(00:11): [inaudible]
(00:11): I'm wondering why an awakened person in this
incarnation would choose an unawakened partner. Could there be a contract for some reason?
Okay. So first let's get one thing out of the way. And
the thing to get out of the way is about soul contracts. Okay. Because I can feel
in this question, I can feel that the person who submitted this question, um, the, that she's
a little bit stuck in the whole soul contract thing. All right. So let's get this out of the way
soul contracts do exist. Um, and soul contracts are contracts that you make with other souls
prior to incarnating here. But a soul contract is in no way, something that, that keeps you stuck.
It's something that it's not something that has to be permanent. A soul contract can be easily
dissolved. All right. So let's kind of clean up the energy around soul contracts right away.
(01:06): Cause I could feel
there's some stickiness around this question with the idea of soul contracts. Okay. So
soul contracts, they can be in place. They can be established before we come into this lifetime,
but they're easily, you can dissolve, dissolve them easily. All right. You can break them
easily and kind of, you know, finish the contract very easily. Okay. So the issue here, the primary
issue here when a partner is awakened and one partner is unawakened, it's really not about soul
contracts. It's about resonance. Believe it or not. Okay. So a lot of times what happens is, um,
the, the person who is unawakened and I feel like I want to leave this note here because sometimes
there's a little bit of, um, kind of a judgment on people who are unawakened. So I want to also clear
if there's any kind of energy of judgment. (01:55):
Let's clear that up right away too. Okay. Because an unawakened person is just a tiny little step
away from awakening from waking up just like the rest of us were at one point, right? Like we were
unawakened and then something happened and we woke up every unawakened person is in the
same position that we were at in at some point. Okay. So everybody has the capacity to wake up.
All right. So a lot of times when, when, um, when people look at unawakened, when spiritually
awakened people look at unawakened people, they often look at them with kind of the judgment that
they're never going to change. And, and that really is something that, that is not helpful
at all. And it's not compassionate. So when we look at unawakened people, they are just like,
everybody else, their value is not inferior and they have the capacity to wake up at any,
any moment like we did. (02:47):
So that's out of the way also, but now let's go into the compatibility
issue. That's going on between awakened partner and unawakened partner. There could be a couple
of things going on here. The first thing that a lot of times it's very frequent
for, uh, when people get together one part, yeah. Narcan awaken before another. And because they're,
they're kind of serving as their teacher or, or as what's known as a way Shoar. So it's very,
very common that in couples, one person will awaken and they'll kind of drag the other person
or help. Um, they'll help trigger the awakening in the other person. And then finally they kind of
balance a balance things out eventually. So that's one scenario. One scenario is that this person
could possibly be with an unawakened partner, but that could just be a temporary thing because the
other partner may be awakening at some point. (03:41):
Okay. So that's one scenario. That's possible another scenario that's also possible. And that
a lot of times awakened people don't like to confront. It's the idea that if I am with an
unawakened partner, let me give it another name instead of saying awakened and unawakened,
let's give it another name. Let's just say that I am with a partner in which I am in.
There are deep incompatibilities. Okay. There are deep incompatibilities with,
with the couple, with the two partners. Okay. If this happens, now I have to start asking
deeper questions. It's not about one person being awakened in the other one, not being awakened.
It's really about me as an awakened person. Why am I staying in this connection with this person?
If there are deep incompatibilities. And a lot of times the answer to this question is that the
awakened person often the ego of the awakened person thinks that they've done all this work
and that it's on the other partner to do the work because they're the ones that are unawakened.
(04:40): And often they're missing the fact that
they themselves have deep inner work to do. In a lot of times, the unawakened partner is the least
of their problems. So a lot of times what happens is people who are on an awakening journey can stay
for a really long time in unhealthy connections and connections that no longer serve them because
they haven't done the inner work to come into their power, really step into their power,
stand on their own two feet, be autonomous being sovereign beings who then can make decisions,
whether they want to stay in a relationship or not. Okay. And I've encountered this a lot with
clients and I've worked a lot with clients on this issue. This is very common. So for this person and
for anybody who's watching this video who finds themselves being in a relationship with someone
who is unawakened flip the terms around and just say, I'm in a relationship with someone where
maybe there are deep incompatibilities, and now I have to start thinking, why am I in a relationship
with someone I have deepened compatibilities with, if I'm unhappy, why am I in a relationship with
someone that I'm unhappy with? (05:47):
You see, you have to start asking these deep questions. And a lot of times what,
what people find is that they haven't done as much work as they think they have,
because they're allowing these sort of toxic connections. Now, if the connection is not
toxic and your partner is simply unawakened, but you still have a great connection together, then
there's no problem. Really whether the person is awakened or unawakened the issue here, I think is
for, for you to assess whether being in connection with an unawakened person, if that brings you joy,
if you feel fulfillment, if you feel deep connection with this person, because at the end
of the day, it doesn't matter if they're awakened or unawakened. If you have a deeply fulfilling
connection with that person, then all as well. But for, for you, for you to be submitting this
question, that's probably not the case. (06:34):
So then I would go in and I would start asking these really deep questions. I'll, I'll repeat the
questions again. If I have deep incompatibilities with my partner, why am I with my partner?
If I'm tremendously unhappy in this relationship, why am I in this relationship? And a lot of times
the answer to these questions are going to be that the person has inner work to do with sovereignty,
standing in my power, knowing how to stand on my own two feet and make decisions,
being able to walk away from this partnership, if I have to. So that whether the person is awakened
during awakened, I think that's secondary. Okay. So I hope this helps, uh, and, uh,
yeah, with the soul contracts, for sure. A lot of times what happens is when we're not
ready to take that step and kind of dissolve connections that are no longer serving us.
(07:25): A lot of times,
that's where the soul contract conversation comes in. Because a lot of times people actually
use the whole soul contract thing as an excuse to stay in connections. All right. So I wanted
to clear that up, uh, soul contracts don't even come into this conversation. Don't need to come
into this conversation. All right. So if there are deep incompatibilities with the partner that
is unawakened, then there are deeper questions that have to be answered about you and whether
you're standing in your sovereignty. And if you are standing in your sovereignty, maybe your
partner just needs a little bit more time to catch up and to wake up themselves hope this helps
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