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what are those ingredients that take you
from community to true belongings that's
the dose and so that's so that's so so i
talk about dose quite a bit in my book
and and not to get too scientific but we
have these four happy brain chemicals
right dopamine oxytocin serotonin and
endorphins and i love that abbreviation
by the way it makes it so easy to
remember
and the fact that no one has put that
together because it's like that because
dose you think of medicine and drugs you
can actually train your brain to release
your natural dose of dopamine oxygen
serotonin endorphins
if you actually have the intention
right to create experiences that inspire
that release so in other words at
daybreaker we actually design our
experiences to release your dose so
let's go into the dosc okay so let's
start with the dopamine the dopamine you
get from pleasure reward of waking up
early in the morning so you're hitting
your snooze button the dog mean russia
oh my gosh i'm waking up at 4am it's
dark outside i'm going to dance in the
morning before going to work that's the
dopamine rush don't be much you also get
to listen to music right music is a very
very big dopamine
release for you um oxytocin you get from
touch we are so
physically starved for affection
americans are the number one porn viewer
in the world
and yet we a famous study showed that
americans touch each other upwards of
once in a conversation compared to
mexicans who touch each other upwards of
180 times in the conversation
so so we are physically we're replacing
our our need for touch
with sex and pornography right so
oxytocins at daybreaker we're very very
focused on
really connecting human women why is it
that in american culture there is this
starvation for touch because we live in
a religious world as a really religious
country where it's still
it's still so forbidden and and versus
european culture where it's like free
love and you know so this country is
still very pious you know so
um and because of it we we we are hiding
still you know around around that um so
we replace um and and so so so in true
communities there's that safe space that
allows say people to get each other
and we're also very litigious in this
country too so literally i saw on the
news the other day an employer just went
like this to his employees like you know
like you'll get through it and she sued
him for touching his leg and he had to
and his whole career is down the train
and down the drain just just for
touching her leg like that so we live in
a deeply litigious world where
everyone's afraid to touch each other
now they don't know how to do it anymore
so daybreaker we have consensual hugs
the door
um your your rmc prompts you now how do
you create a consensual hug
is that just an understanding no we
actually because we we've had a lot of
discussions about this from different
community members who had dealt with
sexual trauma and they came to me and
they said hey here's how i want to be
hugged at the door at daybreaker
um
if you know right now when someone hugs
me and goes to hug me and i say no thank
you i don't want to hug
they feel really sad
right so instead of feeling really sad
and showing that which makes me feel bad
they can just high-five me and say good
job like way to know what you need your
boundaries
you know so stuff like that right so
so just thinking about those little kind
of notes that's a really good idea i
think we need to bring it to the
mindvalley community
with consensual sort of like touch and
hugs and um so then when you come in
we're hugging cultures yeah and not
everybody likes to be hugged that's
right right but i love the high five
yeah instead of because like i used to
be if someone didn't want to hug for me
i'd be like oh man like why not you know
right um but now i'm like hey
do you like you got this you know and it
really feels good let's go back there so
serotonin is being released when you
feel what a sense of worth and a sense
of gratitude and a sense of sort of
this is bigger than me
right the serotonin dump you get from
like whoa like i'm euphoric in this idea
that we are all one that we are all
community we're all in community
together
right and and our emcees we train across
the world to tell our community members
hey we're all in this together you know
like we have so many different sort of
one-liners that we train our community
our our emcees i love how deliberate and
scientific you are about this thank you
yeah and it's important because people
leave and they're like wow it just
it feels so good and then the final and
then the endorphins of course you get
from runners high they'll work out the
sweating from the dance from the dancing
you're burning upwards of you know four
five hundred thousand calories
you