hi everyone I'm Adrienne Everheart you're dating in a relationship coach today I'm
going to talk about three ways to outsmart a man no more being a doormat really good
a man to feel crazy about you fall in love with you outsmart him on some manipulative
things that he's doing probably without himself even knowing again most guys
are good guys they're just doing really what comes natural to them so I'm gonna
teach you how to outsmart this and a few amazing workarounds that are gonna help
you really go from dating to commitment to building that stronger bond with a man
number one words mean nothing the sooner you can understand that any word a man says to you even
I love you doesn't really mean anything a lot of times early on a man may take you to a wonderful
neighborhood and show you some beautiful houses he might show you how financially well he's doing
he might tell you things like you are such an amazing woman you really really are and the
truth is you are an amazing woman but understand that words mean nothing it doesn't mean that the
man is lying and it also doesn't mean that what he's saying he doesn't feel in that moment he
really does feel these things about you in this moment he truly does it's just that we want his
actions to show up in the same way his words are so a man can say anything to you beautiful
poetry he can make all sorts of promises he can talk about getting married you don't know how
many times I hear about that a woman will tell me well we've talked about marriage things are
looking pretty good with him we've talked about it doesn't mean a darn thing that you've talked about
marriage you're looking for actions you're looking for longevity again I highly recommend that all
women date a man casually date him for about three months before you become committed to him and give
up all your other options and then at some point you also want to be able to have a were stationed
somewhere around the month three to five where do you see us going you want to be able to say
those words to him and see how he responds that one little simple question where do you see us
going will make or break a relationship with a man his words mean nothing you are looking for actions
if he is showing you a beautiful neighborhood with wonderful houses what does that mean what
are the actions that follow that is he going to put a down payment on that house said the two
of you can move in don't be fooled by just words now number two a man might think you're just like
other girls he might be eager for commitment very very quickly with you to make you a girlfriend he
might believe that you are an easy catch there are so many women out there that are so ready
to just instantly become girlfriend and oh I'm his girlfriend now girlfriend is a trap that you fall
into that's almost impossible to get out of so he might be thinking that you're gonna be a nice
girl and you are nice it's not that you're mean but you're not a pushover you're not a doormat
a lot of women will do whatever is uncomfortable and all the man has to do is pull away for a day
or two to have you right back in the palm of his hand again or if he does pull away he might be
watching to see if you go bat crazy to see how you respond to see if you really blow up his phone or
come knocking at his door so unfortunately guys kind of expect these behaviors from women and we
want to outsmart that man by instead accepting commitment when there's more than just being a
girlfriend on the table now I touched on this a little bit number one this is about keeping your
life rich and full so you're not laser focused on just this one man that's gonna give you all
of this happiness or outcome or dreams that he's selling you on you want to keep your options open
you want to keep your life rich and full with all of the things that you love to do in life now in
my programs I teach you how to day a man and never get over invested ever again but instead build
that strong connection also known as tying up his heart if you have a man that you already are very
fond of and you would like to see if you can't strengthen that a great program is the ABCs to get
him or ABCs to get him back if the two of you have broken up it's the same program but it teaches you
the same philosophy and also check out FEM tools it's one of my best dating classes and of course
my best-selling ebook 500 ways to talk to a man get the one that comes with the two-day video
courses so you can learn how to channel all this wonderful feminine energy that's going on inside
of you that men love you can learn how to speak it from your body so he hears it in his heart really
attaches to yours your boundaries allude to your status as a high quality woman meaning for example
if you sleep with a man quickly or on the first date he actually knows your boundaries are in the
ether somewhere in most cases this shifts your quality as a woman in his eyes he sees you as a
woman that's very easy to catch now in a perfect world we could sleep with whomever whenever and
it would mean nothing yet were animals and we put value on the things we cannot catch your
boundaries with sex paying for dates especially in early date and when you go on a date how often
you date all of your boundaries are wrapped up in your quality as a woman so your boundaries you see
which I talk about so much they really show a man your quality as a woman on a pedestal that you're
a woman that's not easily acquired you're not easily caught you're not giving out to him so
you're hoping to get in return from this man how do you find your boundaries how do you let this
man know what you're feeling in your body without scaring him away or spooking him easily so a lot
of men say well you have all these rules I can't date a woman with so many rules where there's a
big difference between rules and boundaries a boundary is how you feel inside your body and
when you can learn to speak what it is you feel inside your body in a way that's warm and it's an
invitation to the man the man is going to hear you there's some men out there that they'll hear your
boundary you don't want to have sex or you're not willing to pay for the third date or whatever it
may be and they might just totally pass on you let that man go let him go because he's not respecting
your boundaries he's not wanting a high quality woman he's wanting a woman he can control he's
wanting a woman who does things the way he will do them or want them done sometimes men test our
boundaries as a temporary test it doesn't mean that they're jerk or anything or that they're
looking for a woman who's a doormat they're just really trying to see how far they can push your
boundaries and get you to do this or that all men do it it doesn't mean he's a bad guy stand firm
on how you feel now in my book 500 ways to talk to a man I do talk about how to establish boundaries
how to find these within yourself and speak them to a man in a warm way that really ties up his
heart and pulls him to you much more closely these are three ways you can outsmart a man number one
his words mean nothing you're looking for actions so often I hear from clients they're like but he
said this and he said that and he said this other thing it doesn't mean anything we're looking for
actions okay we're looking for follow-through to those words number two if he thinks you're
like other girls and you're gonna be so eager to commit and so eager to be his girlfriend and
you're gonna go nuts and blow up his phone if he goes away for a day or two you're gonna be
showing him and outsmarting him that this is not your style this isn't how you operate as a woman
and then number three your boundaries are so important even when it comes to food you like
restaurants you want to eat at paying for dates sex all the big things all the little things your
boundaries are very important learn how to find what you're feeling in your body and speak it in
a way so that you have that clear boundary yet you're not really being a ballbuster or you're
having some sort of rule or things like this it's just how you feel a boundary is really just how
you feel about a situation and if a man doesn't respect your boundary and he wants to treat you
have it like a doormat that's just not you all right everyone please give this video a thumbs
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