Hello my wonderful friend! Today's video is on the top 11 mistakes men make with women and what to do
instead. Are you sick of being alone? Are you a really awesome guy and you just can't figure out
why you're not getting the girl? Pay close attention to these mistakes, because if you're
making these mistakes they are going to keep you single. The difference between the guys who get
the girl and the guys who don't get the girl is the guys who get the girl aren't making these
mistakes. So if you want to be one of them pay close attention and make sure you watch to the
end. Remember that doing the same thing over and over again is never going to get you a different
result. So being aware of these mistakes and knowing what to do instead, approaching it
from a different angle, is what's going to change everything for you. And thankfully,
even though these mistakes are really easy to make once you know what to do instead it's actually
really simple. Information like this is what makes getting the girl easy, fast, and a whole lot more
fun. Now before we dive in to the mistakes, if this is your first time watching one of my videos,
welcome! My name is Melannie. I'm a Christian dating coach for men. My specialty is teaching you
how to avoid bad relationships and dead-end relationships by instead learning the skills
you need to get the girl of your dreams and the relationship of your dreams. So make sure you
subscribe, ring the notification bell, and give me a big thumbs up. Now the first top mistake I
want to talk about is thinking that physical attraction is the only part of the equation.
Physical attraction is very important. Obviously, right? There's nothing wrong with that. That makes
dating and relationships fun and it's definitely something you should be working on. However,
physical attraction is not even the most important piece of this puzzle. It's a part of the puzzle
but it's not the biggest. Especially when it comes to women. Women, this is science guys,
it's not quite as important to them as it is to men. If you put all of your focus and all of your
confidence in being physically attractive it's not gonna be what helps you get the girl at the end of
the day. Yes, pay attention to it, but there are other traits that are far more important to women
than physical attraction. Be sure to watch this video and this video. There are links in the
description below. I'm able to go in more detail in those videos on the traits that are super
important to women. Bottom line, make sure your physical attraction is not the only thing you are
working on. Our next top mistake men make with women is never making a move. As a coach, guys,
I see this every single day. There are so many awesome guys who just never make a move. Here's
what you need to understand about women: When you don't make a move she takes it as rejection. Women
are very very good at picking up body language. This is something science tells us women do better
than men which means she thinks she's being so obvious. She thinks she is being insanely obvious
and she thinks you're picking up on it and you're not making a move. So what that tells her is "wow,
he doesn't like me." So you know what? She's going to move on and she's going to find someone
who does. She's not going to wait forever because she wants her dream guy and she deserves to get
him and if you don't make a move she's going to find someone who does. So waiting forever to
make a move is going to guarantee you stay single forever. Our next top mistake men make with women
is doing the same things they did in high school as an adult. Most people get their
dating and flirting education from high school. And they just keep doing it as they get older but
it stops working. This is especially true when you are looking for a happy, lifelong relationship. If
you're looking to marry the love of your life you can't use the same things you learned in
high school. Now she's an adult woman. Now she's looking for an adult relationship and she wants
to know that you're mature and that you're a man. She doesn't want to see you as a schoolboy. A lot
of men think "wow, why did it work in high school and college but it doesn't work anymore? Am I just
broken?" What you learned then doesn't work now. This is why it's very important to be proactive
about learning mature dating and relationship skills. If you want to make getting the girl easy,
fast, and a whole lot less stressful then having those those mature dating and relationship skills
is the game changer. Now our next big mistake that keeps so many awesome guys single is just winging
it. Just kind of guessing what will work. This is what makes it awkward. This is what makes it
creepy. This is what scares her away. Now what causes someone to wing it or to just guess?
Well, again, this comes back to having those dating and relationship skills. And back in high
school you could kind of wing it but now she's really looking for someone who is confident and
competent and mature. And if you just wing it and it comes across as awkward or it comes across as
creepy she's gonna go find another guy who doesn't do that. Not because she's trying to be unkind but
just because it was awkward and it was creepy. She doesn't know what to do with that so she moves on
to someone else. So having a game plan, having an actual strategy and knowing how to move forward,
that's what makes it so much easier and so much more fun to get the girl. Now you might
be thinking "okay that's great Melannie but how do I get those skills and how do I get that game
plan?" Guys, that's why I became a coach, is to teach you those things. And that's why I created
my program, so you would have the easiest, the fastest, the best way to be able to get that girl.
