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- Hi, it's Ben Angel here,
the author of the upcoming book,
The Identity Gap - A 90 Day Mission to Become Unstoppable,
in which I'm trailing the latest in nootropics,
wearable devices, and therapy techniques
to reach my goals even sooner,
which brings me to an important question
that I've had to ask myself in the last 90 days,
which is, how do you keep going,
even when you feel like giving up on your goals?
There's two parts to this.
The first part is, first of all, why do you give up?
And the second part is, what do you do about it?
Well let's explore the first part.
When it comes to reaching your goal,
we need to evolve into a person who can attain that goal.
Otherwise, if you were that person already,
you would've already reached your goal.
Makes sense, right?
I call this the identity gap.
So it's the gap from who you are to who you need to become
to attain that vision.
The steps that we take to close that gap
are really quite simple.
The first one is, create some high stakes for yourself.
Now, we put a stake in the ground
but we make it a public declaration.
Tell your friends, tell your family, post on social media.
If you're in business, send out something to your email list
that you're going to be launching a new product.
And hell, even take pre-orders,
if you really want to put your ass on the line
and get yourself into gear.
Now, I know a lot of you hate embarrassment,
but you also hate failing.
So there's nothing worse than failing, especially publicly,
in which your credibility could be ruined.
So you have this visceral support around you
that is pushing you along in the attainment of your goal.
So even if you have that self-doubt creep in,
there's that other voice in the back of your head saying,
all of these people are waiting on you
to actually make this goal come to life.
If you just set the goal just for yourself
and you don't tell anyone else about it,
then who is going to keep you accountable
at the end of the day?
On those days that you feel weak, you feel tired,
and you've got that brain fog thing happening,
they're the days that you're most likely to quit,
and you're also most likely
to get in that obsessive thought pattern,
where you start thinking, oh this is too hard,
and then that triggers off another thought, saying,
I haven't got time to do this, or I'm too tired,
I just haven't got energy, I've got too much on my plate.
So it starts triggering off a tangent of thoughts
that can get out of control very quickly.
Step number two, what's in your toolkit
for when you feel like quitting?
I want you to ask yourself that now.
Literally, what is in your toolkit of resources
that you open up, go, I feel like quitting today,
alright, I feel like quitting,
then I'm gonna do this technique,
this technique, I'm gonna do this.
Because if you don't have that toolkit accessible to you,
and I want you to visually picture it right now,
then it's quite easy to go, well,
I've got no other option but to give up.
Whereas if you have other tools and resources
that you can access when you feel like quitting,
then it makes your life a lot easier.
And that's your default,
when you're not feeling so great about the project at hand.
And one of the keys in my toolkit is,
the first step in particular,
is to look at my own biochemistry.
Am I low on serotonin, are my dopamine levels low?
Now, obviously, you can't test for that very easily anyway,
but you can ask yourself some key questions,
am I experiencing brain fog right now,
am I experiencing depression, sadness,
am I having trouble focusing,
am I procrastinating more than usual?
Then these could be some key signs
that you're low on either serotonin or dopamine.
Be sure to catch my last video,
how to get out of your comfort zone,
for some different techniques that you can do
to boost those levels, which also takes the biochemistry
out of the mix of achieving your goals.
As I mentioned in the last video,
is that, if we're experiencing those feelings
of procrastination and brain fog,
it's very easy for us to attach it
and to assign those emotions to the goal that we're after.
So instead of separating it out,
we look at our goal, and look at it and go,
this is causing me to be depressed, sad, angry, frustrated,
I gotta quit this thing.
And when you think about it,
you can understand now why so many people quit.
It may not be the goal itself,
it could be their biochemistry that is the underlying issue.
Number three, a technique which is popular
in certain circles,
which doesn't really get discussed publicly a lot,
is tapping, otherwise known as EFT,
the emotional freedom technique.
This particular technique focuses on
the same specific phrases
whilst tapping specific meridians around the body,
whilst you're saying those phrases.
This is one of those go-to strategies
that even war veterans, who are suffering with PTSD, use.
And it's a specific technique
that I believe not enough people know about,
that can shift those real heavy emotions
that you just sometimes have struggle shifting,
that we all experience from time to time.
And when we're after a big goal,
we're obviously gonna go through that hero's journey,
where we get to a point in which
we face a significant challenge.
And we either make a decision to keep going or to turn back.
And this is one of those techniques
that I will always use and refer to in my toolkit,
when I get to that critical point.
The great thing with EFT and tapping is,
you can Youtube videos on it,
and you can do it based on the Youtube video
and the result is incredible.
To wrap up, here's what you've gotta do,
to stick to your goals.
Step one, create high stakes with a public declaration.
Step two, check your own biochemistry,
and become self-aware if you're tired, if you're fatigued,
maybe it's a dietary issue.
Maybe it's another issue, maybe it isn't the goal itself.
And step number three, have an incredible resource,
a tool like tapping, in your toolkit,
for you to access when you need it the most.
Now, to help you become unstoppable in 2018,
I've got an awesome surprise for you.
To celebrate the upcoming release, later in this year,
of my book, The Identity Gap,
I'm giving away to 10 winners
over $14,000 worth of online courses
on how to do online marketing.
That's everything from video marketing,
Facebook advertising, social media,
Twitter, the whole lot, even publicity.
To enter the competition and to help shape The Identity Gap,
head over to the theidentitygap.co
and answer a quick 60 second quiz.
The winners will be drawn on the 30th of January, 2018,
so there's still time to enter.
Be sure to head over there now,
as well as hit subscribe, hit like,
and please, leave me a comment.
What goal do you have in mind for 2018?
Can't wait to hear what it is.
Take care and I'll catch you soon.
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