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I’m glad you brought that up.
I think we need to touch on that.
This whole idea of where you could have done
things better,
you could have handled things differently.
That’s always the case.
Personal accountability is
healthy.
Beating yourself up over mistakes
unhealthy, all right?
That’s where you have to find the balance here.
I’m glad
that you can look at a situation and say,
“Dang, I could have done this better.”
I could have done that better
That’s awesome.
That’s how you learn and grow,
and you start to apply that wisdom
to your next situation,
but what you’re doing is,
you’re looking at your mistakes,
you’re beating yourself up,
you’re feeling bad,
and then you’re feeding this idea
of you not being good enough.
You being a failure, you being a hypocrite.
Which also with the hypocrite thing--
and I could be wrong here,
so I’m going to put that disclaimer out real quick.
In my eyes
being a hypocrite isn’t
simply
I’m saying this, that, and but I end up
messing up and doing this.
No.
What makes you hypocrite is when you say,
“Okay, this is the way things should be done.”
Then you’re living this other life
contrary to what you’re preaching
and you’re trying to validate
that other life.
That’s not slipping no more.
That’s not a mistake.
That’s you trying to live two lives
and present one thing but do something different.
That’s hypocrisy
to me,
but for you,
I don’t see hypocrite.
I see a human being that’s struggling.
That’s very different.
When we can look at what we did wrong
and we can acknowledge it as wrong,
but yes, we may still have a struggle with this.
For example,
you mentioned addiction.
I’m not going to ask what it was specifically.
If you were doing it and you were struggling with it,
but you were constantly acknowledging
you don’t need to be doing this.
This isn’t best for you
then that’s not an example of hypocrisy to me.
I think putting that label on yourself
is a little unfair,
but yes,
the minute you start trying to validate
unhealthy actions
while you’re busy telling people the opposite of what
they should be doing
or opposite of what you’re doing.
Then yes,
that is when you’re being a hypocrite.
Again, even if you catch yourself
in a moment of hypocrisy,
it isn’t beat yourself up about it
and dwell on it.
It’s okay.
Stop being a hypocrite.
Make some changes and move forward
but don’t confuse struggle with hypocrisy.
That’s two different things.
We’re going to all have struggles,man.
I don’t know of any person--
I don’t care how godly they are,
who doesn’t struggle with something.
You got to get to a place of not beating yourself up
and again, I think
looking at your
mistakes and your struggles
as part of the human process.
As part of what we all go through
at some point of our lives
and really continue to go through
for many of us, depending on what the situation is.
The only way to break free from
all of this
that has held you back
and weighed on you
is you got a heal.
You got a heal and you’ve got to forgive.
You’ve got to forgive.
You’ve got to forgive the people who
you felt turned their back on you.
You got to resolve this with your father,
forgive him, and you've got to resolve this with God.
It seems like there’s probably more than those three
that we can add to the list.
Probably one other.
That's why I said it's not a woman.
Now, that I think of .
Okay.
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I know it seems like a lot
Yes.
and it’s very overwhelming
trying to get all this stuff out.
It’s going to take a lot of you,
but it’s necessary.
It’s going to be the best thing you could have
ever possibly done for yourself,
and it’s going to be so much
easier to look at these things differently
once you start to release
these things from your system.
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