Can a relationship go back to normal? After cheating as
occurred? Tough question, isn't it? We live in a culture where
it seems that a lot of people want to being unfaithful to
their spouses. Infidelity seems to abound. Now, if it hasn't
happened in your marriage, I'm not trying to tell you that it
will. So don't panic. But I'm saying if it has, you probably
are thinking to yourself, should I try to put this marriage back
together or not? You may be the person that did the cheating,
you may be the person that was cheated on. But the very fact
that you're watching this video tells me that in all likelihood,
you have not decided to end the relationship. So now you're
thinking, well, can a relationship go back to normal
after cheating? Well, first would have to ask what's normal?
You understand that we used to think that people had normal
lives. But now we know that none of us not one of us is normal.
We're all just a little bit off. in some fashion, everybody on
the planet is just a little screwed up. But if you've lived
very long, you know that that's true. So we'd ask what's normal?
In what existed in your marriage? Before the cheating?
Do you really want to go back to that? Now, you might be
thinking, well, it was pretty good. But is that what you want?
You want to have pretty good, or it was okay. You just want to
have Okay, well, I just want to get past this, I don't want to
have the pain that I'm going to right now. I'd like for us to be
able to move past it as if it never occurred. Well, that is
not possible. Because you see, it did occur. What I would like
to recommend to you is, don't be thinking, can a marriage, go
back to normal after cheating. But ask yourself this, can a
marriage be better than it was before? After cheating? No, no,
no panic yet, stay with me. If you think about a dislike this,
every major event, anything that's significant that occurs
in your life, or your spouse's life, causes some kind of a
change to your relationship. When the first child is born,
the relationship changes. So it changes again, in a different
way. If you have a second child, if one of you loses a job that
you really counted on and loved working at, then that will make
a difference. Any change the death of somebody that you love,
even it could be, God forbid, one of your children, or it
could be a friend, it could be a parent, it could be somebody
else that really matters to you guys. In other words, every
significant change in life will actually, to some degree, change
your relationship. And so if you're thinking, Well, can we
get past this so that it doesn't have any effect on us that
occurred? The answer is no, no, even people as they get older,
and start realizing I'm not going to accomplish that goal.
I'm never going to get to do that thing. I thought I would
what people commonly referred to then as midlife crisis, even
that changes a relationship. So don't be thinking in terms of
our what what I had be thinking in terms of what can we have
now. And the fact is, you can have a relationship better than
it was. Now, you understand that anybody in the marriage industry
knows that to be true. counselors, therapists, we talk
about it all the time. If a couple can get past a major
event, even a major negative event like an affair infidelity,
cheating. If both people can get past that, then the marriage
will be stronger than it was before. You say past that, yes,
it doesn't instantly get better. It's a process where you get
better over time. We don't typically talk about that. So
for example, I've been on today's show a couple of times,
I wouldn't think about going on today's show and saying, Well,
if you have had an affair, or if your spouse has had an affair,
your marriage can be better than it was before. Because surely
out there somewhere. There are some not cool thing. Well, dang,
Aluma wife,
and you're saying my marriage can be better if I cheat on her.
I know, I know, I'm being halfway funny. But believe it or
not, there really aren't people who think like that. That's why
we don't broadcast it out there. But we it makes you
International. I first started working with marriages in 1994.
And we have worked with 1000s I mean 1000s Literally 1000s of
couples since then. And here at image International. The year
before I made this particular video, we worked with 10,000
marriages. And I'm here to tell you something. We know from
experience having worked with people, not just in America
where I live, but people from all over the planet. We've
actually had people go through our courses or seminars,
workshops from every continent, on the planet Earth except
Antarctica. Nobody from there yet, but every other continent,
and I'm here to tell you that you can develop a relationship
better than it was before the cheating took place. But not
because of the fact that a person cheated, it's not going
to be the affair that makes your marriage better. What's gonna
make your marriage better is what both of you, each of you
learn from what happened. But that means you're gonna have to
have some kind of education, you're gonna have to understand
some things. You see, sometimes people try to put a band
together on their own. And if they can, praise God, I'm happy
for them. But that can be pretty hit or miss. Because of the fact
that there are all kinds of pitfalls out there. There's all
kinds of mines under the land. And when you try to put it back
together just about yourself, you may stumble into one of
those mines and blow everything up. We hear people say all the
time, well, we're in reconciliation now. And we ask
questions like, so how are you doing that? Well, we just got
back together. And we said we'd forgive each other. And now
we're moving on. Well, if that works, wonderful, but the odds
are against you. Because there really is a process that can
help you move through the reconciliation process. For
example, you're going to want to understand, how did this happen?
Why did this happen? How can we put the marriage back together,
we can be safe and secure, so that we don't have to worry
about it happening sometime again, in the future? How can we
learn how to trust each other again? What what does it truly
mean to forgive? And if we do forgive, can we really forget,
can we move on with life so that this doesn't become the the
thing that everything is centered around from now on. And
that can require a great deal of help. Now, I'm telling you, it
can be done. But unfortunately, in a short video like this, I
can't tell you how to do it. But we have a free resource we'd
like to give you if you want it. It's our free mini course. It's
about how to get your spouse to be in love with you again, or
how to get your spouse back again. And if you'd like to have
that there's a link that you can click here that will take you to
get information about it. Or you can call one of our client
representatives and say, we heard Dr. Bing talking about
this and we want to put it back together. How can we do that?
And our client representatives in a free strategy call can help
you understand the process, how to get into the process that can
help you put your marriage back together. Even if you're
thinking well, I'm the one who cheated. And I would like for my
spouse to forgive me. But I don't know how to get that to
occur. Take advantage of that free strategy call. Because our
client representatives can guide you to different resources we
have to help you do that. Or if you're the spouse that was
cheated on, and you're not sure if you want to forgive the other
person or not. All those kinds of things can be handled. And
that one free call now, they are not counselors, they are not
therapists. They listen briefly, they try to understand what your
situation is. And then they can help you find the right product
to do this. So what's the short answer? Can a marriage go back
to normal after cheating? No, that's impossible. You have been
through an event that has changed your life, your
relationship. But can a marriage be better? If you work out the
problems, learn from it, and then put the marriage back
together in a much better way? The answer is yes. It is
absolutely possible. We see it. We witness it 1000s of times
every year. We'd like to help please let us