I have seriously made it so easy for you it's not even funny. If you have not yet watched my free
masterclass be sure to do that now. You're going to learn more about those skills, you're going
to learn more about that game plan, and you'll get a sneak peek at my program if you decide
you'd like to work with me for the fastest and the easiest way to get the girl of your dreams.
There is a link in the description below to sign up and watch that free masterclass, there's also
a link in the pinned comment. If you're sick of being alone and not knowing why this is
your shortcut so make sure you give it a watch. Now our next big mistake men make with women
is not knowing what to say. If you don't know what to say when you approach her, when you
flirt with her, when you text her, all of those things, that's what makes that awkward silence.
Right? Have you been there? It's painful. Not knowing what to say, not knowing how to do that
friendly small talk and all of those things, again it makes it awkward, it makes it creepy,
and it makes you feel more nervous. And the truth is you deserve to not feel nervous. You
deserve to feel confident and in control. Now this again comes back to those skills and comes
back to that game plan. When you have the skills of knowing how to make small talk and knowing what
questions to ask and what to say and when you have the game plan then knowing what to say is
super easy. Our next big mistake is being needy or being aggressive. That will scare girls away
so so quickly. Be sure to watch this video for a little bit more on it. I'm able to go a little bit
more in depth. But basically when you're trying to force it or when you're like begging her to
pay attention to you, that's what makes you come across as aggressive or needy. And usually the
reason behind this is desperation. Not having any idea how to get her to notice you, how to
get her to be interested in you, not knowing how to create that attraction. That's what causes
you to come across as aggressive or needy. And again I know I sound like a broken record, guys,
but this is fact. This is why having those skills is so effective and why having that game plan
is so effective. So make sure you click that link to sign up for that free masterclass. It's going
to rock your world and really comfort you. Quick question before we get to our next big mistake.
Are you enjoying this video and would you like more videos like this one? If you would please
comment "YES!" It helps me so much to know what material to make for you guys. And if you have
any other suggestions of videos you'd like to see in the future please leave those in the comments
as well. Are you ready for our next big mistake? Our next big mistake is not actively trying to be
her match. So many guys, I get so many comments from guys who want a girl who's a level 10,
but they only are willing to work for like a three or four and that's all of the effort they put into
themselves. What you need to realize is she has worked like crazy to be a 10. Because all it
takes to be a 10 is having the right skills. It's knowing the right things. And she has worked like
crazy to be a 10. And frankly if she's worked that hard she deserves a 10, right? That's only fair.
But so many guys, they're only willing to work down here, they're not willing to come up to a 10,
and then they call her toxic or they call her a snob or they say she's a jerk because she rejected
them. She's not rejecting you because she's a jerk, she's rejecting you because she's worked
like crazy to get where she is and she really deserves someone who's on the same level as her.
And frankly, God wants her to have someone who's on the same level as her because He knows how hard
she has worked. So if you want a 10 then you need the dating and relationship skills to get you on
the level of a 10, So if you want a really amazing relationship, if you want a really amazing girl,
then you need to make sure you're rising to that level. Otherwise, you are going to be alone
forever or you are going to have to settle for a toxic relationship. Now before anybody panics
and before anybody freaks out please realize I'm being completely honest with you here.
The skills to get to a level 10, once you know what they are, they are very simple and they're
very easy. And as a matter of fact they are so much easier than staying down here. They are so
much easier and a whole lot more fun. So don't let that overwhelm you. All you need is the road map,
all you need is the skills, and again that's what I'm here to give you. So make sure you watch that
masterclass and learn more about my program. Our next big mistake that men make with women
is investing themselves emotionally into the relationship too quickly. This is such an easy
mistake to make. As humans, we all want someone, right? And if you're single you just really really
want that special someone. And once you find someone awesome it's really easy to move way
too quickly and to turn her into your girlfriend or your wife before you've even gone out with her,
emotionally. That's a very very common thing that happens. And what that does is it creeps her out.
It's too aggressive, it's too needy, and it pushes her away. So it's very important that
you take things at the right pace and that you say "wow, she's really awesome. I would like it to go
somewhere but I'm just going to enjoy getting to know her." Not "oh my goodness, she's amazing,
I'm going to marry her." That right there, that mindset, is going to push her away. Our next big
mistake is that you look the same way you did in high school. Kind of like we talked earlier,
the tactics you learned in high school worked in high school, but they don't work as an adult.
