By the end of this video,
I'm going to give you phrases that will destroy narcissists,
so stay tuned.
These are some phrases that I want you to use with caution,
I do not want you to put yourself in danger,
but if you want to use some phrases that will help you,
maybe dispel the tension, maybe bring down narcissist a little bit,
the tension is high, you're interacting with a narcissist,
you're trying to communicate with them,
they are making your life crazy,
you're not sure what to say,
especially when you're negotiating with them and
I am a narcissist negotiation expert,
I'm Rebecca Zung, I'm a lawyer and by the way,
I spend every minute of this channel helping you,
all my videos, helping you negotiate with them,
helping you interact with them in a powerful way,
so you're going to want to make sure you subscribe to this channel,
hit that notification bell,
I've spent more than 20 years dealing with narcissists in my practice,
I've had a high net-worth practice and
having a deep understanding of the psyche of these people and
I've helped thousands of people go from lives of drama, trauma and chaos;
to step into lives of freedom, possibility and purpose.
I've written two best-selling books and this is what I do now full time.
So, now I want to help you do the same thing by the way, and
I've had to deal with couple of them in my personal life as well and
so I know the hell that it is,
I know the hell that it is to deal with them, unfortunately, and
I've had to deal with them even as bullies and as a kid myself,
so, I do know what it's like.
So, I'm going to say to you, do not put yourself in danger, okay?
Do not put yourself in danger,
if you feel like you are in any kind of danger,
then just leave the situation, go call the domestic violence hotline,
I will drop the number to that below.
Do not put yourself in any kind of situation
where you're going to feel like you’re going to be in any kind of danger.
So, I want to make sure I say that several times.
Because obviously, that's what narcissists want,
they want to be the center of your world,
I want to be the center of any world,
they don't have any sense of self,
I always say they're like the hollow chocolate Easter Bunny and
they look good on the outside, there's nothing going on on the inside.
They just don't have that sense of self,
the worst thing you can say is you're not the center of my world,
they need to be the center of anybody's world.
That's why they go crazy when you say that,
I mean, they can go ghosting you, but you can't do the same.
I mean, they'll go dark on you for hours or days at a time and
then act like you're the crazy one when you say,
Where did you go? What happened?
But when you try to do the same,
oh my gosh, the flood comes back and
they are blowing up your phone, showing up at your house,
stalking you, all those things, right?
You can't say I need space right now, that will destroy them.
When you try to shift the dynamic then they start to go crazy
because they've been conditioning you from the beginning,
they’ve conditioned you, to see if you were going to be
a good form of supply for them, right from the beginning.
They were testing you to see if you were going to be a good target,
a good source, a good source of supply for them and
how do they do that?
Well, they started off at the beginning love-bombing and
then they would start to pull back,
they would start to devalue, they would start to ghost,
Did you stick around? Did they get away with it?
That's how they started testing you
to see if you were going to be a good source of supply, right?
And I have other videos on that, by the way and
they'll say things to you, by the way,
like “Everybody else thinks this” and
“No one else thinks the way you do”,
I mean, they'll pull back and say things to you
to try to make you think you're the one that's crazy,
but you certainly can't say things back to them like that,
they'll say all sorts of horrible and vicious things to you and
I have a whole video, by the way, on their favorite catchphrases,
which you can definitely check out my video
on the narcissist’s favorite catchphrases,
they all speak the same way.
Because they have to feel special,
they want to feel like they are special,
like they are the only ones,
so that's another kind of phrase that will destroy them.
Anything that makes them feel like they're ordinary,
they want to feel like they are extraordinary,
like they are special, anything else will destroy them.
Whether it's a business relationship or a personal relationship.
I will be moving forward and it does not include you.
I personally had a business relationship with a narcissist and
even though the situation with that person was absolutely a nightmare,
that person was not happy when the situation was ending,
because that's where the supply was coming from, right?
When they see that source of supply moving along,
they want to glom onto it because supply is their food,
it's their lifeblood, it's their oxygen.
They want to continue to glom onto any source of supply that they can
so they don't want to see that,
if you are so ready to slay this and
move forward and slay the rest of your life.
Anything that does not make them feel like they are special,
that doesn't include them,
that is moving forward without them,
those kinds of things destroy them and especially “No”,
like if you say no to them, if you say goodbye to them,
if you say stop contacting me,
if you say all those sorts of things,
that's what's going to destroy them,
but that is what you need to do
in order for you to heal, in order for you to stop being triggered,
in order for you to be able to move forward,
those are the types of phrases that destroy them,
but allow your soul to actually start to come alive again
because I know from personal experience and
also from my experience in helping thousands of people through this,
in order for you to stop this energy suck
because they are such energy vampires
that they're glomming onto you to pull that energy out of you and
in order to stop that, you have to shut it down,
stop feeling guilty for them,
stop feeling like responsible for them, you are not,
you can't heal them, you can't save them,
I know as empaths, you want to, you feel like you can,
but you can't, it's something within them,
they need to want to save themselves,
they need to be able to take care of themselves,
you need to save yourself, take care of yourself,
you know, put your own oxygen mask on first, right?
That is my advice to you.
If you are negotiating with them,
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I'm so glad that you're here, so glad that you found this video,
there's a reason why you found me and you found this video and
you're going to be part of this community because now,
you can start to learn, you can start to heal,
you can start to get educated and
you can start to have your eyes opened,
become whole again and move forward.
So, I send you light and I send you love and
I'm so glad that you're here,
today is the first day of negotiating your best life.
I'm Rebecca Zung and
I will definitely see you in the next video.