after realising that this is all too childlike and lacking in substance.
Sadly for Kim she remains in and out of relationships unaware that
she is expressing ‘daddy issues’. Rather than accepting the reality
of the situation. This in and out dating has led Kim to spiral into her performing
constant minor plastic surgeries, as she concludes it must be the way she looks…
All she wants is daddy issue number 3… the confirmation of love regularly.
3 beautiful, respectful girls Annabel, Olivia and Harriet equally all suffer with the same
plight of needing the constant reassurance of love. This takes the form of a constant
physical touch or answers to comments such as “are you impressed with me?” of constant
phone check-ins from partners. So where does this all come from… point
4 …The tense connection with your father. Despite growing up with a father present in their
lives he was emotionally absent. His failure to acknowledge minor success such as school grades
or job promotions led the girls to questions whether they were good enough. Devoid of love,
it could have been rectified with a simple “well done, darling”... Each failure to acknowledge the
girls meant that girls would seek out partners who could fill the emotional hole. Safe to say
each has found a man who can fill this void, but the longing for acceptance still remains.
The by product of these points results in point 5. The fear of being alone…
Petrified of being alone, Kim would rather the chaos of a relationship rather than being alone.
The dread of being alone has limited her capacity to create her own distinct identity and progress
into a healthy partnership. In addition Annabel, Olivia and Harriet jump at the opportunity to be
with partners quickly rather than just dating and being single for a period of time.
Without pausing, you can go from one love connection to the next without processing
it fully. If this is the type of love you want, you'll never find out who you are.
If you don't address the underlying issues that make you feel so alone, you'll never be able to
have a healthy and hopeful relationship. "Do I have daddy issues?"
It's a question that may not yield a clear response. There is a more accurate
approach to determine if you have daddy issues, but you must be open and honest
about your relationship with your father. So what are the different types of fathers
Sorry Dads but this is your doing! Different fathers are responsible
for their daughters' childhood trauma and adult relationship problems.
The Emotionally Unavailable Father Just like Annabel, Olivia and Harriet
they had his physical presence at home, but he was emotionally unavailable to them.
Despite having a physically there father, the child feels disconnected and abandoned.
The Father Who Is Abusive and Violent They abuse their daughters because
of their impulsive, hot-tempered, and unpredictable emotional and mental condition.
Children that grow up with this type of parent can develop mental health issues.
The Indulging and Pampering Father Just like Kim -This sort of father's
children are spoiled and overindulged. Their father lavishes them with love, care and money.
The daughter, spoiled as a child, would want to be treated the same way. She'll be looking for a
partner who will treat her like royalty. The Controlling and Toxic Father
Have you heard of the term "helicopter parenting" before? Parents who hover over
their children's activities and decisions are called helicopter parents. These parents are too
invested in their children's lives and want to protect them from disappointment.
Daughters who grew up with a hovering father are more likely to seek out domineering spouses.
The Dependent and Ruined Father These are fathers who rely on their daughters
to get by daily. Caring for a non-working father might lead to poor self-esteem in children.
Men may easily influence or abuse them as children for sexual or financial gain.
The Father's Anguish and Distress Daughters look up to their dads with
admiration under normal circumstances. So, if a father constantly disappoints his daughter,
there's a good chance she'll have daddy issues as an adult. The girl will become rebellious
and self-destructive as she grows older. Anyone can have a problem with their father. Daddy
issues are more common than most people realise. Many people carry more baggage than British
Airways from their childhood into adulthood and don't want the label of having daddy issues…
People who have Daddy issues either don't love themselves enough or love themselves
incorrectly. This impacts all of their relationships, whether they be family,
romantic, friendly, or professional. It should be a two-way side when it comes to love.
You adore the individual, and the other person loves you unconditionally. If you learn to
appreciate yourself and have personal objectives, you will have stable, meaningful relationships.
If any of the above resonates with you, seek the assistance of a trained counsellor or therapist
who can assist you in unravelling your father's connection and healing your attachment traumas,
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