Now it's very common for both men and women actually to kind of figure out their style in
high school and then never change it. However, if you're trying to attract an adult woman
you can't look like a high schooler. And a lot of guys will go into even their 50s and 60s still
dressing the same way they did in high school. This is why it's very important to make sure you
know how to dress confidently and attractively. And it's very simple to do on a budget once you
know the right way. This is why I make sure to teach you guys that in my program. But
if you want her to see you as a confident attractive masculine man you can't dress the same
way you did in high school. Your haircut needs to be modern and classy and the way you dress needs
to be modern and classy. This is how you increase your confidence, increase her attraction for you,
and increase respect for you. Our next big mistake is thinking that a relationship will give you
confidence. This is very common, and again this kind of starts because of high school. "Those who
are cool, those who are hip, have a girlfriend. Those who are losers, don't." That's what they
tell us. It's not true, but that's what they tell us. Which means as we get older and as we start
to grow up everybody starts to think that their entire worth is based on being in a relationship.
That is not what is going to give you confidence. There are tons of people in relationships who have
zero confidence. What really gives you confidence is skills. The skills that make you really good at
dating and relationships, the skills that make you really attractive, and the skills that teach you
how to have that healthy feeling of self-worth. But if instead you think your confidence will
come from a a relationship you're not going to approach relationships the right way and
you're going to be needy and you're going to be aggressive. And again, that's not what women
want. That's what's going to push her away. And our next top mistake men make with women
is telling her you have feelings for her before you're official. Guys, if you have not been dating
her for a couple of months at least don't tell her you have feelings for her, okay?
And I mean seriously dating her. If you tell her you have feelings for her too soon she goes "whoa!
Okay, this guy's needy, this guy's aggressive, this is creepy." She doesn't know how to
react and so she leaves. That is pushing an emotional closeness that you don't have yet.
So that's why again you have to take things at the right speed. Do not tell her you have feelings for
her until you're ready to be official and she's ready to be official. The top mistakes men make
with women are first, thinking physical attraction is the only thing that matters. It is important,
but there are other traits that are far more important to women. Next, we have a waiting to
make a move. If you wait to make a move you're going to stay single forever. Period. Next,
we have using the same things to get the girl that you learned in high school. You need mature,
actual skills if you're going to get an adult woman to notice you and to fall in love with
you. Our next big mistake is not having a game plan. Just winging it and guessing what works.
This is what makes it awkward and creepy. Again, if you want to avoid all of these mistakes
that's what I created my program to help you with. Make sure you watch my free masterclass through
the link in the description below. Our next big mistake is not knowing what to say. Again,
this kind of comes back to just winging it. This will make it awkward and creepy so fast. Next,
we have being needy or aggressive. Trying to force it. Remember this comes from desperation.
Where if instead you have the skills you need you don't feel needy, you don't feel aggressive,
you don't feel desperate. Our next big mistake is not being her match. Expecting her to be a
10 but only being willing to get the skills to be a three to a five. It's not gonna work. And next
we have investing too much into the relationship before it's even a relationship. Acting like she's
your girlfriend or she's going to marry you before you've even really gotten to know this gal. That
is going to put way too much pressure on you, way too much pressure on her, and kill any potential
relationship. Next we have looking like you did in high school. Never growing your wardrobe up,
never growing your hair style up. That is going to make her think that you're still kind of a
schoolboy when instead you want her to see you as an attractive, masculine, confident man. Our
next big mistake is thinking your confidence will come from a relationship and putting way too much
pressure on that when instead it's skills that give you confidence. And next, we have telling her
that you have feelings for her before you guys are official. Not a good idea. Thank you so much
for watching my amazing friend! I would love to hear from you in the comments. Which of these
top mistakes surprised you the most? I want to hear about it. And would you like more videos
like this one? If you would be sure to comment "YES!" in the comments below. If you have not
yet subscribed be sure to do that now and ring the notification bell and give me a big thumbs up. Do
you have a friend who's maybe making some of these mistakes or even who's just sick of being alone
and doesn't know why? Please share this video with him I know it will really help. If we're not yet
friends on social media we totally need to be so check out those links in the description below
as well. Thank you so much again for watching my amazing friend and have an amazing day. [blooper
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