- Are INFPs stupid?
What about INFJs, are they stupid too?
Because they're Feeler types, right?
They're not Thinkers.
The INTPs and the INTJs, they're the smart ones, right?
Today's video is inspired by a question I got, actually,
a long time ago and I wrote it down
and then just found it again, like, a year later.
Asking me, Frank, the MBTI system seems to indicate,
based on these preferences, thinking, feeling, intuition,
sensing that it's on a scale.
And if you're strong in one thing, like feeling,
you must be weak in the other thing, like thinking,
what's up with that?
Does that make INFPs and INFJs stupid?
Are they dumb?
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The heart of the question is, if you're strong in one thing
are you weak in the other?
And the answer is no, surprisingly.
Let me unpack that.
What people always get tripped up in
when it comes to their type in Meyers-Briggs
and this also leads them to be like,
oh I don't know what type I am.
Am I a hybrid, I think I'm INFJ and I think I'm INTJ?
I'm one one day, I'm the other the next.
The thing is, everyone does everything.
That's what everyone gets tripped up by.
Everyone's a Thinker, everyone's a Feeler.
I'm a what?
You might be saying.
I thought I was a Feeler and so I don't do logic, man.
Okay, I'm an INFP, I'm an INFJ,
I'm an ESFJ, feeling's my thing.
It's my jam, thinking not so much.
But here's an important thing
that we all need to hammer into our brains,
is that your type indicates a preference
it does not indicate an ability or a skill.
I mean, by that same token, Feelers aren't necessarily
going to be warm and always know what to do emotionally,
socially in every situation.
The type just indicates the preference for making decisions
with that function, or making observations,
if we're talking about intuition and sensing.
You have to be able to do everything,
you have to be able to do thinking and feeling,
intuition and sensing.
It would be impossible for you
to just do one and never the other.
So, since we do both what type is indicating,
what your type, INFJ, ESTP, whatever,
what it's indicating is, over time at scale,
what do you prefer to do more often than not?
How do you prefer to make decisions, is it feeling, okay.
You're a feeling type, even though,
you sometimes do thinking.
Maybe you do it a lot.
Maybe it's 49% of the time but when we zoom out
we can see, oh, more often you prefer feeling.
And by preference, what we're really looking for, also,
is when the chips are down,
what do you feel most comfortable with going all in on?
Is it the feeling?
Is it the thinking?
Is it the intuition?
Is it the sensing?
Because it's easy to be balanced when the pressure is low,
when the stakes are low.
But when the stakes is high, what do you go with?
That's a good indication.
A lot of it also comes down to, what do you think
you are responsible for?
Is it for making decisions based on values, aka feeling?
Or is it making decisions based on logic, aka thinking?
On the flip side of that, you can look for
your not preferred function by seeing,
what do I not feel responsible for?
And I think everyone else should take care of it for me.
So, you might not consciously realize this but a Feeler
might be, I can do the logic but I'm not responsible
for making decisions with logic,
you guys can figure that out, okay?
You do the logic and I'll do the feeling, okay?
And, hopefully, it'll all balance out.
Depending on what type you are, INFJ or INFP, so on
and so forth, whether you have introverted or extroverted
feeling, the thinking function
that you are giving responsibility to other people
is gonna manifest itself in slightly different ways.
But that's a bit beyond the scope of this video.
Maybe, one day, I'll get more into that.
I see people, a lot of times, where, oh sometimes
I'm a J type, sometimes I'm a P,
it changes from day-to-day.
It changes from month-to-month.
It's like, yeah, you in your day-to-day life may change.
One day you might be a Thinker,
one day you might be a Feeler,
one day you might be a Sensor,
one day you might be an Intuitive
but your type is not changing from day-to-day
because your type is not moment-to-moment.
Your type is zoomed out looking at these moments together
to see what you prefer, more often than not,
what you feel responsible and it's not looking at what you
are stronger at or what you are weaker at.
That can be a bit difficult to internalize
because it's a lot more nuanced.
Personality type is a lot more nuanced
than the four letters seem to indicate.
So are the Feelers dumb?
Man, are INFPs dumb?
No, not necessarily, at least because preference
doesn't indicate strength or skill
and the opposite of your preference is not necessarily weak.
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